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Old 04-22-2014, 08:58 PM
 
Location: between the swamp and the ocean
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The fastest way to make friends is to go do things that really interest you! Just turn off the computer and go. I find that to be the biggest problem with people in my real life who complain about no social life (and want one). They just make tons of excuses instead of getting out there.
Yes. Meetup.com is a great source of opportunities to get involved in activities while meeting new friends.
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Old 04-23-2014, 08:56 AM
 
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First off, making friends is literally the least of my concerns with a major move.
Quite a few things are more
important to me than friends, lol
I do, however like to have people
I can get insider info
from on the local issues,
best & worst of lists, etc.
Serendipity brought me a
Californian yesterday-
he seriously was inspiring &
motivating me to relocate there &
with my career, I can.
We spent hours talking about how I'd do this, where, how much rents are there, etc.
It's wonderful knowing ppl
who are already where u wanna be
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Old 04-23-2014, 08:56 AM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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I would wait just as long as it takes to get the house unpacked and the grill going. We have been in our home for over three years and know just about everyone on the street. Our next door neighbors became friends right away. Two doors down had one question to us after a few weeks, I was outside doing some yard work. They just wanted to know if we were renters or owners. We told them that we had bought the home. The former owner rented it out to lots of people, as many as 17 at one time. LOL After finding out we were owners they became friends. The other next door neighbor has kids in high school that are friends with our kids, that is always an easy way to make friends. In fact three of our neighbors have kids that are friends with our kids. They come over all the time and we have had them over for some of the burnt food I make in the back yard. Love the grill. Another couple like hanging out with us because they are also new to the neighborhood, they moved a year before we did and I guess found it hard to make friends. Most of the people on our street have been there for decades. After 6 months in our home we finally met another neighbor that lives a couple doors down. The lady of the house is a former co-worker. They were always fone though with traveling teams for their daughters. That was kind of cool to find out that after 6 months we knew them allready. LOL

One easy way to make friends is make some cookies and deliver them. Don't wait for the neighbors to bring you anything. Now when someone new moves in bring them something, then you will have a new friend. If you want to make friends become proactive in becoming a friend.
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Old 04-23-2014, 11:53 AM
 
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I would never base my relocation decisions on friends or not making friends.
^I'm with TXred.

I've fortunate in that I've never had trouble making friends. Granted, in small towns it's difficult, but many times I have found that people don't try hard enough to make friends. The use work as their only source or attempt to make friends. They come home and then they don't go anywhere. In any city I move to, I always find groups with similar interest through meetup.com or similar avenues. I look for people online in hobbies that we share. I join recreational sports leagues, etc. I make friends very very quickly, but if I didn't, I don't think I'd ever use it as an excuse to move to another city.
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Old 04-23-2014, 02:49 PM
 
Location: The Great White North
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If you're being outgoing and sociable, having no friends after a year would be a warning sign. That was my experience on moving to MN- lots of friendly people, but despite my best efforts no real friendships. I made the mistake of giving it a 2nd year with even more effort (and similar results) before deciding to move on. That said, the upper midwest is pretty notoriously closed off if you're not a native.

I've made lifelong friends in as little as 3 months, but that was because I lived and worked with them and formed an immediate connection.
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Old 04-24-2014, 10:16 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
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If you're being outgoing and sociable, having no friends after a year would be a warning sign. That was my experience on moving to MN- lots of friendly people, but despite my best efforts no real friendships. I made the mistake of giving it a 2nd year with even more effort (and similar results) before deciding to move on. That said, the upper midwest is pretty notoriously closed off if you're not a native.

I've made lifelong friends in as little as 3 months, but that was because I lived and worked with them and formed an immediate connection.
Some areas out west are pretty closed off as well. I see what you mean about making an effort though. That would be pretty frustrating if you are making an honest effort and still didn't have friends.
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Old 04-25-2014, 01:58 AM
 
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I was chatting with a friend of a friend who had recently relocated. She said the reason she left her former town was because she wasn't making any friends. She had only lived there for a year. To me that seemed like a pretty short time to give up on a place for not making friends. Maybe it's just because I've lived in small towns where people can be a bit reserved and it takes time to make friends, but I think I would give it more than one year. Would any of you move to a new town after living there for a year and not making friends?
Seems like a very short trial period to me as well. I have moved four times in the past fifteen years - though the first was only for a short-term stay. However, in the other three making friends - as opposed to casual acquaintances - occurred in the second and third years living in each place.
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Old 04-26-2014, 03:38 AM
 
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I am an introvert and don't really identify with most women as I am more a tomboy so it takes me longer than most. I moved to Arizona and it took me about 2 1/2 years to make a close friend. She admitted later she didn't want to be friends at first because I was from out of state. We have been in sc for a year and half, I still don't have close friend but I have different meet ups I go too, so hopefully that will help.
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Old 04-26-2014, 10:20 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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I am an introvert and don't really identify with most women as I am more a tomboy so it takes me longer than most. I moved to Arizona and it took me about 2 1/2 years to make a close friend. She admitted later she didn't want to be friends at first because I was from out of state. We have been in sc for a year and half, I still don't have close friend but I have different meet ups I go too, so hopefully that will help.
It took me a while in my current town as I am not of the same religion as a lot if the populace nor am I a heavy drinker like a lot of the others. I definitely had to work hard as there weren't many options available but I did finally make friends. I wouldn't have moved away after a year though.
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Old 04-26-2014, 11:17 AM
 
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I moved from the Midwest (WI) to coastal South Carolina last year. I've met a few people here and there, but I'm really enjoying solitude, too. It's nice to be alone and be able to sit quietly at the beach or go hiking through the woods without chatting. I think that if I were to feel disappointment at not making lots of friends, I'd be a very unhappy person here.

I'm not sure that picking up and moving would even enter my mind. I've met a few people just in the past several weeks now that I have my "rhythm" down. I run into the same people at the beach or on the trails. Once you start seeing the same folks, it's easier to converse, I find. (Although I talk to everyone, everywhere!)
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