Am I being unreasonable for wanting to move closer to family? (jobs, college)
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I would just like to hear others' opinion on my situation. My husband and I are from very small towns in SD- where you literally know everyone from birth through college- he could NOT wait to get away after college graduation; I of course was going with him, I was devastated to leave my family and friends behind, but I did not want to be away from him either.
We took a new journey (only 8 hours away- but hey, it's a far enough distance for me!) within the past 6 years he has done great at his job, we got married, bought a house, and started our family here. Though we have no other family around, we have made good friends.
Now it's my turn to want to leave- move closer to family and try a new place. Do you think it is unreasonable of me? To ask my husband to leave his job and this place where he feels "established"? I have absolutely nothing holding me here and can not wait to leave. We have discussed this several times; he is willing, but I wonder if it's mostly to please me, just as I would only stay here to please him- feels like a lose, lose situation. Anyone ever been in a situation like this? Where we would move would be better job opportunities for both of us, and half the distance to allow our parents to see our girls much easier.
I did it for him 6 years ago- should he do it for me now? Or is this completely rude of me to be pressuring him to move (within a year after I am done with my second go round at college)
Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this....lol- I just can not shake this!!!!!!
Where we would move would be better job opportunities for both of us, and half the distance to allow our parents to see our girls much easier.
That's doesn't sound like a lose-lose situation to me? If you both could get better jobs - and you'd be closer to family - how is that not good for both of you?
Unless of course this new place is a small town, like he couldn't wait to get out of? And he'll miss the city?
Well, clearly you have to talk with your husband to know what would this really mean for each of you. It's not easier to have a good job these days, but if you have better opportunities near your family, it seems up to you guys.
I would certainly not just pack up and move because I want something "different" and to be closer to your family (although, that is certainly a powerful incentive). Unless those opportunities are in writing you are taking a huge risk. Remember, you will have to basically start all over again with establishing yourself and meeting new friends, which isn't the easiest thing to do.
Nothing wrong with putting some feelers out and plans, but wait until something solid is in place.
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