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If you are showing any clevage whatsoever, then it's inappropriate attire in the workplace. A modifed scoop neck blouse or shirt will fit the bill.
I agree with that, however, since shoulder padded shirts and clothing went out of fashion, it has become much more difficult for women with narrow shoulders to find ANY top besides a turtleneck that won't eventually slip down and expose a crack (if I may be so explicit). Sorry Lord!
And if you do happen to buy a pair of pads at a fabric store, they usually don't fit the shoulder shape in the article of clothing you are trying to put them in, and you end up looking ridiculous!! Believe me, I know!!
P.S. And I clearly don't "measure up" (DD's) to Oobie's boobies either! This is a problem for the itty bitties also!! LOL!! (Just some comic relief folks. Sorry again, Lord, and sorry Oobie!! No disrespect intended).
Have you heard of the show "What not to Wear"? The British version is even better than the American one. Two women are the hosts; one is tall, thin, with no curves, and the other has more of an hourglass figure with a bigger chest. Go to their website and it gives GREAT suggestions for what to wear if you're larger chested. And no, the woman with the large chest is not plus-sized.
Have you been professionally fitted for a bra? Department stores and lingerie boutiques are very good at bra fitting.
You are obviously making a good effort to dress professionally. I would feel very frustrated if I were you. Don't hesitate to speak to a higher up about your situation. Start documenting the times when things were said to you in front of others. Be very clear that any comments made about dress should be done in private and you need specific details about what is wrong or you will file a formal sexual harassment complaint. I don't mean to bring you more worries but if you ever get pregnant (if you don't have children already) those girls will take a life of their own. Best to nip your co-workers' behavior in the bud right now.
I don't know about you but I look awful in a dress or something with a belt. The whole top thing becomes much more acentuated and even matronly looking.
Most of the time I will wear a light jacket over whatever I've got on. This seems to balance things out without pointing them out. I also like twin sets, which are knit sleeveless tank tops with a matching light weight sweater over. I don't see how you could get complaints with either of these options.
I don't think you mentioned your height, but would buying in the petite section help? I'm a bit on the short side and find that if I buy regular sized v or scoop necks, they show too much cleavage for a work setting (I also belong to the DD club).
However, if you feel that what you are wearing is appropriate and you aren't displaying too much cleavage, I would address it with the administration instead of buying a new wardrobe.
As long as you are not exposing a lot of cleavage or your shirts are not too tight - I would write down details about the remarks and keep records because you might have to sue down the line.
Those ugly women you work with are just plain jealous!
Years back I had a friend who was big chested. She was also a discrete person and did not like to show cleavage. Top were often, for her, either matronly or hookerish.
She got sore shoulders from carrying all that weight. Her bras, professionally fit, were also not comfortable. Her back was often sore at day's end. She tended to walk stoop shouldered because of it.
A doctor told her that, with the misery they were obviously causing in her life, he could recommend a bust reduction and her insurance would pay for it. I never knew if she did this or not.
She was a quiet, religious person and it was hard for her to see a positive side to her situation.
I remember when I was a kid. l used to climb trees and was a regular tomboy. It was such an encumbrance to have breasts. I kind of thought them useless appendages, and I grew into a scant 34B.
Years back I had a friend who was big chested. She was also a discrete person and did not like to show cleavage. Top were often, for her, either matronly or hookerish.
She got sore shoulders from carrying all that weight. Her bras, professionally fit, were also not comfortable. Her back was often sore at day's end. She tended to walk stoop shouldered because of it.
A doctor told her that, with the misery they were obviously causing in her life, he could recommend a bust reduction and her insurance would pay for it. I never knew if she did this or not.
She was a quiet, religious person and it was hard for her to see a positive side to her situation.
I remember when I was a kid. l used to climb trees and was a regular tomboy. It was such an encumbrance to have breasts. I kind of thought them useless appendages, and I grew into a scant 34B.
34B scant? Maybe in clothing!!!! P.S. I'm a happily married female!
I'm sorry but I beg to differ.Yeah Im a guy who preferes endowed women,so I may be biased.
I was talking about my observations of my own body as a growing kid. The main purpose of boobs is not sexual. It is feeding babies. I really do not care what your opinion is of my boobs, as I presume you don't care what my opinion is about your body parts.
34B scant? Maybe in clothing!!!! P.S. I'm a happily married female!
Well, scant, considering what the topic is here.
Sometimes more is not better.
Each of us has his own tolerance points of what might be crossing the line, but for each of us there is a point at which something attractive can be overdone and enter the land of the grotesque and perhaps unhealthy.
Body types are different(stupid statement on my part).
My husband and I used to bicycle. People who take this seriously and do it often seem to have 2 main bodily reactions: some will develop chunky leg muscles from all that peddling, and others seem to get lithe and streamlined. I wish I were the second type!
So, I guess what I am saying is that some frames can carry those extra appendages comfortably, and for others, that same bra size is an encumbrance.
I think Dolly Parton is a petite lady and - just my reaction - she just looks uncomfortable to me.
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And if you do happen to buy a pair of pads at a fabric store, they usually don't fit the shoulder shape in the article of clothing you are trying to put them in, and you end up looking ridiculous!!
Believe me, I know!!
P.S. I'm a happily married female!
