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I have a dilemma - my lease is currently up at the end of the month and am currently unemployed. Recently, my job prospects have improved and have several potential job opportunities which could lead to a new job in the next month.
My original plan was to go back to California at the end of the month and stay with family where rent is free and continue my job search. But now that things are looking promising (at least for the moment), I am reconsidering my decision. I would hate to leave only to return in a month's time to start a new job.
I have a friend who has asked how he can help me several times. He fully understands my dilemma and has the means to invite me to stay with him but hasn't. I am considering just coming out and asking if I could stay with him for 2 weeks to a month at most but am reluctant to do so. My feeling is that "help" can mean many things and can just be a polite way of being supportive w/o actually offering any real assistance. I feel that given he knows my situation, he would have just asked if I wanted to stay with him. Being that he hasn't tells me that is an option that's not on the table.
Should I just ask? Or should I just figure something else out? I hate asking and know that will put him in an uncomfortable position should he not want to have me stay with him. But he has offered to help but who knows what that means. I still feel that he would have offered given that I have explained my predicament to him.
Do not do it. Go home and be thankful that you have somewhere to go.
Yeah, I've been as clear as day with him about my situation. I have a feeling he just doesn't want to make the offer. I think his request to help is just a nice way to seem concerned but is still an empty offer. That's OK, I'll just head back to California. I hate asking for this kind of help - and some posters are right, if we were good friends, I wouldn't even have to ask.
My original plan was to go back to California at the end of the month and stay with family where rent is free . . . .
See, this thought you have ". . . where rent is free. . . ." bothers me. If I were someone you were planning on asking to stay with and I read THAT, it would bother me.
Rent is never free. I've had houseguests who've trashed the place and not lifted a finger to help out or clean up after themselves. They acted like it was a hotel.
If you do request to stay with someone, at least say that you'll help out around the house: take out trash on trash day. Mow the grass. Walk and play with their animals. You need to SELL yourself as a house"guest".
Also, state that you will be out on such-and-such date. And don't bring all of your crap with you, either. Put it in storage. I've had house "guests" bring a ton of crap with them--treating my basement as their storage--then, two year after they've gone, I've contacted them to come get it, and they just "never had the time". I told them that by X date, if they didn't come and get it, that Salvation Army was going to get a big donation. After three years, they came and got the few items they wanted, and expected me to haul the rest of the crap out and pay to dispose of it.
Do you have enough money to pay for 2-3 more weeks where you are right now? If so, you might ask your landlord about extending your lease for a few weeks.
Also, if you do change your mind and ask to stay with him, clean up after yourself, respect his schedule, offer money for increased utilities and buy your own food. In other words, don't make him regret agreeing to let you stay there a while.
See, this thought you have ". . . where rent is free. . . ." bothers me. If I were someone you were planning on asking to stay with and I read THAT, it would bother me.
Rent is never free. I've had houseguests who've trashed the place and not lifted a finger to help out or clean up after themselves. They acted like it was a hotel.
If you do request to stay with someone, at least say that you'll help out around the house: take out trash on trash day. Mow the grass. Walk and play with their animals. You need to SELL yourself as a house"guest".
Also, state that you will be out on such-and-such date. And don't bring all of your crap with you, either. Put it in storage. I've had house "guests" bring a ton of crap with them--treating my basement as their storage--then, two year after they've gone, I've contacted them to come get it, and they just "never had the time". I told them that by X date, if they didn't come and get it, that Salvation Army was going to get a big donation. After three years, they came and got the few items they wanted, and expected me to haul the rest of the crap out and pay to dispose of it.
Do you have enough money to pay for 2-3 more weeks where you are right now? If so, you might ask your landlord about extending your lease for a few weeks.
Also, if you do change your mind and ask to stay with him, clean up after yourself, respect his schedule, offer money for increased utilities and buy your own food. In other words, don't make him regret agreeing to let you stay there a while.
I could stay at an Extended Stay place for 2 weeks but I'm not sure that will do me a lot of good. It's quite pricey. It really depends on how things look at the end of the month after the next round of interviews. But good suggestion.
The landlord here is a corporate operation - they wanted an additional $500 a month to go month-to-month. Yikes!
I could stay at an Extended Stay place for 2 weeks but I'm not sure that will do me a lot of good. It's quite pricey. It really depends on how things look at the end of the month after the next round of interviews. But good suggestion.
The landlord here is a corporate operation - they wanted an additional $500 a month to go month-to-month. Yikes!
That's so ridiculous. ^^^
Does your friend actually have extra room, or would you be on the couch in the living room? Would you be sharing a bathroom? I would be more inclined to ask for the favor if I knew I wasn't going to be in the common area or sharing a bathroom.
Does your friend actually have extra room, or would you be on the couch in the living room? Would you be sharing a bathroom? I would be more inclined to ask for the favor if I knew I wasn't going to be in the common area or sharing a bathroom.
It sure is - there seems to be a shortage in rentals here which is why they can ask for it. Extended Stay hotels start at $1,400 a month for something that is not very nice.
My friend has a five bedroom house in the country so I'm sure he would have a room for me. It's a large house. But I just feel that I have given enough hints already that if he hasn't offered by now, I shouldn't ask.
Here's another option. Ask your friend if you can rent a room from him for a month and give him what you were paying in rent at your old place (or close to it). I know if I had a big house with some empty rooms and I had a friend (even if not that close) I'd welcome a nice chunk of change for a month. Just make sure you stress how clean you will be and how you will NOT inconvenience him. You just need a rental for a month.
Here's another option. Ask your friend if you can rent a room from him for a month and give him what you were paying in rent at your old place (or close to it). I know if I had a big house with some empty rooms and I had a friend (even if not that close) I'd welcome a nice chunk of change for a month. Just make sure you stress how clean you will be and how you will NOT inconvenience him. You just need a rental for a month.
That's a good idea.
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