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Old 11-26-2016, 02:18 AM
 
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Here's something a friend of mine did, many years ago. They were newlyweds living on a shoestring budget. She was working at a library. She checked out various books, tapes, etc she knew her new dh would like as Christmas presents. Of course, they had to be returned, but they were moving soon, so, one less thing to pack! It was a brilliant idea! Of course, you need access to the materials to make sure they're returned, or its just another big financial mess
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Old 11-26-2016, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic east coast
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Give the gift of love. Write each family member/friend a hand-written note to tell them what you most appreciate and enjoy about them...recall past kindnesses or events you shared with them...

The Gift of Love is always the right size and is unique. This is the true meaning of our holidays. A celebration of love -- not a commercial buy more occasion.
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Old 11-26-2016, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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My family tyically ends gift giving when the person turns 18.
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Old 11-29-2016, 08:07 AM
 
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My family stopped the gift-giving thing years ago, TG. I buy one thing for each of my 2 nieces' very young children. Then we trade dumb dollar store items on Christmas day and laugh so hard we cry. Hubby and I don't trade gifts, because we both have plenty of possessions already. This is way more fun than being stressed-out about spending too much money on "stuff". And then figuring out what to do with all the "stuff" other people would give us.
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Old 11-29-2016, 08:10 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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Unemployed, sick or otherwise struggling - without money for gifts, fro frau or any of the holiday nicities - people dropping you off the guest list and gift lists -

What's a poor person to do over the holiday season?
Read books on personal finance. Good way to learn and pass the time.
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Old 11-29-2016, 08:35 AM
 
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I found the holidays to be a lot less stressful when I checked out of the whole gift giving thing.


All me and my wife do now is buy for the kids and that's pretty much it. Everyone else knows we just don't do gifts, and after a few years my family has also gotten on board with that.


Holidays are much less stressful when you don't need to worry about buying gifts for everyone
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Old 11-29-2016, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Keosauqua, Iowa
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Just go the Harry and Marv route and pray to God that Kevin isn't home.
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Old 11-29-2016, 08:55 AM
 
Location: Close to an earthquake
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I remember many moons ago when a full-time college student and broke as can be during Christmas season and cognizant of it. I realized I would not be able to buy even simple gifts for close family members. I felt terrible about it in a very private way. But I survived and learned from it.

Now I have plenty of money to buy Christmas gifts and will probably only do some very basic gift-buying Christmas shopping. Trying to ponder if I feel terrible about it in a very private way and hoping to survive and learn from it.

There are lessons to learn in your current broke-for-the-holidays moment in life. Count the blessings you have and give of yourself the gifts you have to give and enjoy in doing so.
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Old 11-29-2016, 09:07 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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.......What's a poor person to do over the holiday season?
Step back away from the commercialism. Spend time with family. Do a nice holiday dinner for family and make it a pot luck, or just serve mac and cheese and enjoy each other's company. Christmas dinner does not have to be a roast goose.

Personally, I find all of the commercialism to be a bit distressing. Beggering yourself to buy things for other people that they don't really like or want. We don't give gifts in my family, except for small children (and my adult child and I get each other something reasonable in cost or very much needed).

While I like the scent of a live tree in the house, you can get the same scent with a branch if you really need it. Most years, I have a little (1 1/2 foot tall) fake tree with a string of fairy lights and that is it for the decorating. If you can't afford any decorating, enjoy what they've put in shop windows or what other people put into their yards.

If you like carols, they are free on the radio. If you don't own a radio, you can get radio reception on your computer. Or go ride up and down in an elevator.

I bake, so there are some holiday goodies in my house and we ignore the calories because it is a holiday.

If you are not rigidly Christian, go out at night on the 21st and star gaze. Enjoy the winter air and calm your mind and meditate on the stars and notice the beauty of the sky. If it is not your holiday, you are welcome to enjoy it anyway. Traditionally, we share bread and salt on that day, but you don't have to take the celebration that far. It's enough to calm your mind with the star gazing.

Find a way to be around people. If you do not have friends and family nearby, then do some volunteer work. Check your city's schedule of events and go to tree lightings and caroling and other holiday events.

The holiday season does not have to involve money and, indeed, it is a much better holiday season if you get yourself out of the commercialism trap.
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Old 11-29-2016, 09:20 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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Foot note here: if you do have children to give gifts to and if you bake, you can give a package of home made cookies, even to children, and that will be an appreciated gift. Not many kids don't like cookies and if you pick the right recipe, cookies can be fairly low cost.

I have a brief little memory from when I was very young. I took the wrapping paper off of a gift from my aunt and it was a Sees candy box. I was absolutely delighted until I opened the box and it wasn't chocolates, it was a pair of mittens. I think that was the year I was 5; kids like food gifts, too.
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