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Old 02-01-2017, 07:40 AM
 
Location: Way up high
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I am smart with our money but we also make quite a bit and work hard for it so we do enjoy it. I mean you've got one life to live and we can't take it with us....
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Old 02-01-2017, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Texas
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I work with someone who spends like crazy, stuff that to me is ridiculous, but I don't care. What I care about is when she complains about not having money and needing to work another job to pay her bills. it.
This.
The whining about not having enough money and pointedly making remarks or looks about money other people have (or seem to have)...that irks me.
Maybe those other people aren't making stupid decisions left and right.

At the end of the day, if I'm not directly supporting you or indirectly supporting you, I don't care how you spend your money. Just **** instead of complaining when you can't make ends meet at the end of the month.
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Old 02-01-2017, 08:59 AM
 
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I'm not on board with the 'no judging'. IMO, some people misuse the bible "judge not, lest you be judged'. That was woman had rocks thrown at her and was being abused by others. In real life, we make judgements everyday. We take our observations and experiences and make choices and decisions based on those observations and experiences.

There is a time to speak up and a time to remain quiet. You don't have to be in someone's face about their choices, but it is ok to state or indicate that you think they are making a mistake. As long as you are not slandering someone. I see no problem in using another person's choices as an example of what to do or what not to do.
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Old 02-01-2017, 09:02 AM
 
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i only judge when the person then complains about money problems.

someone i work with makes like 200k per year and then constantly complains about being in debt and money problems. but then they will talk about all this stuff they spent money on. so yes, in that instance, i'm judging. like maybe cut back on going out to dinner every single weekend.
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Old 02-01-2017, 11:16 AM
 
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i only judge when the person then complains about money problems.

someone i work with makes like 200k per year and then constantly complains about being in debt and money problems. but then they will talk about all this stuff they spent money on. so yes, in that instance, i'm judging. like maybe cut back on going out to dinner every single weekend.
It's hard to say, because some people who are actually well off, will still complain about not being able to afford something like an exotic vacation somewhere. This isn't the same thing as complaining about not being able to afford toothpaste.


Not being able to afford a vacation or a new car doesn't mean they can't budget their money. They might be doing quite well financially.
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Old 02-01-2017, 11:42 AM
 
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I'm not on board with the 'no judging'. IMO, some people misuse the bible "judge not, lest you be judged'. That was woman had rocks thrown at her and was being abused by others. In real life, we make judgements everyday. We take our observations and experiences and make choices and decisions based on those observations and experiences.
It's not about religion at all. It's just about being a pleasant person socially. If (for example) we're talking and you see me holding a Starbuck's cup, it's not your place to criticize that. It's my money and I can choose to spend it how I wish to, no matter how upsetting that might be to some people. They just have to get past it.
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Old 02-01-2017, 12:04 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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There are all kinds of "little things" people do to waste their money, though. Like going to movies, buying foods they don't really need at the grocery store like ice cream, throwing a candy bar in the cart, etc. I'm not sure why people focus on coffee so much. Let's face it, half the stuff we eat and drink, we don't really "need".
I agree that lots of people waste their money.

Not everyone, of course, but a lot of people do.

Blow $20 /day on foo foo coffee if you wish. Have a ball. Nobody is judging you for it. Waste as much of your money as you wish to waste.



However if you then come to me whining that you are broke [and people do], I may lack compassion for you, over your self-inflicted problem.

Likewise if you come to me begging to borrow cash [and people do], and your willful 'waste' is more than my salary [and this has happened to me], I will refuse to give you money.

Is that judgemental?

I know people whose waste is more than I earn, yet they are ever broke and I am gaining Net Worth.
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Old 02-01-2017, 12:15 PM
 
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Blow $20 /day on foo foo coffee if you wish. Have a ball. Nobody is judging you for it. Waste as much of your money as you wish to waste.
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Actually, yes this is judgmental right here. Calling it "foo foo" coffee and saying it's a waste of money.

If I enjoy my coffee, then it's not a waste of money.
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Old 02-01-2017, 12:38 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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A previous poster going by 'tassity22' said:
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... There are all kinds of "little things" people do to waste their money
That poster has admitted that Starbucks coffees are a 'waste of money'. Regardless of how foo foo they may be.
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Old 02-01-2017, 12:41 PM
 
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People can spend their money how they wish. End of story.
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