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For my birthday, I got the same birthday card I got last year. Not another one just like it - the same one! I mean, think about it:
The message is the same - she still loves me; I am still the soul mate she always wanted; I still make her smile... Everything!
So why should she go out and find a brand new card every year?!
I like my card!
She signed it this year and put a date on it, and put it away. I can't wait to get it again next year!!
It's priceless! More and more, I appreciate non-monetary gift items. I love the thought of receiving something that doesn't take up space in my home, or adds stuff to the collection of other stuff I try hard to unload. It means so much more for my husband, kids, or friends to just call to talk, take a walk, or just tell me they love me. It's the small things that mean so much!
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For my birthday, I got the same birthday card I got last year. Not another one just like it - the same one! I mean, think about it:
The message is the same - she still loves me; I am still the soul mate she always wanted; I still make her smile... Everything!
So why should she go out and find a brand new card every year?!
I like my card!
She signed it this year and put a date on it, and put it away. I can't wait to get it again next year!!
I'll be 73.
Wow...well it's easy to be frugal with stuff you obviously don't care about...much harder to cut back on stuff you consider important - so I guess not buying a card put you a buck or two more toward the stuff you like.
My wife and I gave up cards and holiday gifting a few years back, not because of frugality, but because we had enough years of joy together that we realized the task of finding a card and paying someone else for a canned sentiment based upon a time schedule was ridiculous and manipulative. In place of that, we would have surprise gifting of potted flowers or treats throughout the year.
A way that one can tell a ritual is not an act of love is to ask yourself "Will there be a negative reaction if it doesn't happen or doesn't meet expectations?" If that is the case, it is time for a discussion on values. If you still like cards after that, great! If you don't, or you want to be more creative, also great. I've nothing against cards for those who appreciate them and get joy from them, but I also understand that they can be a cop-out for many who show little evidence of a loving relationship otherwise.
Not sure if I am detecting a bit sarcastic note here
So, it's the same card...
Does she at least put a new date on it, and write like" same as always" and sign, or just give you the card with the original date on it, and that's it??
you're retired and probably at a point in your life when enough is enough LOL now a birthday cake is on a completely different level
^^^ Yes, but she GIVES him the same old car over and over again ( how many years now?)
A short love note on a piece of paper would mean to me more than just giving me an old card again.
That's not frugal, that's ... lazy.
I think it is a cute story. However, my family saves even more money than that on cards by not giving cards at all.
Not that birthdays are cheap. There is a homemade cake and a special birthday dinner, and depending upon who is the birthday person, there might be a birthday gift.
We recycled the same old card for a few years. But we moved last year, & it hasn't surfaced yet, in time for my bday next week. So he might have to break out ,50cents for a dollar tree special lol
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