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Old 01-19-2017, 09:12 AM
 
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I don't eat out often but have always enjoyed it.. until everything got too expensive. Plus taxes here are 10% at restaurants.


Anyway, I have a friend and we have always gone out for meals. I see him about once every few months. What I have noticed is that when we go out he orders minimum 2 drinks for himself, I don't drink, he orders appetizers, I don't. When the bill comes he always wants to pay with a credit card and I pay cash. I haven't seen the check but know how much my meal is and always he says.. just give me this and tells me an amount. I have been giving him more that I should for tax and tip and feeling annoyed. This is coming up again as we are supposed to go out in a few weeks.


On one hand I feel petty but on the other hand thisperson makes almost twice as much as I do.
I guess I could ask for my own check or be perfectly blunt with him and tell him what I will be paying.


Not earth shattering to say the least as a problem but it does bug me.


Any ideas? Thanks
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Old 01-19-2017, 09:15 AM
 
Location: NJ
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so you are saying that his calculation makes you overspend? does he split it in half or does he adjust for his additional expense?
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Old 01-19-2017, 09:16 AM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I guess I could ask for my own check or be perfectly blunt with him and tell him what I will be paying.
You answered your own question there!
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Old 01-19-2017, 09:25 AM
 
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Yes, I am giving more, not a big amount but more than my share.


I find having to ask for a separate check doable but annoying that I should even have to do it at all.
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Old 01-19-2017, 11:17 AM
 
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When the bill cones, simply tell him, I noticed my entree was $XX, [and the tax {if any}] and a generous tip for my meal would be $XX, so here is my ${TOTAL "XX+ XX"} towards the bill, and DROP IT AT THAT.

If he bulks, simply TELL him you "will no longer subsidize his extravagant meals, and if you want, next time we will ask for separate checks".


END OF DISCUSSION.
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Old 01-19-2017, 01:37 PM
 
Location: North Idaho
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You can ask for separate checks. If you do, then tip generously because you have caused extra work for your waitress. If you are not paying too much more than you should on the bill, that might even out.

You could also ask him to show you the bill. You could also ask him how he is splitting the bill. Communication sometimes works pretty well.
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Old 01-19-2017, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Maine
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Around here, a lot of places ask whether you want separate checks or not right from the get-go. Is this not the norm in your area?
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Old 01-19-2017, 04:16 PM
 
Location: jefferson city, mo
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split the check or just keep on doing what you have always done. If you want to keep the friendship on good terms is it really worth the person being selfish? if you really have a problem with it, just confront the friend and tell the person what you think and go on from there. good luck.
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Old 01-19-2017, 04:25 PM
 
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Around here, a lot of places ask whether you want separate checks or not right from the get-go. Is this not the norm in your area?


I've never asked for a separate check because usually it is even. But he drinks and eats more than I do. I will be direct with him. Again, it is annoying and I feel it really shouldn't be an issue if he was fair.


Thanks for the replies.
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Old 01-19-2017, 04:36 PM
 
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I usually do water, no apps, no deserts, no side extras. I do tip well but this usually helps keeps the cost within reason.
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