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Old 07-14-2018, 03:01 PM
 
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Love thy neighbor, but don’t tear down your fences.
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Old 07-14-2018, 03:08 PM
 
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Who owns the fence and the posts?
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Old 07-14-2018, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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That's what I asked.
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Old 07-14-2018, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Tampa, FL
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Thanks for the responses. Much appreciated. I like the different opinions.

To answer some of your questions:

1. I don't resent my neighbor for their large new home. I am frustrated with my neighbor though. She is passive-aggressive and I don't appreciate her attitude. She said she was going to do one thing and then changed. And changed again.

2. Sorry this gate thing is tricky. Maybe I can post a picture. How do I do that on here? The gate is in good enough condition. It looks fine and is functional. Just needs some new stain/paint. There is no joint that separates it from the fence. I don't think it is possible to tear down the fence and keep the gate intact. Hence why we would replace it.

3. The cost of the gate is high, but that's the going rate for a double white vinyl gate and to have it installed and the old one removed. I have not done a ton of research because I was going to use the same company as my neighbor.

4. I am going to dig though our home survey and see exactly where the fence sits with regards to the property line. I'm pretty sure it is right on the property line. There is no way for the fence to be brought closer them as they built their house within 5 feet of the property line.

5. Could I afford the $150? Yes. However, it's not about the money. It's about staying true to your word and creating a win-win. Before even her moving in I already am not thrilled with her. I'm sure she is not a fan of us either over this incident. Giving her $150 is not going to make me feel better about her.

Thanks again.
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Old 07-14-2018, 09:10 PM
 
Location: Paranoid State
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I don't understand what a "double fence" is. I've never heard of it. Can you describe it?
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Old 07-14-2018, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I don't understand what a "double fence" is. I've never heard of it. Can you describe it?
Do you mean a fence with one row of posts in the middle and two sets of boards, so that both you and the neighbor have "a nice side" (the "outside" side) facing your property?
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Old 07-15-2018, 03:14 AM
 
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If they wanted a perfectly functional fence and gate replaced I would not pay for the fence OR the gate.

This is why I live in the country, where property is not measured in inches.
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Old 07-15-2018, 04:25 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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Thanks for the responses. Much appreciated. I like the different opinions.

To answer some of your questions:

1. I don't resent my neighbor for their large new home. I am frustrated with my neighbor though. She is passive-aggressive and I don't appreciate her attitude. She said she was going to do one thing and then changed. And changed again.

2. Sorry this gate thing is tricky. Maybe I can post a picture. How do I do that on here? The gate is in good enough condition. It looks fine and is functional. Just needs some new stain/paint. There is no joint that separates it from the fence. I don't think it is possible to tear down the fence and keep the gate intact. Hence why we would replace it.

3. The cost of the gate is high, but that's the going rate for a double white vinyl gate and to have it installed and the old one removed. I have not done a ton of research because I was going to use the same company as my neighbor.

4. I am going to dig though our home survey and see exactly where the fence sits with regards to the property line. I'm pretty sure it is right on the property line. There is no way for the fence to be brought closer them as they built their house within 5 feet of the property line.

5. Could I afford the $150? Yes. However, it's not about the money. It's about staying true to your word and creating a win-win. Before even her moving in I already am not thrilled with her. I'm sure she is not a fan of us either over this incident. Giving her $150 is not going to make me feel better about her.

Thanks again.
Are you sure the house is 5 feet from the property line? I think you better find out where your property ends.
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Old 07-15-2018, 06:31 AM
 
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Are you sure the house is 5 feet from the property line? I think you better find out where your property ends.
OP can view plat and building line at tax assessor's office.
If the fence was a shared project of the two original owners and is not in prime shape - what kind of fence will the new neighbor have put up? Will it be an improvement for all parties involved?
What does the neighbor's profession and cost of her house have to do with the fence issue? Apparently she offered to leave the existing fence and be done with.
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Old 07-15-2018, 06:38 AM
 
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I would tell the neighbor you’re planning on renting the house on section 8. That may snap some sense into her. Let her pay for the fence she is so eager to tear down. I wouldn’t even consider paying half at this point. She must think she is a real genius with her bulling tactics.
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