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Old 04-07-2010, 08:31 PM
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Tell her it is ok. There are lots of labialovers out there like me who enjoy the extra meat!
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Old 04-07-2010, 10:52 PM
 
Location: NM south central mountains
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Just a second thought. This chica has problems beyond her labia. Don't you think it is a little strange for her to ask for second attitudes about her labia? Good grief, why not just post a picture on the net and then we could all evaluate. I think the OP got suckered. Now on the medical side, she needs to see a good GYN that can evaluate her hormone levels etc and give a good evaluation. Don't need to go in to the medical side. But to the OP, I think you were played . She is really stupid or you and girlfriend are really simple.
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Old 04-08-2010, 06:39 AM
 
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I dont beleive any of it.think the OP just wanted to discuss parts of a vagina, like his other thread. And he got his wish
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Old 04-08-2010, 09:16 AM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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Maybe it would help her to keep her lollie covered for a time until a man really gets to know her as a person? Maybe she is a little too eager to take her clothes off.
^^^ I agree. This was my first reaction to reading this thread. She needs to stop jumping into bed so quickly with her dates. She needs to rethink her dating strategy and start developing a real relationship with her dates before having sex with them. If they really liked her as a person, they wouldn't be so focused on picking apart her body and looking for flaws. If they don't like the way she looks down there, they also don't like her company, and criticizing her labia is just a cruel way to give her a reason for not continuing to date her.

When looking for a boyfriend, too many women only promote themselves as sex objects. And they shouldn't be surprised at attracting jerks who only want perfect 10 hotties and sex. Good romantic relationships are much more than torrid sexual romps.

And I also agree that she should go through with the surgery as she'll only find something else on her body to blame for her dating problems.
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Old 04-08-2010, 01:12 PM
 
Location: John & Ken-ville
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Cosmetic surgery is supposed to make the person feel better about themself after having it.

If she thinks she will feel better after having it, even after knowing all the complications and problems that could result from any surgery such as permanent numbness, then she should do it.
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Old 04-08-2010, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Miami
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I dont beleive any of it.think the OP just wanted to discuss parts of a vagina, like his other thread. And he got his wish
You're right in that I love the vagina. I appreciate it so much to the point that my girlfriend feels totally comfortable about asking my opinion about that part of the body, cause she knows I have no hangups over it, and that I pay so much loving attenton to it.

Furthermore, I don't need c-d to discuss the vagina, I have my girlfriend for that. There are also plenty of books about it. If I wanted to really discuss the vagina on c-d, I would have started at least a million threads by now. I bet I could even teach a class on it, and do a good job.

The truth is, I was never supposed to know about this girl's problem, cause my girlfriend was supposed to keep it a secret. I found out, and I immediately was against labiaplasty based on PRINCIPLE. The girl assured me that her labia were unnaturally developed due to an excess of hormones she received as a child (complicated story). I'm like, maybe so, but that doesn't mean that they are ugly. I told her straight-up that I'd need to see them to make an opinion. She responded that 2 guys she had been seeing split up with her because of it. I'm like WTF, you are beautiful, thin, and sexy, how could that be? Her answer: deductive reasoning. Cause she's so sexy, what else could it be? Anyways, it went on and on, and the very next day she sent me the photo, to which I responded, it's totally beautiful, no need for surgery. She says that they are ugly and disgusting. My girlfriend is a psychologist, and I learn a lot from her - so I'm like this woman has body image issues, it's all within her. Maybe the guys hated her labia, but as far as I am concerned, most guys have no problem whatsoever with larger than average labia, so she's probably mistaken, and the guys had other issues. Plus, she is so scared to let any guy touch her down there, cause she thinks it's so ugly.

She showed my girlfriend her labia a while back, and at first she agreed with the friend to have them cut off/reduced, but then I EDUCATED her about it, and now she is telling her no. Still, she makes an argument that PERHAPS even if her low opinion is based on irrational low self-esteem and low body image acceptance - if that will make her happy than she should do it. I'm like ... hmmm... what does c-d have to say about it. They were so responsive with my previous thread on vaginas (shaving trends, etc). I spoke to the doctor, and he told me to stop confusing her, and he says I am sabotaging his business.

So, "no" to the poster that says I "got played" by the girl. I don't see how that could be. On the contrary, this is a real problem, with real people, who are concerned about body perception - all very normal issues. I'm sure this girl is not the only woman out there who has thought her labia were ugly.
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Old 04-08-2010, 05:32 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I'd mention that to a man the important part is about an inch inward from the labia. But women are strange about their bodies, so if it would make her more comfortable with herself (and able to enjoy sex) then go ahead.
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Old 12-14-2014, 02:48 AM
 
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I've been reading about this subject on other sites, and there was some blame cast on the porn industry for making women feel insecure about roast beef...but decades ago, I remember peaking into men's dirty mags and there were plenty pictures of sloppy stuff all pulled out every which way in there. I also saw some fetish mag that had women named Belinda Butterfly and Betty Batwings, and you could only imagine how they looked naked in there. The stuff in X-rated movies didn't always look too neat and tidy either.

Also, when I used to be a stripper, the most popular one at one of the all nude places was this young skinny flat-chested woman who had it all shaved off, but her insides hung outside and were pierced *ouch*. I found that all really unappealing, but she got the most tips up on stage, so she was probably laughing all the way to the bank.

So I guess the more contemporary porn is what they're blaming. Not the old stuff I recall. Nowadays, I read stuff on the internet where men post comments like, "I'm thinking Arby's". So, maybe tastes change, or something too.
I personally blame the popularity of Brazilian waxing. If there's hair over the vulva, the labia aren't as visible, so someone with prominent ones wouldn't have as much of a complex about it unless they cause a discomfort.

I also think that if a woman's feeling insecure about her feminity, instead of comparing her cootch to something in men's mags, she should play for her own team a few times or so to comare with average women in real life to get a better idea of whether she's normal down there.

BTW, wouldn't it really hurt to take a pee during recovery from a labiaplasty?

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Old 12-14-2014, 08:40 AM
 
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Send her my way.
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Old 12-14-2014, 08:45 AM
 
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this thread is over 4.5 years old and was just resurrected.

I wonder if the OP's girlfriend's friend went through with it?
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