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Old 10-28-2008, 04:22 PM
 
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Moved from OC in SoCal last year to Western PA, small town. DIL's mom and aunt came to visit us two weeks ago, and are planning on moving here in two years when they retire, so is her sister and her two kids when she finishes nursing school. I would love for my kids (any of my three girls, my son and his family moved with me). They agree it is a different life here, housing is cheaper, people are more down to earth and they were blown away by the fall colors. My girls would die if they were this far away from a major and I mean major city/mall. LOL
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Old 10-28-2008, 04:26 PM
 
Location: In the real world!
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Heck, our whole family ended up moving until we were all close again, one by one, over the years until we were all back together again.
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:47 PM
 
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Default We Moved to be Near the Kids

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My dear friend in Ohio left her home in New Jersy to follow her children. She gave up everything to be with them and the kids ended up all moving on with their lives and moving out of state. She said that she preferred NJ and wish that she had never left.
We moved from FL to ATL to be near our daughter and our grandkids. However, now they will be leaving ATL in about a year. So we will either follow them, or go somewhere warmer. We told them that we'd go with them if they didn't move too far north. But it's a tossup. It's sad, because we've gotten very close to the grandkids. But I just can't see us living somewhere with lots of snow and a long, long winter. Too hard as you get older. But where to go.....?
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Old 10-28-2008, 08:53 PM
 
Location: In a delirium
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We'd love it if our parents moved closer to us and we'd move closer to them if we could. My mom could retire anytime she wanted, but she'd never leave my grandmother behind in Florida. And, I wouldn't want her to. My MIL would like to, but my FIL is still working at a job he just loves, and so he won't be retiring soon.

But, my mother is also right in her belief that we'll never stay in one place long-term. Good thing my husband and mom rack up lots and lots of air miles.
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Old 10-28-2008, 09:15 PM
 
Location: Florida
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awesome!! It's customary in other countries for families to stay together. Lovely idea.


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Yes, but mine moved in with us. When my wife and I first discussed moving to another state with my parents we told them we wanted them to come with us and live with us (they are both in their mid to late 70's). We made sure we bought a house large enough to give everyone their own space. It is very important to me that my daughter has a close relationship with her grandparents!
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Old 10-31-2008, 04:02 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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if true; that is very sad.
I don't see why . Sometimes family members are so intrinsically different from one another it's best to visit rather than live close to one another.

My family members are rock-bound conservatives; believe that if you aren't for unions you aren't American; threw up their hands in horror at my stated position to vote for Obama. Living 1000 miles away, our limited visits are respectful and enjoyable. If I lived close, we'd be arguing all the time
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Old 11-05-2008, 05:38 PM
 
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My parents followed my sister to OC Cal after she moved there. They visited her for a one week vacation and decided to move there. If you want your parents to follow you, invite them for a visit and SELL it to them. Tell them how much you love it and how welcome they would be. It can't hurt!
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Old 11-06-2008, 01:53 PM
 
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I think the OP has some serious dependency issues. I'm really not trying to flip here. But this is the third or fourth thread centered about the withdrawal syndrome you're experiencing because you now live 2000 miles from your parents. Could it be possible that your folks have been a suffocating influence in the life of your marriage? It may very well be that your husband is breathing a sigh of relief that his in-laws aren't showing up on his doorstep every day.

I live several miles from my mother, whom I love. But my mother and her boyfriend are so busy having a great life together, that we see them maybe every three months. And, guess what? I don't resent her for all the fun the two are having together.
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Old 11-06-2008, 02:08 PM
 
Location: Texas
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My husband and I moved not out of state but across the state. (about 7 hours away~Texas is a large state) My mother did move here about 9 months later when her house sold. The time I spent away from her, though, was good for me to establish some independence.
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Old 11-06-2008, 04:28 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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We just moved to Florida 2 months ago. My sister has been down here a couple of yrs but on the other side.
My Mom is already making plans to move down next year. And we're trying to put the idea in my brother-in-laws head too.
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