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Old 10-13-2016, 06:03 PM
 
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Hi all,

I just moved to Seattle about two months ago from Denver and I am regretting the move. I've been obsessed with living here for the last three years, I've told all of my friends and family how much I wanted to live here. I left a really good school in CO to go to a community college here and now that I'm here I feel like I'm drowning.

I'm so homesick that I'm crying all the time. I haven't made friends yet. My rent is $1000 a month for a 200sq ft apartment so I have to work quite a bit along with a full course load. I want to go home and go back to my old school but I'm embarrassed to leave so quickly when I've talked about doing this forever. It feels like a failure. I'd have to wait until the end of the semester which means that I will have only been here for about 5 months.

Does anyone have advice or similar experiences? I don't know what to do.
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Old 10-13-2016, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Personally? If you had the funds I would move back & brave the talk. Just say, whew, that was a big mistake but sure am glad I did it but sure glad I came home.
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Old 10-13-2016, 08:52 PM
 
Location: East of the Sun, West of the Moon
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Two months? Get ahold of yourself and stick out the semester. Then go home for Christmas and make yourself go back for the Spring semester. If after that you still want to go back to CO, at least you gave it the ol' college try and no one will fault you and you can be proud of yourself for sticking it out longer than your emotions wanted you to.

But at just two months you are understandably homesick. It is natural, but no reason to give up.
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Old 10-13-2016, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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Once I settled in, I was very sad about moving from the east coast to the midwest for college and decided transfer to a college back home as soon as Fall semester ended. Then I decided to wait until Spring semester ended. Somehow I never made it back and graduated from college in the Midwest. That was 45 years ago. And looking back I think about all the differences my life would now be if I had done the return.

While I am not sorry about how my life turned out, I remember a lot of loneliness during my college years and a big gap the relationships between me and my parents, sister, brother and cousins because I took the path so far away. And I have regrets I did not go back.
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Old 10-13-2016, 08:58 PM
 
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You can't expect to make friends in just two months, you should give it more time, Seattle is a nice city!
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Old 10-14-2016, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Gettysburg, PA
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I'm so homesick that I'm crying all the time. I haven't made friends yet. My rent is $1000 a month for a 200sq ft apartment so I have to work quite a bit along with a full course load. I want to go home and go back to my old school but I'm embarrassed to leave so quickly when I've talked about doing this forever. It feels like a failure. I'd have to wait until the end of the semester which means that I will have only been here for about 5 months.

Does anyone have advice or similar experiences? I don't know what to do.
Your apartment's really only 15X15 ft? I'd definitely leave if I were to have to pay that much for so little space. Don't feel embarrassed about what other people think--what matters is what you think; if they want to look down on you for your decisions, screw them. I'd just tell them, if you feel like you have them anything, that you found out it wasn't for you. Sometimes that happens. Get out of there fast, that's way too high cost of living, especially for some place you don't like. Best wishes.
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Old 10-14-2016, 12:55 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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feeling homesick is natural. give it a little more time
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Old 10-17-2016, 04:47 AM
 
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Personally? If you had the funds I would move back & brave the talk. Just say, whew, that was a big mistake but sure am glad I did it but sure glad I came home.
One of the times I left town for a big venture, a very wise friend told me, "Don't be afraid to come back if you want to."

I wanted to and I did. Another daydream completed before its time! She was very wise.
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Old 10-17-2016, 09:20 AM
 
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I agree with both sets of advice give here. One, give it time, certainly don't waste your tuition by pulling out in the middle of the semester. Its been a big move, adjust.

Two, you at least had the courage to try something new, moving back is no embarrassment despite with other people without the guts might say. My biggest recommendation to you is to hang on to that part of your spirit. Try everything! Some things won't work out as well as others. Most of the really successful people in life got fired from various jobs, tried all sorts of weird things moved around. You just keep trying things on. Adventure matters!
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Old 01-14-2017, 07:27 PM
 
Location: WA
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I live in Seattle and while I think homesickness is natural and it takes awhile to adjust to a new place, I also think it's probably not going to get much better here. Seattle used to be great but it's way too expensive now, people have a well deserved reputation for being kind of cold/unfriendly/weird, and after sunny Denver the weather here may get to you. I see no shame in leaving and saying you got it out of your system and prefer Denver (many do). However, you may want to stick it out a little longer just to be sure. But nothing to be embarrassed about. You had an experience.
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