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Old 04-23-2015, 08:10 PM
 
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Okay,
Here's our story. We lived in the midwest until my oldest was in 4th grade and our littlest was in 1st grade. We got bored of living in a cookie cutter area and I wanted my children to experience culture. So we moved to Europe for a couple years. Europe has it's negatives and positives. My oldest thrived in school, but our littlest struggled. We moved back to America so we could find a better school. We did, but we are living in a temporary situation until this summer, when we'll be moving away again. My husband took a job in our very Idyllic idea of an area, Colorado. We, had a one year stop over for training in another state first though. So after this we "knew" we were moving to Colorado. We've sold the children on the idea and we've all really fallen in love with the idea. Well, we just found out Europe wants my husband to come back. Both of my children are adamant about not wanting to move to Europe again. I love the idea of Colorado, but I also enjoyed Europe.

The big picture for us is this, we are in financial trouble. The move to Europe would come with a large bonus and certain career advancement for my husband. If we stayed with Colorado we would live near family for the first time ever, which could be good or scary, and we would be back in America, which is kinda nice.

I think Europe would be best for us financially, but emotionally Colorado might work?
I also, do not want to "ruin" my childs life by uprooting them again. Although, either way we have to move from here to Colorado or Europe, so a move is inevitable.

I don't know?

My kids have no roots yet, and I think they want some?

Any advice would be nice.
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Old 04-24-2015, 08:54 AM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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The big picture for us is this, we are in financial trouble.

We got bored of living in a cookie cutter area...
So we moved to Europe for a couple years.
My kids have no roots yet, and I think they want some?

My husband took a job in... Colorado.
Any advice would be nice.
#1 Job. #2 Schools/Community #3 -12 Only after the others.
You could do worse than being in Colorado.
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Old 04-24-2015, 08:56 AM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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The big picture for us is this, we are in financial trouble.

We got bored of living in a cookie cutter area...
So we moved to Europe for a couple years.
My kids have no roots yet, and I think they want some?

My husband took a job in... Colorado.
Any advice would be nice.
#1 Job. #2 Schools/Community #3 -12 Only after the others.
You could do worse than being in Colorado.

Grow up. Settle in. Make it work.
In ten years, after the kids are out of school, reconsider your options.
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Old 04-24-2015, 09:00 AM
 
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I would go with europe. the kids are small, explain to them jobs, like chores are something you have to do. the job is in europe, without the job you don't eat. colorado will always be there as will europe, however not many children get the education that europe offers culturally that colorado can not compare to. put the smallest kid in private school or home school him
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Old 04-24-2015, 12:38 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I would choose what's best financially. That needs to be the biggest concern. It doesn't sound like you mentioned many positives for your family if you did move to Colorado though. If either place you would do ok in terms of job and money, I would then pick which would be best for your kids with schooling, which offers the most in terms of lifestyle and where you can see yourself living for 10+ years since you want this to be fairly permanent and not keep moving around.
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Old 04-24-2015, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I would totally move out of the country if we could. I feel like other countries have way more to offer as far as education, culture and safety. It is incredibly scary and intimidating to me though! Our finances are so tight that I am afraid for us to do something that drastic :/.

We were planning to move to Oregon, but cost of living is too much there, so we switched to Minnesota. Our oldest (5) was disappointed because we talked up Oregon so much, she couldn't imagine anywhere else, but we explained to her that if she wants to be able to do fun things and go to a good school, Minnesota is where we need to be. She is now okay with Minnesota.

I think you just have to follow your instincts and pick the most logical and beneficial place. Your children may be upset at first if that place is Europe, but they are not supposed to like all your decisions either and they will adjust.
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Old 04-24-2015, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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how old are the kids now?
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Old 04-24-2015, 10:19 PM
 
Location: Tennessee at last!
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Your kids have no memory or real idea about living in CO...only the fantasy you planted in their heads. Start planning specific European ideas in their head and you can mold them to desire Europe. Tell them of the fun things you will do there that you can not do in the US.

And follow the money and job. Use some of the extra money to pay for grandparents to visit you.
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Old 04-25-2015, 03:40 AM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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So, if you follow your head you will go to Europe, your heart you will go to Colorado.

If you are in financial trouble...then you need to go to Europe, overall that will be what is best for the children (financial stability can be so important)....you can always move to Colorado, in a few years, or when it will be more financially feasible to do so.
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Old 04-25-2015, 03:17 PM
 
Location: The house on the hill
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Sometimes we have an idea about how things will be living in a certain area. We dream about it, fantasize, etc. But the reality of doing it could be entirely different. This happened to us when we moved to somewhere we thought we wanted to be (beautiful area, closer to family) but it was a huge disappointment.
With Europe, you've been there, done that, and are familiar with it. The opportunity for a big bonus, and financial stability would probably serve you and your family well.
In life, we all strive for happiness and security. You need to do what will provide your family with the best possible future. Plus, as long as you're all together, working as a team, you can accomplish anything.
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