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Old 11-19-2013, 12:38 PM
 
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I am currently living with my sister near San Diego, CA. I plan on moving out with my daughter next year around this time. She will be turning 4 next December. I''ll be 22. I'm trying to find a good place to move. I'm not worried about living near family. We just want something new and fun. Good places for single parents. These are the things I am looking for in the city that I move to. I know there won't be a perfect place that has all of these, but this is what I look for:

Low cost of living (hoping to get an apt for $750/mo or less)
Relatively low crime rate (safe enough for a single mom)
Lots of kid-friendly places to take my daughter (whether it's outdoor things to do or museums/amusement parks; I just want to be able to take her out for a fun time)
Job availability/Low unemployment rates (I don't have a lot of experience anywhere, so I need a place where I can easily land a job)
Great restaurants (food is my life)
A good amount of people (I'm an extrovert, I need social interaction)
A music/arts industry would be great. I love watching symphonies/orchestras and going to festivals.
Anything else I can thank of, I will post in a comment.
Thank you in advance!
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Old 11-19-2013, 12:44 PM
 
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OH! And good schools for my babe!
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Old 11-19-2013, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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Coming out of Southern Ca. what type of weather are you willing to relocate into? Southern Ca, has the worlds best weather, every other place will be quite a change, I could see a young single mother in a place like Seattle, maybe Denver, or Austin,
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Old 11-19-2013, 01:41 PM
 
Location: Outer Space
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Seattle and Denver are both pretty pricy cities rentwise. She would need to double what she is willing to pay in rent in Seattle anyway. I don't know much about Austin in that regard.

Some other cities to think about would be Madison, WI, Louisville, KY, Ann Arbor, MI, for example.
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Old 11-19-2013, 01:49 PM
 
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I've lived in Texas my whole life, so Austin is not in my options. I was snow but not long miserably winters. I don't like California weather only because it's the same year round and doesn't snow.
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Old 11-20-2013, 03:29 PM
 
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Detroit.

Cheap.

Seasons.

Lot's of 'fun'.

Plenty of men milling about for dinners and theatre.

Jobs....well, weak on that score, but you'll be too busy having 'fun'.

Do it for a few years, and then we'll talk at 30 when you are done having 'fun' and serious (and real) about life. Your daughter will be 10 by then. She'll be ready for an adult role model.
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Old 11-20-2013, 03:41 PM
 
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Detroit.

Cheap.

Seasons.

Lot's of 'fun'.

Plenty of men milling about for dinners and theatre.

Jobs....well, weak on that score, but you'll be too busy having 'fun'.

Do it for a few years, and then we'll talk at 30 when you are done having 'fun' and serious (and real) about life. Your daughter will be 10 by then. She'll be ready for an adult role model.


I don't look for that kind of fun. Going out and partying is what I'm assuming you're referring to and I haven't had the chance to do that since I had my daughter. I dropped everything that I was doing that would interfere with giving her the best possible life. I'm a surrogate mom right now, so I'm pregnant again, for someone else to have the gift of a child. I'm not worried about drinking or partying. I'm also a live-in nanny. I care for 3 kids all day everyday. This is my life. I live my life for children. I'm not sure what you thought I meant by fun, but I meant for us. Not just for me. Fun things for her and I to go to together. I'm a great mother, and I wouldn't take my daughter to Detroit. Thanks for the idea, though. I don't have to be 30 to know that the party life is over for me. It's time to have fun with my daughter. I'm not looking for men, either. I haven't had a 'man' since her dad passed away 3 years ago, right after she was born, but thank you for the tip. You're a real catch.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Jamestown, NY
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Realistically, I think that you need to look at the job situation first of all, and find a match with your skills/available jobs. You sound like an entry level employee. Do you have any degree or job skills besides being willing to work?

Many areas with low COL have either high unemployment or low wages.

JMO, but moving with a child and without a job is a disaster waiting to happen for you and your little one.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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Look nationally for a job. Most places in the country will be cheaper than CA. Every area of the country has it's charms. Until you are sure of being in a better place for you and your daughter, I wouldn't leave the support of your family.
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Old 11-20-2013, 04:38 PM
 
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No, I do not have a degree or skills. I'm just an entry level employee. And I honestly don't have a choice but to move. We are living with my sister right now. We have to move out by the end of 2014. I can get a job now and gain a year's worth of experience. That should help me on relocating.
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