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Old 02-25-2017, 06:36 PM
 
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I moved to FL from DE on a whim. I was 21 and had just graduated. Someone said to me a few years ago, "I don't know why you moved down there. And nothing's worked out for you since you've been there." And its true, things haven't worked out. I'm wondering if I'm still in the wrong place. Have I been here long enough that its better to stay now? Or should I go back? A part of me also wonders that if I go back, I will just have the same problems that I do now in FL.

 
Old 02-25-2017, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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A part of me also wonders that if I go back, I will just have the same problems that I do now in FL.
That you would even bring up the question suggests that you already know the answer: YES.

Get a handle on whatever it is that's keeping you from having the life that you want where you are.
 
Old 02-25-2017, 07:05 PM
 
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Right... You are right... But I've also heard it said, "Sometimes you gotta change your circumstances." I used to live with a 60-year old guy (I am 28). When I got outta there, I felt great. I live with my friends now.

Maybe I never belonged here.
 
Old 02-25-2017, 07:07 PM
 
Location: annandale, va & slidell, la
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I moved to FL from DE on a whim. I was 21 and had just graduated. Someone said to me a few years ago, "I don't know why you moved down there. And nothing's worked out for you since you've been there." And its true, things haven't worked out. I'm wondering if I'm still in the wrong place. Have I been here long enough that its better to stay now? Or should I go back? A part of me also wonders that if I go back, I will just have the same problems that I do now in FL.
You don't give enough information to provide any analysis. Hopefully you didn't land in Jacksonville. Second guessing yourself does no good. But you can move forward no matter where you end up.
It's tough relocating cross-country alone. I did it with and without a companion. It's much easier to cope with one.
We all have our stories.
 
Old 02-25-2017, 10:32 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Have you been working since you moved there? What prompted you to move in with such an older man? Why are you now not living with him?

You've supplied u with more questions than answers. Please explain so we can help you.
 
Old 02-25-2017, 11:30 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Do you have any family or friends in Delaware?

I'm not going to sound like mom until you give me more details.
 
Old 02-26-2017, 09:40 AM
 
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OP- you really need to explain more.

Where did you expect to be with your work life seven years out from college ? Are you there- if not , why not.

Seven years out from college, you should be able to afford your own home/ apartment. Do you need to be living with room mates ?

If your life isn't going the way you want, then you need to figure out what you want and how to get it. If may have less to do with where you live and more to do with your ability to plan your life and work at making your plans come true.
 
Old 02-26-2017, 10:26 AM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Not enough info! Where can you make a better living? Which state has better COL? Do you have friends or family in either state?
 
Old 02-26-2017, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Georgia
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I moved to FL from DE on a whim. I was 21 and had just graduated. Someone said to me a few years ago, "I don't know why you moved down there. And nothing's worked out for you since you've been there." And its true, things haven't worked out. I'm wondering if I'm still in the wrong place. Have I been here long enough that its better to stay now? Or should I go back? A part of me also wonders that if I go back, I will just have the same problems that I do now in FL.
You aren't even 30, yet. Some people have moved 3 times in the time since you graduated. You don't have to go back to Delaware, you know -- it's a big, big world, and you have no ties, apparently. This is the time of your life that you don't have to think about much else other than yourself.

Might want to talk to a career counselor and see if you're really in the right field, and what your options might be?
 
Old 02-26-2017, 01:45 PM
 
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to gardnerj:
You are fine and young and pretty accomplished for the age.
Maybe the feeling you are overwhelmed right now with is due to something you're taking on a regular basis, like energy-sugary drink or so.
No circumstance will change established individual, and I consider you one.
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