So another Birthday on the horizon...happy time.
However: I am SO, SO tired of all the toys in the house, of having to pick them up all the time (yes, yes, I have the kids pick up their own toys but it is not that simple because they still spread them all over the house after that, and they can't always do a spotless job, and then they do it again... and I still have to work at it myself, at least a good part of it, no matter how I twist it).
The thought of more toys coming in makes me cringe.
My two children (4 and 6) have
significantly fewer toys compared to ALL children we know, personally. We don't have a finished basement and I have always tried to keep the amount of toys available at one time under control.
However, as someone who grew up with a grand total of 3 toys (which increased to 7 in 3rd grade) they still seem like A LOT to me.
I try to rotate them but they constantly go to the storage area in the back of the garage and get more out of there and before I know it their play room is full of toys again - most of them lying everywhere, taking up space and acting as a huge disincentive for them to play at all - despite all the crap available!!!
I am a firm believer in the idea that lots of stuff (lots of material crap of any sort) literally sucks the spirit out of you, including out of children who never learn how to play with their little fellow humans as they are too busy checking out the STUFF.
I hate clutter with a passion...and we personally have made a point throughout the years of not buying lots of toys to these kids. At the same time, we've had our share of sins, adding to the collection here and there, usually by buying some kind of "educational" thing, God Forbid should jr miss the opportunity to increase his IQ (yes, that's self-directed sarcasm).
However, they still receive quite a few toys from family and friends on Holidays and Birthdays.
I've come to a point where I want to tell everyone to just NOT bring any more presents because I don't feel like this is in the best interest of these kids. They seem more insatiable about stuff as the years go by. Of course, the children would be very disappointed to see nobody brought them anything, and regardless, people will still bring something.
Trouble is most people will spend 20 dollars or so on some plastic thing that will be forgotten in a corner tomorrow and which will continue to exasperate me by adding to the clutter, by teaching them about useless consumption, by constantly exposing them to something new - then easily disposable.
Since people insist on paying for a gift anyway, I wish I could tell them to just bring cash for their 529-s or whatever...but this would obviously be both very rude/uncooth as well as disappointing for the kids who could not give a flying pee about what a 529 is
.
In fact, my husband's brother even said that he hates to gift money and he insists on bringing actual presents. He is a very generous gift giver but he wants to give STUFF, not money. He asked us about ideas for gifts (what the girl needs) but I honestly think that the only thing this girl needs is more money in her 529 and a decreased desire for new stuff.
So what should I do? Is it even appropriate to suggest ANYTHING to the guests? Any ideas for some gifts that would be truly useful and would not just scream useless consumption?
Thank you for any suggestions.