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Old 09-09-2007, 09:43 PM
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It's a strange thing here in Sarasota. Most of the neighbors I have I've never seen. Someone comes in and cuts their grass, they come home, drive into the garage and the door shuts etc. I hear how rude people can be in New England, but from experience I personally witness the opposite. Maine and New Hampshire, very nice and outgoing, even in traffic. I saw this in NJ, even though people keep telling me NJ/NY'ers are crude and nasty. People seem to be edgy when they first get here, I don't know why but if you can walk up and talk to them a few times they seem to get over it. They almost seem to expect us native Floridians to shun them, and I for one won't. I do hate to see some of the seniors I golfed with have to leave the area. And some neighbors, they just don't like to talk to people no matter what.
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Old 09-10-2007, 07:04 AM
Location: South Tampa - Bayside West Neighborhood
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Been in my neighborhood in South Tampa for about 13 years, and know most my neighbors, very friendly area, we have block parties, pot luck dinners, walk dogs, watch each others houses when out of town...i guess its what you make it, and where you are.
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Old 09-10-2007, 07:09 AM
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Wow. I live in Greenacres, FL - which many people here would slam as being SO HORRIBLE - and I know all my neighbors and they are wonderful! We live in a quad townhouse and are close to the residents of the other three townhouses, as well as other residents on our street. Some of my neighbors are elderly, but many are in their 40s and 50s, and some are young with children.

We have held annual Halloween parties and invited all our neighbors. For many, it was a first time to get to know one another personally. They had a blast. We've also held fundraisers and helped each other through hurricanes. We've invited one another to dinner.

You cannot control your neighbors' attitudes, but you certainly can extend the friendly attitude first. It may go beyond saying "Hi," as many people live busy lives and don't seem to have time to spare. So invite people to your home, or out to coffee. Welcome your new neighbors in. Throw a party. Take people something to eat without expecting anything in return! You would be surprised how generous and friendly people can be.
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Old 09-10-2007, 07:31 AM
Location: St Augustine
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I lived in Boca 7 years and knew some of my neighbors b/c I was outside several hours a day watching the kids play. I recently moved to St Aug and have been invited over to many my neighbors homes for dinner/movie etc. It shocked me!
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Old 09-10-2007, 09:05 AM
Location: Tampa, Florida
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I'm in New Tampa, in the Lutz area. The day we moved in, we had 2 neighbors come over and introduce themselves, and even offer to help unload the moving truck. And the neighbor across the street put together a welcome basket for us.
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Old 09-10-2007, 10:31 AM
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Like I say to my mother when she complains that I haven't called her enough, "The phone works both ways."

Some neighbors aren't going to give you the time of day because they're oddballs, weirdos, grumps.... but you can't complain unless you've tried to extend yourself first. Can't just sit around and wait for other people to approach YOU!
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Old 09-10-2007, 10:37 AM
Location: Miami
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If we didn't walk the dogs around the block everyday, we probably wouldn't know as many neighbors as we do. We also had some rash robberies in the area last spring, so my block and the next block over got together to put together a citizens crime watch. So I think that has helped us get to know one another. Many people are just too busy, or don't want to be bothered these days with getting to know their neighbors which is sad. But that is how it is.

Originally Posted by PBCboy View Post
My neighborhood has changed a lot through the past few years. I used to know everyone, but lately all the old timers have moved out and most of the people that live here are immigrants or people from NY. I don't really know anyone anymore, and no ones friendly. No one says hello or wants to even attempt to be friendly. Has this happened to anyone else's neighborhood?
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Old 09-10-2007, 10:50 AM
Location: arrlando, flarida
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well, depending on what town in fla you live in, so many ppl move in and out (like orlando) that they probably dont care to be bothered. especially if they are moving to the carolina's or back up north in the next yr or so.

a house down the street has had like 3 different owners in the past 8 or 9 months... not sure why.
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Old 09-10-2007, 04:10 PM
Location: Heartland Florida
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I have three good neighbors, and the rest of the homes here seem to be seasonal or empty. Most newcomers to Florida seem to have the "better than you" attitude and prefer association with other newcommers to those that were here. In Florida we learn that the only time you talk to the new neighbors is when they want to cause trouble. I hate that. Where my parents live none of the adjoining neighbors is friendly. Sure shows a lot about how bad Florida life is getting!
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Old 09-10-2007, 05:24 PM
Location: US
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When someone new moves into our 'hood, I take over some kind of dinner casserole or sloppy joes. We sort of mind our own business because we're extremely busy, but after the hurricanes, my hubby helped many of our neighbors because he has a lot of tools and chainsaws. Now anytime anyone needs a tool, they come over, and we are glad to help. My hubby has helped pull apart many engines, replaced brakes for our neighbors who can't afford it, takes kids for rides on his golf cart or baby quad runner we got for our son. People don't say as much about all the tools, work trucks and equipment in our back yard now--thank goodness.
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