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Old 10-31-2013, 06:53 PM
 
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My daughter is a top dancer in a dance school that we enrolled her in. She is 14. Every year they do a big production that is featured in the community and gets a lot of press. My daughter has been given the lead role in this production. However, the opening night performance where the press is present and there is a social function to follow, they are giving the lead role to another dancer (my daughter does the other 7 performances). Her mom is married to a local business leader and she is helping to raise $50K for building improvements.

I vociferously complained to the director that this was unfair and puts my daughter in an awkward position with the other students (probably to the other student who will be lead for only 1 performance, too, but I didn't mention that).

I've always told my daughter that talent wins out and cream rises to the top.

Anyway, looking for some suggestions on how to deal with this. My first thought was to pull her from the school, but there are limited dance schools around here. 2nd, we both work but I'm not going to donate or fundraise for this school (not within our means or ability).
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Old 11-03-2013, 10:06 PM
 
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talent doesn't always win out. life isn't fair. a good life lesson for sure. no reason to pull her out of school as long as she is getting something out of class. if it becomes too unfair and she is no longer enjoying it, drop out.
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Old 11-04-2013, 07:21 PM
 
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Agreed, mostly though money wins out over all. Unfortunately.
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Old 11-05-2013, 05:43 PM
 
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I guess I've watched too many professional sports. There, the most talented take the field.
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Old 11-08-2013, 07:22 AM
 
Location: North Adams, MA
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talent doesn't always win out. life isn't fair. a good life lesson for sure. no reason to pull her out of school as long as she is getting something out of class. if it becomes too unfair and she is no longer enjoying it, drop out.
I agree. But I would go a step further and send out a press release or take out an ad so that your daughter's performances get seen and lauded.
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Old 11-08-2013, 10:24 PM
 
Location: Pacific NW
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It's not true of professional sports, either. Success usually has to do with being in the right place at the right time, not talent.

Look at it this way, your daughter is going to benefit from the money raised.
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