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I guess I'm looking for moral support. I hate where I am now.
So looking into places and in some cities I can only start off renting a room.
I'm on unemployment insurance and nothing no job offer where I am for the past 6 months. Still I can meet all my bills with the UI
So has anyone ever given up an apartment to rent a room in order to make a fresh start and get away from a place one hates ?
I'm in a bind. Feels sort of like a Catch 22. I have a BA in the wrong field
for the times we live in.
I have two degrees and have been in the revolving door. I have a temp job now, which I found out I am going to be losing soon.
I have mulled over this continual struggle to "find a decent job" and the crappy searches, the arrogant treatment, and no matter how hard you work, it is never enough.
I think I am fairly intelligent and should be able to eck out a living for myself. I thought about getting like minded people together and maybe forming a community. Not a commune. But just people that would help (no leeches or freeloaders) each other and maybe do some substinence living, I don't know...just mulling this over. Have any thoughts on taking a different path? I want to get off this merry-go-round.
I guess I'm looking for moral support. I hate where I am now.
So looking into places and in some cities I can only start off renting a room.
I'm on unemployment insurance and nothing no job offer where I am for the past 6 months. Still I can meet all my bills with the UI
So has anyone ever given up an apartment to rent a room in order to make a fresh start and get away from a place one hates ?
I'm in a bind. Feels sort of like a Catch 22. I have a BA in the wrong field
for the times we live in.
Saw your post, thought that I would respond.
Sorry for your sadness,,,,,,,,,,,,where do you live?? Where are you looking to move to?
I wished I too had someone to talk to with my issues....have not worked in quite a few (wont even say)...I am now old (early 50s).....but I have returned to school....wont take me too long to finish what I need..............
THEN, I am moving out of California back to where I used to live......much happier there.
I think that it is important to live where you want and not be in a place that you do not like.
So....as I have done for myself.
1. Set 3 or 4 goals...not too many.
2. Make yourself a road map......dont let anything distract you.
3. Complete one goal at a time,,,,,then you will feel better.
4. Put yourself first,,,,,I have learned the hard way,,,,,always.
There was a point in my life where I might have posted the exact same words. 10 years ago I was sharing a house w/7 other people and sleeping in one of the closets. I could pay my bills, but that was about it, and we were on the verge of getting kicked out. No one wanted to hire me for my qualifications - all I could find were crappy, low-paying jobs.
So I sucked up my pride, moved back with family to save up some money. Went back to school for a degree that I determined had the best chance of lucrative employment (regardless of whether I 'loved' it or not). Found out I actually loved the stuff I was studying and had an unexpected aptitude for it. Met a hot guy who was attracted to brainy chicks. Got a killer internship. Graduated and got a great job in a beautiful city after marrying previously mentioned guy.
I pretty much followed what the previous poster laid out - I set myself several goals with the overriding one being to make a decent living. It meant getting out of my comfort zone (History, French) and eyeing the world with a strictly mercenary outlook. No one wanted History majors - everyone wanted engineers, so despite the fact that I'd never had much math and barely knew how to turn on my computer - I went back to school for engineering. So that was my path out of the place you're describing. Yeah - not doing what you love is tough, but I wasn't doing what I loved. I was working fast food and call centers and it sucked even more. Once I decided on my path forward, I didn't let anything get in my way. Didn't know math? Study harder. Didn't understand how to program? Practice more. I sat in the front row, knew all my professors. They recommended me for jobs and helped me find opportunities. the world is hungry for good engineers and I've found my skills to be in demand ever since. It's been a nice change. I still love history and French - now I can go over to my emplyer's location in France and talk to the locals. I use it more as an engineer than I did when it was one of my major areas of study.
So that was one person's solution. I'm sure there are many other ways I could have made it happen, but the key was deciding what I wanted (financial stability), identifying a path to it and making it happen.
Best wishes to you in finding a path that's right for you!
There was a point in my life where I might have posted the exact same words. 10 years ago I was sharing a house w/7 other people and sleeping in one of the closets. I could pay my bills, but that was about it, and we were on the verge of getting kicked out. No one wanted to hire me for my qualifications - all I could find were crappy, low-paying jobs.
So I sucked up my pride, moved back with family to save up some money. Went back to school for a degree that I determined had the best chance of lucrative employment (regardless of whether I 'loved' it or not). Found out I actually loved the stuff I was studying and had an unexpected aptitude for it. Met a hot guy who was attracted to brainy chicks. Got a killer internship. Graduated and got a great job in a beautiful city after marrying previously mentioned guy.
I pretty much followed what the previous poster laid out - I set myself several goals with the overriding one being to make a decent living. It meant getting out of my comfort zone (History, French) and eyeing the world with a strictly mercenary outlook. No one wanted History majors - everyone wanted engineers, so despite the fact that I'd never had much math and barely knew how to turn on my computer - I went back to school for engineering. So that was my path out of the place you're describing. Yeah - not doing what you love is tough, but I wasn't doing what I loved. I was working fast food and call centers and it sucked even more. Once I decided on my path forward, I didn't let anything get in my way. Didn't know math? Study harder. Didn't understand how to program? Practice more. I sat in the front row, knew all my professors. They recommended me for jobs and helped me find opportunities. the world is hungry for good engineers and I've found my skills to be in demand ever since. It's been a nice change. I still love history and French - now I can go over to my emplyer's location in France and talk to the locals. I use it more as an engineer than I did when it was one of my major areas of study.
So that was one person's solution. I'm sure there are many other ways I could have made it happen, but the key was deciding what I wanted (financial stability), identifying a path to it and making it happen.
Best wishes to you in finding a path that's right for you!
There was a point in my life where I might have posted the exact same words. 10 years ago I was sharing a house w/7 other people and sleeping in one of the closets. I could pay my bills, but that was about it, and we were on the verge of getting kicked out. No one wanted to hire me for my qualifications - all I could find were crappy, low-paying jobs.
So I sucked up my pride, moved back with family to save up some money. Went back to school for a degree that I determined had the best chance of lucrative employment (regardless of whether I 'loved' it or not). Found out I actually loved the stuff I was studying and had an unexpected aptitude for it. Met a hot guy who was attracted to brainy chicks. Got a killer internship. Graduated and got a great job in a beautiful city after marrying previously mentioned guy.
I pretty much followed what the previous poster laid out - I set myself several goals with the overriding one being to make a decent living. It meant getting out of my comfort zone (History, French) and eyeing the world with a strictly mercenary outlook. No one wanted History majors - everyone wanted engineers, so despite the fact that I'd never had much math and barely knew how to turn on my computer - I went back to school for engineering. So that was my path out of the place you're describing. Yeah - not doing what you love is tough, but I wasn't doing what I loved. I was working fast food and call centers and it sucked even more. Once I decided on my path forward, I didn't let anything get in my way. Didn't know math? Study harder. Didn't understand how to program? Practice more. I sat in the front row, knew all my professors. They recommended me for jobs and helped me find opportunities. the world is hungry for good engineers and I've found my skills to be in demand ever since. It's been a nice change. I still love history and French - now I can go over to my emplyer's location in France and talk to the locals. I use it more as an engineer than I did when it was one of my major areas of study.
So that was one person's solution. I'm sure there are many other ways I could have made it happen, but the key was deciding what I wanted (financial stability), identifying a path to it and making it happen.
Best wishes to you in finding a path that's right for you!
Best post I've read in a month! Congratulations on your success, and thank you for such a constructive post!
yes definitly a great post, Kayela...worth printing out and keeping for a reference and a ray of light in a dreary situation...
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