Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Dear Zyzzx,
If you haven't tried this resource to find a job, San Diego Workforce Partnership - specializes in bringing qualified job seekers and employers together has a job bank section that lists bunches of jobs that relate to whatever your field of work is. Here is the link for that part of the website that gives you San Diego "Local" job banks: San Diego Workfoce Job Bank
In the next-to-last section, "Local," click on the first job link: San Diego Jobs, Career Training and Resumes | Reader Jobs
At that website is a listing of various fields of work, click on the one that is you, and a number of current job openings will be listed there. I haven't checked out the other dozen links at the San Diego Workforce Job Bank website under "Local," but they will probably have similar listings.
Try to direct your job search so you can get your foot in the proverbial door of the kind of place you visualize doing career work, even if it's just being a floor sweeper there! Also, cultivate your natural gifts and abilities, it's good to have a backup plan, so go for stuff you are talented at or like to do, too. And check out jobs for the City or the County at their websites, and jobs for the largest companies in San Diego, including hotels, at their websites, all those sites should have a section for "employment."
GG
What idiot doesn't know about Dartmouth? You might even point that one out in an interview. I would, not using the word "idiot", of course. Anyone who is that self absorbed (which is a problem when people think the world ends at the California state line), needs to be reminded.
Most important thing is having a job, then you can make a life from there. I love warm weather and the ocean, but without a job, those things don't do a whole lot of good. With a good job, they are only a short flight away. Most people won't care if you are gay, unless you are a person who feels obligated to announce it at every possible opportunity.
Go where you can find a job, then go from there. You are making a mistake that so many people make, and that is to get to a place in their life, and tossing out an anchor. When the time comes to either pull up anchor or sink, they'd rather sink, than pull up the anchor. Don't do it.
San Diego isn't going anywhere, by the way. You can always go back.
What is your degree in? My husband lived in Key West in Florida for awhile and there is a large gay population there. You could probably get a job easily in a restaurant or something to start and then make friends to and business connections. The weather is as good as you'll get in continental US too and your health problems would probably be minimized.
I'm sorry for your situation. Not sure what you got your degree in, or what kind of salary range you want, but an option for you would be to work as a teller in a bank. The pay is typically higher than Retail at the major banks, and it includes benefits. Many of the banks have a base pay plus commission as they would like you to cross sell credit cards and other bank services. Plus, it's easier to get a job when you have a job. This can tie you over until you fing the job that you want. Hope this is helpful!
Start researching cities in the South that you might like. The economy is going to be even worse in California for the next few years, according to everything I've read. For some reason, Austin and New Orleans came to mind as places that you might like when reading your posts. Houston is always good for finding jobs, and that's the main thing right now.
When you decide on a city to relocate to, you should definately take advantage of your alumni network. I'm sure you'll find people willing to help. Best of luck on your search; don't give up, you have a lot more options than you think. Many highly educated people have been in your shoes and gone on to achieve success.
I also havfe to wander what his degree is in. Without knowing that its pretty hard to determine why he isn't emlyed within his field. Besides even wit a degreee from whatever university the individaual makes alot of difference.
You have so much going for you! I know that flexibility is in there somewhere.
California is warm but wildly expensive.
I lived there for a while.
I am from NY and at a certain point something in our life had to give.
We were house poor and worried and angry much of the time. Not good at all.
I never, ever thought that I would leave my plush Long Island NY suburb for a "Rust Belt Re-bound" city like Wilkes-Barre PA , but that is exactly what I have done.
We love it.
There is an alternative punk music scene here, beautiful architecture, kind people and several decent colleges and Universities. We are vegetarians and artists and this city works for us.
Many places to ski and in Summer many lakes and the Shore is about an hour away.
You can buy a small house for 35,000 or so. You can rent a nice apartment for 450 or less.
A beautiful downtown loft complex called The Elevations has spacious downtown lofts with views of the river and the mountains for 150K
If you are interested send me a direct message.
No I am not a Real estate broker but I am a sociologist and I predict that in five years this area will go though the roof.
First of all, I'm sorry you've only run into clueless people in San Diego so far. I'm a native, and yes, I'm familiar with Dartmouth.
Did you make friends at school? Have you kept in touch? And where are those folks now?
Have you joined the alumni club? Full Dartmouth Alumni Club Roster
There is a San Diego chapter as well as a general SoCal chapter based in L.A.
I ask, because I guess I always thought the point of any Ivy League education (beside the actual education part ) was the potential for networking opportunities.
Good luck and best wishes.
I probably have about a handful of friends I keep in touch with, maybe a little more. Nearly all of them are still on the east coast though. (That's part of the problem). There's one up in the Bay Area though. Networking traditionally hasn't been my strong point (maybe that's part of the problem, too) but you are right about the potential for networking opportunities. But I guess it's not too late to start. Thanks for the link to the alumni club - I'm going to look into it now.
But most of all, lean on your friends, and lean on your facebook friends, and lean on your family. Talk it out with people who care about you. Don't get talked into something you don't want to do, but, don't isolate yourself from anyone who could help you. Its not forever... it gets better.
Hang in there,
John
WOW - Thanks for your thoughtful response. Somehow you hit a few nerves (things that I agree with but didn't want to admit to myself, like 2 & 3.)
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
) was the potential for networking opportunities.
