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Old 10-01-2015, 12:10 PM
 
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Hi,

I moved back to England about 5 months ago. I was born here but have lived in Florida/ NYC since I was eight so I am American pretty much. I haven't been able to settle into a job I like or settle in anywhere at all. I live with my parents at the moment which is difficult because I'm used to having my own place. Even though I am living with them it just doesn't feel like home to me. I have been missing New York and really want to go back. The problem is that my mum said she would be disappointed if I didn't give it a year, but I feel I am sticking it out for her and I hate it. What should I do? Should I give it a year?
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Old 10-01-2015, 12:25 PM
 
Location: Billings, MT
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It depends.
Is your mother's happiness of importance to you? Then give her the year. She will quite likely appreciate it. However, if you are going to make her life miserable by complaining about being stuck there for a year, leave now.
If you are more concerned about YOUR happiness than hers, go back to New York.
(Personally, I can't imagine wanting to live there!)
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Old 10-01-2015, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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I would give it a little bit of time...sometimes it takes awhile to adjust. A year in the scheme of things isn't a really long time.
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Old 10-01-2015, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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^But if you are desperately, horribly miserable...I don't know, maybe you should follow your heart. But I would stay for a bit (six months or a year)for your Mom's sake, if that means so much to her.
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Old 10-01-2015, 12:59 PM
 
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Thank you for your advice... I do care about her happiness, I know that if I leave she will never let it go. I don't want to ruin our relationship or feel guilty. I want t go back to school and she doesn't agree with that either. she thinks I should get a job in corporate. She will say do what you want but then say why it's not a good idea. I don't really know how to approach it. I want to prove to her that I can do it.
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Old 10-01-2015, 01:59 PM
 
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England sucks, I can imagine why you are in such culture shock.

I'd leave. Life's too short.
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Old 10-01-2015, 05:41 PM
 
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How old are you ? Why did you move back to England in the first place ? What were your long range plans? Do you think it would make any difference if you got your own place ?
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Old 10-01-2015, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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she thinks I should get a job in corporate.
Does she say that because she's worked in corporate and sees potential in you?

If so, do that and suck it up for a year. You may find you're in better shape there than you would be in the US.

If not, go to school.

But stay for at least a year. The US is on the edge of a major economic downturn, so stick it out for now. You may find that you are much better off there, even with the culture shock.
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Old 10-02-2015, 01:45 AM
 
Location: S. FL (hell for me-wife loves it)
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I'm with Cinders. Life is too short.
I know you love your Mom, but just sit her down and explain to her you have to move on.
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Old 10-02-2015, 03:24 AM
 
Location: SE UK
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England sucks, I can imagine why you are in such culture shock.

I'd leave. Life's too short.
You're nice
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