Ladies, small or large chest? (implants, hair, clothing, fashion)

[Oobie119]

Im writing because I am contemplating a breast reduction. I am a size 8, and have a very large D chest. Im also a bit broad on top, and have very thin legs. I hate being stared at because I am so out of proportion, I hate guys of all ages gawking, I hate feeling self conscious about what I wear since most clothes don't fit me right. I want to be able to wear cute sexy tops and not have to tug on a strapless bra that doesnt stay up. Everything I like that I try on, wont even fit over my chest. Im in my 30's and married with our final child..My question is: How small is too small? How comfortable are you with your small or large chest. Im trying to get an idea of what size would be ideal, Im thinking a small B cup..Please share your thoughts and experiences

[115db]

I think they should offer special rates to those who need implants and use the 'donations' that someone else gave, instead of those saline 'bags'....then give great rates to those who do reductions and offer to donate to the needy. Some of us are just as self-concious because we have to wear padding and underwires to fill in.

[younglisa7]

I am also a size 8, with a broad build up top, but fuller hips and legs. I am a size A. I am fine with that but for "my" body to be better proportioned I think I should be a size B.

I can understand not wanting to be gawked at. Men can be such morons. I think for you body and frame a full size B would work well. Then you can wear all the cute little tops you want.

How does your husband feel? I know it really shouldn't matter b/c it's your body but this will also be a big change for him. If it is a problem for him maybe you could compromise and go for a smaller C. My husband loves me the way I am, and even though I can't fill out some of those cute little tops, he would hate it if I went bigger.

Good luck. And also a word of caution. Before you go through with this make sure you get references from the Doctor and talk to and possibly meet other women that have had this procedure. It would be awful to go through this and get a botched job or one you are unhappy with.

Lisa

[mbuszu]

Originally Posted by Oobie119

Im writing because I am contemplating a breast reduction. I am a size 8, and have a very large D chest. Im also a bit broad on top, and have very thin legs. I hate being stared at because I am so out of proportion, I hate guys of all ages gawking, I hate feeling self conscious about what I wear since most clothes don't fit me right. I want to be able to wear cute sexy tops and not have to tug on a strapless bra that doesnt stay up. Everything I like that I try on, wont even fit over my chest. Im in my 30's and married with our final child..My question is: How small is too small? How comfortable are you with your small or large chest. Im trying to get an idea of what size would be ideal, Im thinking a small B cup..Please share your thoughts and experiences

Well as I guy, I'll weigh in. If your chest is hurting your back or posture in any way, I encourage you getting a breast reduction. It's not about being self-conscious in that situation, it is instead about your health. If your chest isn't currently hurting your back or posture, but it continues to get larger as you age (perhaps that's just where your body stores its fat - that happens for some folks), then you can consider it as a way to maintain your health proactively.

If this is really just about you feeling self-conscious and inconvenienced by your breasts then really dig deep inside regarding why you're so concerned about this. You may still want the surgery, and that's valid. Please just do some research ahead of time and talk with people who have had it done if you decide to go that route... like any plastic surgery there are risks and the more knowledge you have ahead of time the better off you'll be.

I know 2 people who had it done (friends of mine), and both were extremely pleased with the results. It helped their lifestyle and had significant health benefits. From an aesthetic point of view both women look great today (one is quite a bit older and she looks awesome for her age, the other is in her 30s), and both decided to get reduction to a size B which in the end they felt good about. As a man, I don't care about breast size, A, B, C, D none of that matters as much as the overall package including the woman's health, personality and confidence level. My concern if I was a woman doing this surgery is to ensure enough is taken-out so that I don't end up wanting the surgery again in the future (if you optimally want a C I'd be really tempted to advice a B as you can always wear a padded or push-up bra later on). I think once a lifetime for something like this is plenty enough discomfort for anyone - this surgery is expensive and has risks, and it involves a few weeks of "discomfort". But that's just me, and like I said, I'm not a woman.

Good luck and best wishes with whatever you decide.

[One Thousand]

Originally Posted by Oobie119

Im writing because I am contemplating a breast reduction. I am a size 8, and have a very large D chest. Im also a bit broad on top, and have very thin legs. I hate being stared at because I am so out of proportion, I hate guys of all ages gawking, I hate feeling self conscious about what I wear since most clothes don't fit me right. I want to be able to wear cute sexy tops and not have to tug on a strapless bra that doesnt stay up. Everything I like that I try on, wont even fit over my chest. Im in my 30's and married with our final child..My question is: How small is too small? How comfortable are you with your small or large chest. Im trying to get an idea of what size would be ideal, Im thinking a small B cup..Please share your thoughts and experiences

If you don't mind a manpinion, there are less radical avenues you can try before subjecting yourself to that.

A bra made to support, yet spread you across width will soften the lines that attract so much attention. Wearing skirts that are eased or with elastic waist band will soften symmetry issue. Further, if you prefer a fitted skirt, they can be made with a lining that will act as a padding... same thing with pants. Consider searching for a dressmaker with a good sense of style suited to you. (The clothing shouldn't be significantly more expensive than quality ready-to-wear.)

Every era favors a different body type. Small chests are what's in for women. For men, the clothing industry of the 70's was the heyday for larger boned, masculine looking guys. Today, it favors guys 5'8". Do women like men 5'8"?... Not if they can get the same guy in a 6' model. Don't try to fit the fashion ideals of gay men... They don't like full breasts... but straight men do.

Today's women's clothing is unsophisticated. Not in the sense that people who buy it are stupid, but in the sense that there are rules (or guidelines) to clothing to provoke responses or effect the perception of others about you but today's clothing has abandoned them because showing your cleavage, stretching a slightly too-small knit across them or having writing across the back of your sweats is so much simpler. It doesn't make sense.

You look at a Katherine Hepburn who was skinny as a rail with nothing of sexuality to present on her body and the cuts of her outfits are so well-suited to provoke that all a man knows is that he wants her... because the lines are sophisticated and speak to man's instincts: She had to-- she had nothing base to flaunt.

It's not you. It's the manufacturers. You can look great-- Clothes can not only be cute on you, but have a subtle yet powerful sexiness that seems unexplainable... or, if you want, the lines can be made so you blend into a wall and don't have to worry about receiving unwanted attention, yet feel very happy with yourself when you do get attention.


Well, hopefully that makes sense...


P.S. For what it's worth, I'm more familiar with fashion and fashion history than relatively young straight guy should be because I was frustrated with how bad I'd look in one thing but good in another. So, I started to research... and ended up making my own clothes because I couldn't find the right stuff for me.

[Mathguy]

I would get your husbands opinion on this topic. (and get an honest response out of him... :-) )

My wife was busty and I would not have liked her to have gone too small. (If for medical reasons then that would change everything)

As for guys staring, hmmm....well thats just in their nature. I know girls that get stared at for just being really good looking, striking eyes, hair....a variety of reasons. Would this solve the issue for you?

Best of luck with your decision.

[Oobie119]

Yes, Ive talked to my DH and he is okay with it.. he knows the frustrations I go through with clothing and trust me, he notices when guys notice. Im not talking just normal guys either, old creepy perverts, guys with their wives, young horny teenagers.. I mean Geeez. He's a bit insecure too, so this may be good for him too. I have been doing alot of research, all advice is great..

DOES ANYONE KNOW IF THEY WILL GET LARGER AGAIN IF I GAIN WEIGHT???

ANYONE have experience with Lipo verses traditional reductions? Im leaning towards lipo, it seems to b the good choice for me, plus it helps that its cheaper..

[Tressa]

With lipo won't you be flabby instead of tight reduction, you hear of so many gals complain about the sagging and flabby.

[bradandbrit]

Well, let me first say that that I think "One Thousand" guy was a little too opinionated. I don't think he really read what you wrote. I think a B sounds perfect for you. You have every right to walk around a store, mall, street and feel great inside and out! If your back doesn't hurt now, it might in the future. They also may get more saggy with time where if you get a reduction, you can have a lift and they will be perkier. I say skip the lipo, it might work out better in the long run to do the reduction.

I had a friend get a reduction (before having children) and after two children she hasn't gained any more weight in the chest. She's very comfortable.

I'm small chested and I love my size. I can run around after my toddler or take an exercise class and not worry about my breasts flopping around. You can find plenty of beauiful bras too. If you really want the surgery and think about it often, I say go for it. You deserve whatever makes you feel great!

Good luck!

[cb at sea]

You need to do what will make you feel healthy and happy. I'm small-breasted (B-cup), and while there are times I wish I had a bit more, overall, I like my little breasts! No sagging (gravity doesn't pull on small things the way they do on larger things!!!) and I can wear pretty much anything I want! And for some reason, I still get looked at all the time!
Being large breasted can really add lbs. to the way you look and how your weight is perceived.