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Old 07-20-2015, 10:24 AM
 
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Twice recently, people have asked for my help moving. In both cases, it was just a move across town so a very short move of maybe 3 miles and both people really only wanted my help with the big stuff, like couch, chairs, bed, and fridge, and a dresser. Both people have said that they planned to move EVERYTHING in 1 day so I was thinking, "Great, I don't need to make a lot of time for these moves." In both instances, I show up at their house on the morning of the move and nothing is ready to go. Clothes are thrown all over the house, , there's all kinds of junk on top of the dresser. When I say junk, I mean they both had to go through every item they found to see if it was anything important enough to keep.

Why can't people actually be ready for a move when they say they'll be ready? I was there to help move things, not to help pack and definitely not sit there while they sort through their trash.
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Old 07-20-2015, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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In both instances, I show up at their house on the morning of the move and nothing is ready to go.
I would've said, "I'll go get coffee. Call me when it's time to move the couch, fridge, etc."

You could also be very clear the next time that you are asked to help move stuff that you are there to move x, y, and z and that you also have your errands to do, so please be ready.
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Old 07-20-2015, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Sun City West, Arizona
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Long ago I stopped helping people move, and reminded them that when I moved I hired a small local company to take care of everything...at pretty reasonable prices.
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Old 07-20-2015, 01:01 PM
 
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Twice recently, people have asked for my help moving. In both cases, it was just a move across town so a very short move of maybe 3 miles and both people really only wanted my help with the big stuff, like couch, chairs, bed, and fridge, and a dresser. Both people have said that they planned to move EVERYTHING in 1 day so I was thinking, "Great, I don't need to make a lot of time for these moves." In both instances, I show up at their house on the morning of the move and nothing is ready to go. Clothes are thrown all over the house, , there's all kinds of junk on top of the dresser. When I say junk, I mean they both had to go through every item they found to see if it was anything important enough to keep.

Why can't people actually be ready for a move when they say they'll be ready? I was there to help move things, not to help pack and definitely not sit there while they sort through their trash.
You must be a fairly big guy...
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Old 07-20-2015, 01:03 PM
 
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mdlee, I couldn't agree with you more. To answer your question, some people are not respectful of others, or the time of others. They think it's all about them and never consider that others have things to do and are "donating" their time and effort to help them move. This can be annoying and frustrating. I love helping people, but it's annoying when you arrive on time and they are not ready for you. I have never been able to figure it out...do they just not care? or are they ignorant and unaware of what they're doing? Don't know.

I agree with Meemur, but I probably would have been a bit more direct, saying "Gee, I thought you had everything packed and just needed help moving the stuff. I'll give you time to pack your things and just call me when you're ready to move the items into the truck.
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Old 07-20-2015, 01:04 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Long ago I stopped helping people move, and reminded them that when I moved I hired a small local company to take care of everything...at pretty reasonable prices.
This. My friends have learned that just because my wife and I own a truck and SUV doesn't mean we're volunteering to help move. But we'll be happy to refer them to movers.
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Old 07-20-2015, 01:55 PM
 
Location: some where in the old USA
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Long ago I stopped helping people move, and reminded them that when I moved I hired a small local company to take care of everything...at pretty reasonable prices.
best way to do
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Old 07-20-2015, 06:33 PM
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Location: under the beautiful Carolina blue
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Twice recently, people have asked for my help moving. In both cases, it was just a move across town so a very short move of maybe 3 miles and both people really only wanted my help with the big stuff, like couch, chairs, bed, and fridge, and a dresser. Both people have said that they planned to move EVERYTHING in 1 day so I was thinking, "Great, I don't need to make a lot of time for these moves." In both instances, I show up at their house on the morning of the move and nothing is ready to go. Clothes are thrown all over the house, , there's all kinds of junk on top of the dresser. When I say junk, I mean they both had to go through every item they found to see if it was anything important enough to keep.

Why can't people actually be ready for a move when they say they'll be ready? I was there to help move things, not to help pack and definitely not sit there while they sort through their trash.
People who are too cheap to hire a mover also have a dirty little secret - they can't be ready for a mover either.
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Old 07-20-2015, 11:41 PM
 
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Why can't people actually be ready for a move when they say they'll be ready? I was there to help move things, not to help pack and definitely not sit there while they sort through their trash.[/quote]

I know what you mean. Every-time someone I know moves, even if I'm not helping them, it always is a drawn out thing that takes way longer than it should.
Not to mention they always ask someone to help them and I've always moved with one other persons help in one day. It's not a fun time so I cannot understand why people drag it out for so long.
But then again, maybe it's more of a "not organized or haven't even started packing due to putting it off until the day of sort of thing."

I feel your frustration.
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Old 07-21-2015, 10:00 AM
 
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You must be a fairly big guy...
I'm not really all that big. I mean, I'm 6'3" and about 220lbs, but I'm not like super strong.

To everybody else, thanks. I basically just wanted to make sure that I wasn't looking at this whole helping move thing wrong.
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