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Old 09-05-2019, 01:31 PM
 
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I would say for a holiday party with family, no problem. But otherwise, no way.
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Old 09-05-2019, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I think it depends on the local culture. Here, everyone brings something whether asked to or not, heck, you can't stop them from doing it.

All the friends and family used to plan by having people volunteer by category (main course, side, salad, dessert, etc) and we all figured that was more trouble than it was worth. Worst case scenario we would end up with all salads or something, which is perfectly fine. So now it is a free-for-all, and it always works out.
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Old 09-05-2019, 01:53 PM
 
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Op= 2008.
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Old 09-05-2019, 02:03 PM
 
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Op= 2008.
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Old 09-05-2019, 07:40 PM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Or is it just tacky to send a list of demands before you guest have even had a chance to ask what they can bring?
How well do you know these people? Sometimes in some families, assigned people take what they are known for cooking well. People who are not fantastic cooks take a salad or a bakery desert.

Realy, I think this is something to be sorted out among the individuals involved. I don't think others taking a dish is in "bad taste" or "gauche". Again, among family or or friends who ate used to the drill.

If you have invited a new neighbor or friend to Thanksgiving dinner, and you casually add "Oh by the way, could you make a sweet potato casserole?" I would say no. Don't do that.

I'd also expect the invited guest to not show up empty handed. Take a pie or a bottle of cider or wine.
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Old 09-06-2019, 02:48 AM
 
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i always bring something I like … so if I just see salads...ive got something to eat
a bucket of kfc fried chicken is always a welcomed pot luck item..
in maine...i always look for the venison dishes first......and often i do bring a venison dish

depends how formal the pot luck is and how well you know the guests...if its family...then yes ….you want to know what everyone is bringing....otherwise you run the risk of 15 potato salads … or 12 variations of string bean casseroles...

I think the guests in most pot lucks would like to know …...whether its a dessert...… or sides...or a protein... I get specific calls for my venison meat balls
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Old 09-06-2019, 05:05 AM
 
Location: SE Florida
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It is a tradition in my family to bring something to a holiday dinner (Cold Duck counts). If we're hosting a formal dinner then no. If its a BBQ/crawfish boil/crab steaming, I encourage bringing some beer!
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Old 09-07-2019, 01:31 AM
 
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At a Holiday or Formal Dinner Party (not potluck) Is It Rude To Require Your Invited Guests To Bring A Dish (wine, bottle)

The answer is a resounding YES!

Formal denotes you have enough cash to cover the spread! If you do not, then throw a potluck instead! Yes it would be tacky to ask people to bring wine or food to cover what you obviously don't want to! If someone invited me to a formal dinner, and I was bringing food or wine, I would think that the host just had no idea about how to throw a formal occasion.

Last edited by FierceKaia; 09-07-2019 at 01:33 AM.. Reason: fixed spelling on a word!
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Old 09-09-2019, 09:07 AM
 
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I think it is ok to ask people to bring a dish at the time of the invitation.
Assuming that invitee is coming from their home to the dinner party. If someone is coming from out of town/long distance, I don't think it is appropriate to expect them to bring a dish.
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Old 09-09-2019, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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This is an eleven year old post.

The economy is in a way different place than it was in 2008.
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