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Old 10-06-2016, 08:25 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Just interested in hearing if anyone has done this before and how it went.

One thing I have learned about myself is that I am way too analytical and picky when deciding on a place to relocate to and I end up going crazy comparing multiple places and focusing on the negatives. And if things don't go so well, I end up blaming myself for having picked the place I relocated to.

Therefore, I have determined that for me, randomly selecting a place to move to is the best thing for me to do. The only criteria that I have is that (1) it must be a metropolitan area (size and location doesn't matter) and (2) I must be able to secure employment, and (3) I must be able to have a sufficient income to live comfortably with the local cost of living. And then, I would just accept the negatives and positives about the area and be happy.

This mentality has been a tremendous help for me and has made me a much stronger, versatile, adaptive person when it comes to living arrangements. Having grown up in a small rural town and also lived in midtown NYC, I can handle ANYTHING. Any climate. Any culture. Any pace. Any population density. Therefore, I do not care whether I am living in NYC or Hinesville, GA.

For the record, I am not looking to relocate as we speak, but I'm just saying, as a 32 year old who spent countless hours and threads on these forums over the past 8 years, this is my new philosophy on relocation. I recognize the value of every place and accept the negatives and positives accordingly.

I am so much happier than ever, and more at peace, with my new mentality. It works for me.

Your opinion on the matter? Your experiences?
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Old 10-06-2016, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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I sort of did. When I lost my job in 2000 (my own fault) I had searched for my career field and there were jobs all over, I really just had to pick where I wanted to live.


I eliminated the places I would never live and then picked from what was left over.
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Old 10-06-2016, 02:18 PM
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Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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And then, I would just accept the negatives and positives about the area and be happy.
You can do the same thing without having to choose randomly. I agree that trying to research and analyze to find your 'perfect' place is usually bound to not work out very well, and I could see that maybe some people might blame themselves for 'failing'.
I think there is a happy medium whereby you could research and choose a place that you think would mostly make you happy and then apply your new philosophy of accepting the bad along with the good.
No harm in choosing to mostly look along lakes and beaches if you know that you enjoy spending your off time on the water for instance
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Old 10-06-2016, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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You can do the same thing without having to choose randomly. I agree that trying to research and analyze to find your 'perfect' place is usually bound to not work out very well, and I could see that maybe some people might blame themselves for 'failing'.
I think there is a happy medium whereby you could research and choose a place that you think would mostly make you happy and then apply your new philosophy of accepting the bad along with the good.
No harm in choosing to mostly look along lakes and beaches if you know that you enjoy spending your off time on the water for instance
True, but in the case of myself, knowing the way I am, I would most likely end up dwelling on the fact that I could have chosen a different place or a better place. Then the self blame sets in. I simply cannot trust myself to make the choice myself.
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Old 10-08-2016, 08:39 PM
 
Location: North Dakota
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Just interested in hearing if anyone has done this before and how it went.

One thing I have learned about myself is that I am way too analytical and picky when deciding on a place to relocate to and I end up going crazy comparing multiple places and focusing on the negatives. And if things don't go so well, I end up blaming myself for having picked the place I relocated to.

Therefore, I have determined that for me, randomly selecting a place to move to is the best thing for me to do. The only criteria that I have is that (1) it must be a metropolitan area (size and location doesn't matter) and (2) I must be able to secure employment, and (3) I must be able to have a sufficient income to live comfortably with the local cost of living. And then, I would just accept the negatives and positives about the area and be happy.

This mentality has been a tremendous help for me and has made me a much stronger, versatile, adaptive person when it comes to living arrangements. Having grown up in a small rural town and also lived in midtown NYC, I can handle ANYTHING. Any climate. Any culture. Any pace. Any population density. Therefore, I do not care whether I am living in NYC or Hinesville, GA.

For the record, I am not looking to relocate as we speak, but I'm just saying, as a 32 year old who spent countless hours and threads on these forums over the past 8 years, this is my new philosophy on relocation. I recognize the value of every place and accept the negatives and positives accordingly.

I am so much happier than ever, and more at peace, with my new mentality. It works for me.

Your opinion on the matter? Your experiences?
I've never picked a random place. It needs to have a decent job and reasonable cost of living for me to consider it.
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Old 10-12-2016, 08:02 PM
 
Location: Sun City West, Arizona
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I don't know if you'd call this "random", but I lived in Bangkok, Thailand for a couple of years, and then decided to return to the States. I didn't want to move back East...been there, done that my whole life. I liked the mountains so sort of randomly decided on Colorado Springs. At first I liked it, although the elevation affected my health. Later I came to hate it. Too small town for me who had lived in Washington, D.C. and Bangkok.

I am now on a trip to Phoenix to buy a house there. The elevation is much better (about 1500 feet instead of 6500 feet), and the retirement community is a good fit for me at my age. I've only visited Phoenix a couple of times, though.
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Old 10-13-2016, 09:49 AM
 
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I bought a house in a very tiny community 2k miles away and in a different country because I saw it on MLS, liked it, talked to the realtor on the phone, made a 4 day drive there to view it in person and 3 days later owned it - in the middle of December in a northern clime. 4 years later I am still trying to actually complete my move there but though I regret that I was not a bit smarter about getting rid of one place before I purchased the other (especially because of the distance between them and the fact they are not even in the same country), I don't regret taking the chance on a totally new place/lifestyle, as a result of a random web search, in a place I had never considered moving to before.
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Old 10-25-2016, 04:49 PM
 
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I have once
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