Picky eaters - when does it become rude to you? (restaurant, meals)

[PassTheChocolate]

I don't have a high tolerance for this. I get that not everyone enjoys everything, but there are people who are just a little over the top, to the point of being offensive.

This was a problem in my relationships with men who had kids. I've been asked to cook 2 or three meals to accomodate the little princes and princesses who normally got what they wanted. Newsflash, in my home, they eat what I cook or they don't eat.

It's even more annoying when an adult does this. Kids do what they are taught and what they can get away with. But as adults, we should learn that the world does not have to accomodate us (at least some of us do). When I cook a meal and they are picking out the parsley and the onions, or whatever else it is they don't like - I want to reach over the table and slap them. They are not invited again.

How do you handle this? What do you do when someone cooks something you don't like?

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

How do you handle this? What do you do when someone cooks something you don't like?

I eat it.

Also annoying is when you invite some to eat out and they change the restaurant you suggest to somewhere they'd rather go.

Or a friend of ours who compliments the dish I made and then goes on to suggest how I could make it even better next time.

[RiWrites]

If someone serves me something I don't like I would eat it anyway. Unless I am allergic to the food than what is the big deal. I was taught if you are invited to someone's home you eat what you are served.

I invited a friend to my Thanksgiving dinner and she did nothing but complain. The stuffing wasn't how she did it and she doesn't like the topping on the mashed sweet potatoes etc. By the time dessert was served I had had my fill of her. She complained about that too until another friend told her to shut up because she was a total Debby Downer. I won't be inviting her back next year.

[lndigo]

I pretty much like anything that's on a plate, so. . .

But I don't really mind making accommodations for kids.
Nor do I think I'd mind an adult, say, picking out stuff from food I cook. If they don't like it, they don't like it. . . I don't see how it's their fault, to be honest. =/

Asking the host to actually go out of their way because, say, the person doesn't like bell peppers. . . That's where I see something wrong.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by lndigo

I pretty much like anything that's on a plate, so. . .

But I don't really mind making accommodations for kids.
Nor do I think I'd mind an adult, say, picking out stuff from food I cook. If they don't like it, they don't like it. . . I don't see how it's their fault, to be honest. =/

Asking the host to actually go out of their way because, say, the person doesn't like bell peppers. . . That's where I see something wrong.

Yah, I get that kids do what they're taught or not taught. They also need to know that they can't get away with what they do at home with everyone. I know how kids can be, so I'm not going to make anything too exotic and I'll ask beforehand if they allergic to anything or if they have a huge aversion to something. But when they are sitting in my home and screaming at what I made, well, they can eat it or wear it.

True, if an adult doesn't like something, they don't. But most I know have never tried what they claim not to like, and won't eat it because "it's green" or something like that.

[younglisa7]

I would never be disrespectful if someone else cooked. Now if it tastes really bad I at least hope I can serve myself so I don't have to take too much, lol. Seriously though I can always find something I like.

Children should learn to eat what they get and be happy they have food.

As for my DH I told him a long time ago he "has to" tell me if he doesn't like something I make. Don't lie to me because you will be stuck eating it forever. He is the only one that gets away with that.

[SeaOfGrass]

Originally Posted by younglisa7

As for my DH I told him a long time ago he "has to" tell me if he doesn't like something I make. Don't lie to me because you will be stuck eating it forever. He is the only one that gets away with that.

Ha-ha, I do the same thing. My SO at one point told his mom he liked the tamale pie she made, so she made it for us all the time LOL. He didn't have the heart to tell her he didn't like it that much. It was good, though.

[Huckleberry3911948]

when i worked 3 hours on that souffle and i know for a fact that is the best apple crisp ever to come out of a microwave. off with his head.

[Woof Woof Woof!]

I'm usually so deliriously happy to have someone cook for me that I overeat to the point where I make myself ill. I am an enthusiastic eater. I make one exception to that rule, however, for a friend of mine who is possibly the worst cook you can ever imagine.

The first time she had me for dinner and served a bean casserole that had set like cement (in the oven for a few too many hours, maybe), I ate it and told her it was good. But after that, when she tried to offer me food, I would politely say, "No thanks, I just finished a sandwich in my car." But had I gone 2-3 days without food, I suppose I would have eaten her meals as well.

I agree with you about picky eaters. I'm annoyed when kids pick at their food and even more annoyed by adults who do it. Adults should know better.

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[miamiman]

If you don't like something, you don't like it. I don't find it rude if someone doesn't eat something that I made. If the preparer of the food gets upset that the people eating the meal don't like what they serve, maybe they should hand the job over to someone else.