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Old 12-07-2017, 02:32 PM
 
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So this is my situation.

Wife moved back west with the kids, while I still work in my job back east. This was 3 years back and for the last 3 years I take a 5 hour flight every weekend to be with them. It has worked out surprisingly well but obviously far from ideal. This was never the plan.

Anyway so finally after applying, interviewing and receiving quite a few job offers, I found a job that seems like a good fit. The problem is the pay cut is massive, a little over $45000 a year and is a step back career wise. Also the vacation is 1/3rd of the current job. I have been at my job for 13 years and so progressed over that time period. In short I have an awesome job. We can make do financially due to the lower COL and wife's job.

So my question is, am I crazy for even considering such a job offer?

 
Old 12-07-2017, 02:57 PM
 
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am I crazy for even considering such a job offer?
If you relocate, will you still have to fly home?

If not, will the $45000 you are losing equal the costs of your airfare 52 weeks of the year?
 
Old 12-07-2017, 03:00 PM
 
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If I relocate, I won't need to fly home as I will be with my wife and kids. The new job is out west where they already are.

Yes the total cost for airfare per year is about $23000, which is probably $33000 gross.
 
Old 12-07-2017, 03:07 PM
 
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Why does your family not move in with you?
 
Old 12-07-2017, 03:11 PM
 
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If I relocate, I won't need to fly home as I will be with my wife and kids. The new job is out west where they already are.

Yes the total cost for airfare per year is about $23000, which is probably $33000 gross.
So you are only losing out on $12000. I'd say it's worth it to be with my family again, except for your career getting pushed back. Will you be able to deal with being in a lower position?
 
Old 12-07-2017, 03:24 PM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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Dear Penthouse Forum,

So this is my situation.
Wife moved back west with the kids, while I still work in my job back east. This was 3 years back and for the last 3 years
I take a 5 hour flight every weekend to be with them. It has worked out surprisingly well but obviously far from ideal.
This was never the plan.
Thought of a different direction for the preamble.

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Anyway so finally after applying, interviewing and receiving quite a few job offers, I found a job that seems like a good fit.
The problem is the pay cut is massive, a little over $45000 a year and is a step back career wise.

So my question is, am I crazy for even considering such a job offer?
$45,000 less weekly RT airfare costs and monthly living expenses comes out to what? $XX (net of taxes etc)
 
Old 12-07-2017, 06:35 PM
 
Location: Formerly Pleasanton Ca, now in Marietta Ga
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What's the cost of maintaining a place to live back east?
You didn't mention what your income would be.
45k less than 60k back east? Or 300k back east?
 
Old 12-07-2017, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Tucson Arizona
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not to mention you won't be spending the time travelling. 5 hours a week. Is that round trip or each way?
5 hrs/wk x 50 wks/yr = 250 hours. multiply that by your hourly wage, or balance it against time spent with your family.
 
Old 12-08-2017, 04:10 AM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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So this is my situation.

Wife moved back west with the kids, while I still work in my job back east. This was 3 years back and for the last 3 years I take a 5 hour flight every weekend to be with them. It has worked out surprisingly well but obviously far from ideal. This was never the plan.

Anyway so finally after applying, interviewing and receiving quite a few job offers, I found a job that seems like a good fit. The problem is the pay cut is massive, a little over $45000 a year and is a step back career wise. Also the vacation is 1/3rd of the current job. I have been at my job for 13 years and so progressed over that time period. In short I have an awesome job. We can make do financially due to the lower COL and wife's job.

So my question is, am I crazy for even considering such a job offer?

For me, the decision would be a no brainer..........nothing is more important than family, and I have passed up many promotions just to be a 100% of the time father and husband. It is also not good for a marriage for the two of you to be split up so often. Some people may make it work, but overall I think it is not healthy.

You are also supporting two homes right now,(and airline costs), so you would save that money.
 
Old 12-08-2017, 05:23 AM
 
Location: North Dakota
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Originally Posted by nj1k View Post
So this is my situation.

Wife moved back west with the kids, while I still work in my job back east. This was 3 years back and for the last 3 years I take a 5 hour flight every weekend to be with them. It has worked out surprisingly well but obviously far from ideal. This was never the plan.

Anyway so finally after applying, interviewing and receiving quite a few job offers, I found a job that seems like a good fit. The problem is the pay cut is massive, a little over $45000 a year and is a step back career wise. Also the vacation is 1/3rd of the current job. I have been at my job for 13 years and so progressed over that time period. In short I have an awesome job. We can make do financially due to the lower COL and wife's job.

So my question is, am I crazy for even considering such a job offer?
I wouldn't take that big of a pay cut. And if your wife moved three years ago with the kids it seems you have bigger fish to fry here...
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