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Old 12-09-2015, 06:17 PM
 
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I am familiar with family court and it's harsh injustices. However, typically they take measures to over protect the children and err on the side of caution when there is evidence of any possible danger. I guess the judge didn't think your x posed enough danger. Judges do make mistakes sometimes. I do understand it makes sense to keep both parents involved in the child's life when possible (and safe).

For your lack of income dilemma, I know you previously mentioned that your home is a five bedroom 2800 sq. ft, home, and I know others suggested to you that you should consider getting room mates. With the area you are in being so expensive and rents as high as you say, don't you think renting two of the bedrooms out to two single woman might add perhaps another $1000 to $1200 a month to your monthly income. If there are no apartments available in your area, even renting two rooms out to a single mom with a kid might work out for both of you.

With your employment income, room rental income, child support for child #2, and social security income from child #1, don't you think that would be sufficient to live on there? I believe I recall you saying that your x makes a very good income, and is now living with another woman, so child support should be a decent amount. Is all of this court room fighting now over child support.

Is there any particular reason why you don't pursue the room mate idea?
I have been looking for a roommate. I have not found anyone yet.

My ex is not working now. He decided that was the best way to not have to pay child support. Yes we are still going to court fighting over child support.
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Old 12-15-2015, 09:13 AM
 
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How about you live in a house where the city picks up the trash?
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Old 12-29-2015, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Dover, New Jersey
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How about making some money
read these:
32 Legitimate Ways to Make Money at Home - The Penny Hoarder
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Old 12-29-2015, 09:22 AM
 
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How about making some money
read these:
32 Legitimate Ways to Make Money at Home - The Penny Hoarder
Thank you. I have tried doing mturk and surveys but they do not pay well at all for the time invested. I don't have lots of spare time to dedicate. I work full time 40-50 hours per week, plus all home chores fall onto me. I am the only person doing the work at home, and since the house was in rough shape, I try to do one project every week. Last week was demo a room in the basement. This week I am painting all trim. I think I have a roof leak, so repairing the roof might be next weeks job. I already can't get everything done that. I absolutely need to do.

I think these make money opportunities are more for people that have time and do not already work.
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Old 12-29-2015, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Eastern Oregon
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I don't think you are committed to living frugally if you are buying very large dining room tables at furniture stores (re: your comment in the moving forum). Anything in a furniture store costs a lot, even if you got it on clearance.

I don't know what your real story is, but I agree with the other posters who think something is strange here..
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Old 12-29-2015, 10:03 AM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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I have really crappy luck. Like "the oven works fine all year, but go to use it thanksgiving morning and it's dead", kind of luck. My luck has always been that way.
your views on bad luck are different from mine..
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Old 12-29-2015, 11:41 AM
 
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I don't think you are committed to living frugally if you are buying very large dining room tables at furniture stores (re: your comment in the moving forum). Anything in a furniture store costs a lot, even if you got it on clearance.

I don't know what your real story is, but I agree with the other posters who think something is strange here..
I didn't actually pay money out of my pocket for my large dining room table. But it is the only piece of furniture I have that was purchased brand new, which was purchased at a discount furniture store, with someone else's money.
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Old 12-29-2015, 11:43 AM
 
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your views on bad luck are different from mine..

What do you consider bad luck? Is t not everything going wrong, all the time?
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Old 12-29-2015, 01:08 PM
 
Location: Boise, ID
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What do you consider bad luck? Is t not everything going wrong, all the time?
So every Thanksgiving your entire life, the oven hasn't worked? I'm guessing that happened once. For most of us, if we cook on the holidays, one holiday in our lives, the oven won't work, even if it worked find the rest of the year. We manage rental properties, 170 of them, and every year, we get at least one call the week of Thanksgiving and at least one call the week of Christmas that SOMEONE has an oven or stove not working. Happens all the time, all over the country, to all kinds of people.

Almost everyone finds that they take 2 steps forward and then 2 steps back again. You get your tax refund, only to have your car die the next week. You get a small bonus at work (or have an extra payday in the month) and the kids need braces. Someone buys your groceries for you, and your refrigerator dies. Those things aren't bad luck. They are LIFE. And they happen to all of us.

Millions of people have gone through a divorce and/or a bad relationship. Literally millions of parents are not receiving the child support they actually are entitled to (around 40% of child support payments are not made, for whatever reason). Most of them make life work anyway. Sure, it isn't fair, but life rarely is. The point is, millions of people are in the same boat you are, so you aren't especially "unlucky".

I find that my special breed of bad luck consists of missing the instruction manual and/or some of the parts for anything I buy that comes in a box. When I bought my first entertainment center, one of the wall pieces was missing, and you can't assemble it without one entire wall. Usually the bag full of screws is missing from whatever I buy. I'm also THE coldest gambler you could ever hope to meet. Seriously, if you see me at the casino (which you never will), then you should bet against me, and you will make out like a bandit. Seriously, everyone has a few areas of their lives in which they are unlucky. But I feel like I have a very good life, because I've worked hard and made good choices.

You are constantly complaining about how terrible your life is, while you live in a larger, nicer house than most, have a rental property on top of that, have more in savings in the bank than most, drive a nicer car than most, etc. You complain that you are "too old", but you aren't even 40 yet. Seriously, you have a better life than most on these forums, and you still aren't happy with it. Some people are impossible to please.

You clearly have an entitled "keeping up with the Jones's mentality". You haven't been able to keep up with what you think you are supposed to be entitled to, and so you are unhappy with your lot in life. In the meantime, you have more than most, and just can't see it.

It is all about the mindset.

And finally, I wanted to respond to your post in this thread. In my city, trash service is required for every occupied house in the trash pickup area. You can't just "cancel trash service" because they know that most people will handle their trash in an illegal fashion then (burning or dumping in someone else's dumpster). So that might not even be an option.

Unless you are willing to post your exact income and expenditures, no one here will be able to help you trim the fat. If you really truly want help being more frugal, make a new thread and post your 2015 income and expenses, and people would be happy to help you see where, if anywhere, you could save money. Getting rid of cable will be high on the list.
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Old 12-29-2015, 01:47 PM
 
Location: Eastern Oregon
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You are constantly complaining about how terrible your life is, while you live in a larger, nicer house than most, have a rental property on top of that, have more in savings in the bank than most, drive a nicer car than most, etc. You complain that you are "too old", but you aren't even 40 yet. Seriously, you have a better life than most on these forums, and you still aren't happy with it. Some people are impossible to please.

You clearly have an entitled "keeping up with the Jones's mentality". You haven't been able to keep up with what you think you are supposed to be entitled to, and so you are unhappy with your lot in life. In the meantime, you have more than most, and just can't see it.

It is all about the mindset.
Yes!

But she has already said she won't get rid of cable. The preschooler won't let her do that.
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