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Old 06-04-2008, 12:43 PM
 
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I moved From Ct to cape Cod after the death of my husband last year, and although it is beautiful and my son is here i still miss my friends and my house that i had to sell. i do wish i had thoguht it out a bit more before i moved .Although i love my son he has his own life and friends and I find it very hard here to meet new people. i have had friends in Ct for years and miss them terribly. my sugeestion is to really think it out before you make the move. It can be quite isolating if you dont meet people at first.
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Old 06-04-2008, 02:04 PM
 
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I moved From Ct to cape Cod after the death of my husband last year, and although it is beautiful and my son is here i still miss my friends and my house that i had to sell. i do wish i had thoguht it out a bit more before i moved .Although i love my son he has his own life and friends and I find it very hard here to meet new people. i have had friends in Ct for years and miss them terribly. my sugeestion is to really think it out before you make the move. It can be quite isolating if you dont meet people at first.
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. It must have been a difficult decision to move away from your life/friends yet I'm sure you also wanted to be nearer to your son. You're right, it's isolating when you don't know anyone or have a best friend to hang out with. I hope things get better for you.
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Old 06-04-2008, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY native, now living in Houston
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.... i still miss my friends and my house that i had to sell. i do wish i had thoguht it out a bit more before i moved .
Story of my life. You are not alone.
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Old 10-27-2008, 12:31 PM
 
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Default Is it right to move away from family?????

We moved from California to Georgia a few months ago. We are very close to my family and I am second guessing my decision only because I miss my family. If they lived here I would be so happy as I like GA a lot and can see a very nice life for our children. We left southern california because of the cost of living. We wanted to buy a house and I wanted to be a stay at home mom to our young children.That hardly exisits there, both parents work and infants and toddlers are in daycare.

We stuck it out but were not able to find anything we could afford. My husband took a job transfer to Georgia. We can afford to buy a nice house with a yard and I can stay home with the children, We could have a great life here.

I miss my family very much and most importantly feel very badly about my children not having their grandparents in their daily life,holidays etc. I had that growing up and it was nice to have my grandparents and aunt's,uncle's,and cousins around and spending every holiday together.

We will be lucky to visit 1-2 times a year which is not very much.

I am fearful to buy a house now in GA as I see the housing market to continue to decline and wonder if it will go low enough for us to possible move back to Ca and buy a tiny house, I would need to work-part time though. Or do we go forward with our plans and live this great life here in a beautiful spacious house with a yard and slower paced lifestyle. My husband does not want to move back, he is excited about building our life here and the potential we have to not struggle and worry about finances and our future. He is getting annoyed with me for being on the fence and not wanting to buy a house here. I am stalling our happiness or am I ? What is happiness, a great stress-free day to day life? Extended Family??


I am struggling with what is the morally right thing to do? Be with family and share all the moments or make my life here with my own little family and visit the extended family whenever we can.

Thank you.
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Old 10-27-2008, 12:41 PM
 
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We moved from California to Georgia a few months ago. We are very close to my family and I am second guessing my decision only because I miss my family. If they lived here I would be so happy as I like GA a lot and can see a very nice life for our children. We left southern california because of the cost of living. We wanted to buy a house and I wanted to be a stay at home mom to our young children.That hardly exisits there, both parents work and infants and toddlers are in daycare.

We stuck it out but were not able to find anything we could afford. My husband took a job transfer to Georgia. We can afford to buy a nice house with a yard and I can stay home with the children, We could have a great life here.

I miss my family very much and most importantly feel very badly about my children not having their grandparents in their daily life,holidays etc. I had that growing up and it was nice to have my grandparents and aunt's,uncle's,and cousins around and spending every holiday together.

We will be lucky to visit 1-2 times a year which is not very much.

I am fearful to buy a house now in GA as I see the housing market to continue to decline and wonder if it will go low enough for us to possible move back to Ca and buy a tiny house, I would need to work-part time though. Or do we go forward with our plans and live this great life here in a beautiful spacious house with a yard and slower paced lifestyle. My husband does not want to move back, he is excited about building our life here and the potential we have to not struggle and worry about finances and our future. He is getting annoyed with me for being on the fence and not wanting to buy a house here. I am stalling our happiness or am I ? What is happiness, a great stress-free day to day life? Extended Family??


I am struggling with what is the morally right thing to do? Be with family and share all the moments or make my life here with my own little family and visit the extended family whenever we can.

Thank you.
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Old 08-01-2009, 08:48 AM
 
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St. Jon's Wort works wonders.
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Old 08-01-2009, 12:55 PM
 
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You ARE with your family - your husband's happy and your kids are too - would try to get involved in the community and meet new people, volunteer at the school, at the local hospital, join meetup.com (put in your zip and your main hobbies or interests etc). These days many young families are moving distances for jobs etc - and many older folks are moving distances as well. It's all good and in the end, usually works out. You also have to give it time but once you become more active w/ your own activities and friends, you'll feel more settled. It takes more than a few short months though

PS Is there any reason your folks couldnt come visit you once in a while - ? They'd prob. love it and would enjoy seeing another part of the country.

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We moved from California to Georgia a few months ago. We are very close to my family and I am second guessing my decision only because I miss my family. If they lived here I would be so happy as I like GA a lot and can see a very nice life for our children. We left southern california because of the cost of living. We wanted to buy a house and I wanted to be a stay at home mom to our young children.That hardly exisits there, both parents work and infants and toddlers are in daycare.

We stuck it out but were not able to find anything we could afford. My husband took a job transfer to Georgia. We can afford to buy a nice house with a yard and I can stay home with the children, We could have a great life here.

I miss my family very much and most importantly feel very badly about my children not having their grandparents in their daily life,holidays etc. I had that growing up and it was nice to have my grandparents and aunt's,uncle's,and cousins around and spending every holiday together.

We will be lucky to visit 1-2 times a year which is not very much.

I am fearful to buy a house now in GA as I see the housing market to continue to decline and wonder if it will go low enough for us to possible move back to Ca and buy a tiny house, I would need to work-part time though. Or do we go forward with our plans and live this great life here in a beautiful spacious house with a yard and slower paced lifestyle. My husband does not want to move back, he is excited about building our life here and the potential we have to not struggle and worry about finances and our future. He is getting annoyed with me for being on the fence and not wanting to buy a house here. I am stalling our happiness or am I ? What is happiness, a great stress-free day to day life? Extended Family??


I am struggling with what is the morally right thing to do? Be with family and share all the moments or make my life here with my own little family and visit the extended family whenever we can.

Thank you.
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Old 08-02-2009, 08:08 PM
 
Location: TX
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Sane feelings and thoughts here. Moved from Ohio to Texas, and now know it is not worth leaving everything behind. Friends, family, etc. We are going to move back next year - wish we could get our old house back.
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Old 08-03-2009, 06:31 AM
 
Location: Sudcaroland
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It's always hard at first, but there are so many ways to keep in touch, it won't be that hard. Send pictures via the internet, speak on the phone all the time, of course it's not like being together in the same room, but it makes things smoother anyway.
You know, there is an ocean between our families and us, so I understand how you feel. Still, being far does not mean not loving anymore... And it makes the few occcasions we are together even more precious and good.
Though far, we don't regret being here and are very happy, we try to see the positive sides of our new life and adjust to changes. Take it as an experience, not as a burden!
I wish you all the best!

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Old 08-03-2009, 05:57 PM
 
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So many times, instead of looking at a difficult situation in a positive way, people instead talk themselves into believing things will be awful before they even move. If you are already looking forward to moving away from where you have not yet moved to, you will be miserable the whole time. Why not give things a chance instead. When I was growing up our family moved many times. Sure, since being on my own I miss family get togethers. But, because I chose to move, I now have a job I love and really enjoy life in general.
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