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I am new to cooking and went to quite a bit of effort tonight to make dinner. I made chicken breasts which I had kept overnight in a bar-be-que sauce, baked the breasts and put a parmesan cheese crust on top. Mashed potatoe, beans and cauliflower.
The second I served it up my DH's phone rang and he spent the next 5 minutes on the phone with his Mum, leaving his plate of food to go cold.
I'm irritated because he could have just said that he would call her back in 10 mins.
I know this isn't a big deal, but I'm irritated and he says he can't understand why that would annoy me and that there must be some other underlaying reason.
Any thoughts? Was he a bit rude, or is that normal and I just need to get used to it?
I guess I feel like I'm making an effort to learn to cook so he should be especially grateful! Lol. Probably too much to expect?
Your question is not about Food and Drink and actually belongs in the Relationships thread.
Ok, forget about it then. It's not a big deal anyway. I was just wondering if other cooks find it annoying if people don't take their offerings seriously.
My husband often comes to the table later than us. It's really not a big deal, but that's just me. I figure if he wants to eat cold food, that's his prerogative. As long as he compliments my cooking, of course. LOL He's an adult and can choose how he eats my fabulous food.
Well, I think it was pretty inconsiderate. If he knew you went to a lot of trouble to fix a nice meal, he should have told his mother he would call her back. If he thinks there's an underlying reason, which I imagine is the fact that it was his mom, ask him how she'd feel if he walked away from her dinner table to take a phone call.
I am new to cooking and went to quite a bit of effort tonight to make dinner. I made chicken breasts which I had kept overnight in a bar-be-que sauce, baked the breasts and put a parmesan cheese crust on top. Mashed potatoe, beans and cauliflower.
The second I served it up my DH's phone rang and he spent the next 5 minutes on the phone with his Mum, leaving his plate of food to go cold.
I'm irritated because he could have just said that he would call her back in 10 mins.
I know this isn't a big deal, but I'm irritated and he says he can't understand why that would annoy me and that there must be some other underlaying reason.
Any thoughts? Was he a bit rude, or is that normal and I just need to get used to it?
I guess I feel like I'm making an effort to learn to cook so he should be especially grateful! Lol. Probably too much to expect?
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He needs to understand that a phone call is a request for a response, not a demand for action! His phone is for HIS convenience, not the convenience of the caller.
Your meal sounds yummy, BTW! I'd turn my phone off- forget about mute- for a meal like this!
I take my cooking seriously, was in the biz for years, and if someone blows my food off, I do get a bit testy. I can understand a biz call, or a serious family matter, but if one is just chatting about nothing, I think that is a bit rude to the one that went to all the effort to cook a meal. Its just a matter of manners. That is one of the things that glaringly that seems to be lacking in todays society, just plain, simple manners, and regard for others.
To the OP: Do you ever answer the phone during a meal? Why not make a pact that no one will answer the phone during the mealtime? You said in your post that you are fairly new to cooking so now might be a great time to set some ground rules. Even if we order out we still place the food on plates and eat at the table.
I like to have candles lit, soft music playing in the background during dinner. So, whatever it takes to make your meals an "event" do that. To me, the meal isn't just about the food.
Your husband and you mil were both very rude to you. She should have asked what he was doing, unless the call was an emergency. He is the one with the problem, not you. It is abusive for him to suggest that you have a problem. If you spend that much time to fix him a dish like that, the least he could do is eat it at its best. Then he should have paid you the proper attention for having taken so much energy to make him happy.
He acted like a jerk!
Could he be one of those people that you don't want to let know what bothers you. The next time he does this, just pretend you didn't even notice. Just enjoy your meal while he is talking and if he mentions how cold it is, don't warm it for him. Just say, I thought you must like it cold since you decided to talk on the phone instead of eat it. Let the spoiled brat learn to live with his actions. Evidently his mother never did or he would be more considerate.
BTW, I probably would not have seen this in the relationship area. I don't usually go there.
My husband works from home and I declare two of his business friends have radar. He will not inconvenience them either. So I know how you feel.
Last edited by NCN; 05-17-2008 at 06:54 PM..
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