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Old 09-26-2010, 06:46 AM
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Hey all,

Hope you wont laugh at this story, but its the truth of how I feel.

Im losing my mind, I am an american citizen, but my parents moved to europe with me in my childhood.

Now im 19, closing the 20 year age, and decided to move back home..

Because I realy dont like the people here, and the culture and country, its just very different from the American Culture..

My parents, want me to finish my college degree, and then move.

I think, its probally a smart thing to do..

But it means, I have to wait another whole year, before me can move back, and start my own life there..

Feel very boxed in, and not feeling very happy about it..

Does anyone have advice for me?
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Old 09-26-2010, 03:16 PM
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Old 09-26-2010, 04:43 PM
Location: Central Fl
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Well, More info might help a bit.
Like, where are you now. What type of employment will this degree get you? Will you be employable here? What other, if any, legal snags will you have? Is there any family here to help you, assist you? Will you be all alone here?

I hardly remember 19 anymore.......but I have 3 boys all just past that age. At 19 one year seems like forever. It is not. Generally, parents know best. Not doing things right, because you may be impatient may be ruinous. That college age can be VERY important. A wrong move right now can have HUGE negative consequences.

You need to optimize your chances of success by NOT making hasty mistakes. You DO want to be successful.....right? One year is nothing if it means a better chance of making it later. Also, do not underestimate the importance of having family around.......

You may be right. I do not know. I do know that impatience is a sign of immaturity. Immature kids do not generally make it successfully by themselves half way around the world with no family support.

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Old 09-27-2010, 03:27 PM
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Thanks, it is the one and only correct answer.

It just feels, strange.. Im getting a college degree here for:
Store Management, but I think it wont be recognized in America, as a proper degree..

But perhaps the fact, that I did finish college, counts ??
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Old 09-27-2010, 05:08 PM
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I hate having made up my mind to do something having to wait for all the stuff to fall into place so I can get on with it. that is where you are. at 19 time goes by a ton slower than if you were 40. finishing will be great even if you don't use the degree here it will show your follow through. you could use this time to get more organized for when you do get here. where you are gonna live, how you are gonna live, your transportation, a job, where you will be safe. make it a smart move takes time. do you know where you want to go and how you will do it? do you have a safety net of saved money to take with you?
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Old 09-28-2010, 06:41 PM
Location: Austin, Texas
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Believe it or not a year will fly by. Throw yourself into your studies and spend that time wisely doing plenty of research into the United States and how you can gain employment or continue your schooling. You also must decide exactly where you want to live in the US and how to go about it. Before you know it a year will be here and gone. If nothing else, finishing your degree will show that you did not give up or abandon your responsibility. Your future employers will want to see that you remained committed to getting your degree. You have a lot of decisions to make. You will never regret taking your time to make the right decision but you will regret rushing into something without enough information.
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Old 09-29-2010, 03:42 PM
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You don't have what to do, just wait. The year will pass very quickly.
In which country do you live now?
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Old 10-04-2010, 10:11 AM
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Well, if you decide you can't wait it would be a great opportunity to study here the last year. A lot of people spend a year of college in other countries. You would meet a lot of people and that would help you decide if the American dream is real for you as well. Think about taking a year to finish up your studies here in the U.S. You could go to a community college in your state of choice.
Just a thought.
My daughter is going to take a year of college in Japan, she is studying in a field that pertains to living in Japan one day. Sounds like fun to me! I'd love to have done that at your age. There are all kinds of programs out there for exchange as well.
If not, a year will fly past, just don't get into a relationship. Lmao. Those are known to change plans.
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Old 10-04-2010, 06:08 PM
Location: New York
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As long as the degree is a proper BA degree from a UK uni it should be recognized anywhere.....
I would just finish the degree because its so easy to get distracted and 'think' you'll go back but you could easily waste the 2 years you have already done... You've got years ahead to experiment with new places to live !!
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