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Hi, been trying to relocate for years now to be close to our oldest son. He's been away from us for 10 years now, because we wanted a better life for him because of the wrong choices he was making in his life. We're very proud of the young man he has become. We've had our house on the market a few times we finally got a offer on our house but the problem is our youngest son who's 24 years old doesn't want to move. Where we live at all u hear about is SHOOTINGS, KILLINGS, AND ROBBERIES. A few has happened very close to home some seconds or minutes of him leaving the house. We thank God for keeping him covered. The move is to get him away from here for better opportunities and to be closer to his brother. The time missed with our oldest son is time we can't get back. He's our baby, he don't be with anyone but mommy and daddy or his girlfriend. We can't leave him here by his self, feeling lost and stressed!!!
If he's 24, he's old enough to make his own decisions. You can try to persuade him, but I don't see how you can really MAKE him move if he doesn't want to move.
Maybe you could go ahead and move, and then keep in touch with daily phone calls so that you know he's OK? You don't need this extra stress, in addition to the usual moving stress, that's for sure.
If he's 24, he's old enough to make his own decisions. You can try to persuade him, but I don't see how you can really MAKE him move if he doesn't want to move.
Maybe you could go ahead and move, and then keep in touch with daily phone calls so that you know he's OK? You don't need this extra stress, in addition to the usual moving stress, that's for sure.
Yes that's so true and i know I can't make him move, but I'm praying that he will change his mind. I just can't see myself leaving him here, this is so depressing. Thank you
He's 24 and still living at home? What's wrong with him? When I was 19, I couldn't wait to leave home and begin my own life.
OP you need to give him a date certain, and move with or without him. Quit coddling him.
If OP does live in Trenton, NJ, I understand her fear of leaving him there.
Most of Trenton is not safe anytime and really not safe for vulnerable young men.
Mom, one thing that hit me was how helpless you sound. Take the offer on the house (that is a HUGE accomplishment), you might never get another one.
Offer to move the GF with you, get your older son to speak with him.
Honestly, I would do just about anything to get him to move.
I worked in Trenton for 25 years.
One of my sons went to college in a city with a lot of crime. When I moved him in to his dorm, I thought "how will he survive." Well he survived, excelled, went to another big city for MS and joined the military and was deployed to Iraq several times. He survived, without us. He was 27 after his second deployment.
He's 24 and still living at home? What's wrong with him? When I was 19, I couldn't wait to leave home and begin my own life.
OP you need to give him a date certain, and move with or without him. Quit coddling him.
Yes he's 24 and lives at home, there's nothing wrong with him. I'm a quadriplegic, and he's a big help to my wife and I. I'm definitely not coddling him. He's a very responsible, respectful young man and he works 2 jobs and going to class to get his CDL'S.
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