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Old 07-11-2011, 06:53 PM
 
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I'm a single parent hoping to move next year out of my current state, to a state where I have no family. I do have friends, and a couple of them I've known for over 20 years. So I guess they'd be considered family. My family out here can't get along for nothing and everyone is breaking apart and pointing fingers at others for crap that happened in the past between them. I'm a VERY family oriented person and it hurts to see what they're doing to each other. Some have called me stupid for wanting to move and have told me I'll fail. I've lived around the area where I'm planning on moving to, in the past..

So I'm wondering if there are any single parents here that have moved out of state and it all worked out? Did your family think it was a stupid idea as well?

Thanks.
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Old 07-11-2011, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I think it would be a hard move if you knew no one, but you have friends there so I say go for it, new beginngs could be a wonderful thing. And there is no failing, but there is always new experiences and how could you fail? If you like it you like it, if you dont you dont.
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Old 07-13-2011, 09:38 AM
 
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Thanks! I've been telling them that if it works out, then it works out. If it doesn't, then it's a learning experience.

And here they used to always say "well how do you know unless you try"..... Try telling them what they used to say all the time, now. lol.
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Old 07-13-2011, 10:18 AM
 
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That's a tough call. What a bunch of supportive family members you've got! I think if you have a good job lined up and did your research about where you're moving I'd say go for it. Let the naysayers stew in their own juice.

My mom moved out of state for a boyfriend once and then with my uncle, but neither worked out and she came back. But at the time our grandfather was alive and she missed him. For the most part, our family is like yours, can't get along for nothing. Good luck.
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Old 07-14-2011, 04:13 PM
 
Location: chicago
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Op, I'm currently going through the same thing(check out my threads) and what I can say to you is the same thing I tell myself. Do what you feel is necessary for your household. I'm a single parent myself and completely understand. Once ive completed my move, I know I'll be able to breathe again, so to speak. Where I'm moving to, I have a cousin northwest of the city and two friends in the city. Research your options and if you are at peace with your choice, then do it. I wish you the best!
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Old 07-17-2011, 12:40 AM
 
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Thank you

Well I sure hope everything works out for you. I read your thread and you seem to have things together
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Old 07-18-2011, 05:50 PM
 
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There is really not enough information in your post, how old are your kids? How many do you have? I have done it with older kids, but would probably stay where there is a support system if I had young kids, or lots of young kids.
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Old 07-18-2011, 09:23 PM
 
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There is really not enough information in your post, how old are your kids? How many do you have? I have done it with older kids, but would probably stay where there is a support system if I had young kids, or lots of young kids.
I just have one 10 year old. And believe me, I don't have much of a support system here...lol
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Old 04-20-2013, 02:43 AM
 
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I'm trying to figure out myself if my move with a 5 year old will go ok I am having problems with his father so It's really why I am moving but I do have a friend who I will be staying with and she has kids my sons age as well I'm more worried about day care when I start working I'm nervous about strangers watching my son dont really want to burden my friend or her family so that and transportation to work Are my biggest issues :/ wish this was easier
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Old 04-20-2013, 03:49 AM
 
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I did not move out of state but I did move 5 hours away and I know no one. So far it has worked out but I moved to a small town so childcare resources are limited. I am currently trying too move to a bigger city and get another job because right now I work 12 hour shifts and daycares do not stay open late
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