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Old 09-19-2013, 01:57 PM
 
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Yes, twice. San Francisco was the last time. Beautiful place in many respects, but it is the ultimate "visiting only" city.

 
Old 09-19-2013, 03:37 PM
 
Location: Chicagoland
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Thank you everyone for replying, especially those who are in the process of moving back or have moved back! I just moved from SF Bay Area to the Chicago suburbs (I'm from Chicago originally) for family reasons. Unchosen move, but I thought I could make it work.

Now, it's only been 2 1/2 months, and I am going to give it a year, maybe 1.5 years, just to see if I can make a life of it. I spend most of my time, though, dreaming of Oakland and my life there and wondering if and when I can resume things in the Bay Area. I have health problems that would be better attended to if family was around, but I really don't even think that is enough to keep me away. I believe I will eventually risk harm just to be happy in my living place.

Thanks to the posters who are going back! Keep writing the encouragement....
 
Old 09-20-2013, 01:51 PM
 
Location: Redmond, WA
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I've read all 10+ pages of the stories in this thread and thoroughly enjoyed everybody's experiences because I'm very close to taking my last couple of paychecks and getting out of Kansas City, I have only a chance or two left to escape and want to do it before I become permanently stuck here like many of you are. I left Seattle due to lack of work and high cost of living. I don't "hate" it here, but in terms of long term happiness, the writing is on the wall.

There are only 3 things people talk about in the Midwest: kids, football, and hunting. The bonus round is the weather if something notable like a tornado took place. I know only natives and where I'm from might as well be on the other side of the planet, most think it's "California" and I don't bother correcting them anymore. I spend most of my time indoors playing video games unless I'm interested in going "out" and in KC that translates to dinner at a typical cut from the same mold chain restaurant or a casino, you should have heard them when they got their first Panera which to them is hot crap and they still haven't stopped talking about Ikea coming to the area. OMG, I really chose this place?!

Yes I did. Because when I got to the Midwest it was the slower, unsophisticated, simple pace that attracted me in the first place. I saw a lot of Normal Rockwell style quaintness to the endless fields of corn/wheat known the world over as "the heartland". I thought it might feel somewhat like my childhood (I grew up in Illinois) by returning to the family values of my roots. I didn't think I could go wrong with a city that put up fountains everywhere, including their baseball stadium, to try and make up for its lack of natural scenery. And I was ready for a change after 20 years in a city focused on progression; I was sick to death of yuppies/DINKs (double income no kids), techies, and hearing about the latest Paul Allen/Bill Gates project, two people who might as well be the returning Christ himself to hear Seattle folk talk.

But much to my chagrin, I miss it. Memories of yesteryear had no effect on me and the associated relatives left for their reward eons ago anyway. I admit to missing the cosmopolitan/diverse feel of Seattle, where people actually understand and can relate to my desire to leave the drudgery dead end world of the blue-collar trades; and attending school and changing careers is something people do well into middle age because they have a genuine desire to better themselves. I completed my A.S. shortly after moving to KC and the employment agencies told me they couldn't "sell me" which came as no surprise when I had to explain to the accounting recruiter that GAAP was more than just a clothing store.

To conclude: I've about had it with the Midwest and people that can't think outside the box. It wasn't a complete failure, it's only been 16 months, an extended vacation, long enough to see how good I had it and that the proverbial grass isn't always greener. Oh and the TAXES....Washington State with NO INCOME TAX, here I come!
 
Old 10-06-2013, 10:36 PM
 
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So glad to know I'm NOT the only one! I absolutely hate living in Houston! It's great for some people, but not for me. Saving up money to go home to my beautiful blue Pacific on the West Coast. I am lonely for family and friends, for simple little things like being able to grab a bottle of Hennessy on a Sunday afternoon either at the local Ralphs or at a nice Bevmo's. I miss the relaxed L.A. vibe, and I'm heartsick I'm gonna miss "A Taste of Soul" in L.A. this month. I miss my favorite radio station in Los Angeles. Yep, Giving myself a year, (That's when my lease runs out) and the 4EverCaliGirl is going home. No offense Texas, but...hey gotta do what I gotta do.
Peace Out!
 
Old 10-07-2013, 10:49 AM
 
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for simple little things like being able to grab a bottle of Hennessy on a
Sunday afternoon either at the local Ralphs or at a nice Bevmo's.
Girlfriend... we gotta hang out...I feel you about the west-coast....There's really no place like it....
 
Old 10-07-2013, 12:11 PM
 
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I'm a native New Yorker who moved to SC with my company after breaking up with a fiancé. I wanted to get out of Dodge because he came from a huge family that kept pressuring me to go back to him, so I took the first transfer I could get. I had lived in NORTH Carolina before and liked it a lot, so I wrongly assumed SC would be similar. Boy, was I wrong.

A layoff has me stuck here for now, but I'm actively looking for ways to get clear of this backward-thinking, self-sabotaging place. I'll exclude Charleston from that generalization, but at this point that wouldn't be enough of a change from where I am currently.
 
Old 10-07-2013, 12:20 PM
 
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I'm a native New Yorker who moved to SC with my company after breaking up with a fiancé. I wanted to get out of Dodge because he came from a huge family that kept pressuring me to go back to him, so I took the first transfer I could get. I had lived in NORTH Carolina before and liked it a lot, so I wrongly assumed SC would be similar. Boy, was I wrong.

A layoff has me stuck here for now, but I'm actively looking for ways to get clear of this backward-thinking, self-sabotaging place. I'll exclude Charleston from that generalization, but at this point that wouldn't be enough of a change from where I am currently.
What part of SC?
 
Old 10-07-2013, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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We moved from Ocala Fl to Columbia SC. for work. Job and money got scarce in FL, so after some research I found two job offers one in SC and one in CO.
Choose SC,
Man this place is much hotter than FL in the summer and has a higher crime rate and higher taxes,
Really dislike it here, but for now can not afford to get out. Bought a house and now being underwater, we are stuck with our home... Maybe in a another 5 years or so the market may rebound enough to make some money on the sale of the house and head back to FL or maybe Northern GA
 
Old 10-08-2013, 12:53 PM
 
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when you were moving what factors influenced you that you want to stay in that place? I can move anywhere and usually people would stay in the new place for half year to one year and decide. I am trying to speed that up. I guess you talk to people around see if you like the area? drive around? read forums? I really don't like to stay in an apt after I move, so I want to speed up the like it or not process and get a house asap, it's a silly question but any help would be really appreciated
 
Old 10-08-2013, 03:20 PM
 
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Yup, I made the epic mistake of moving to Dallas, TX. My year there was a nightmare and when I was laid off from my job, I got the h*ll out! If you hate it that bad, I wouldn't wait a year. Get your finances together then GTFO!
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