Anyone moved somewhere they don't want to be? (relocate, schools, moving back)

[spiderbear]

California is an awful place to live right now. You hate Washington, he hates California- find a compromise. I know what it's like to live somewhere you hate, but my aunt and uncle moved to San Diego almost a year ago, and still haven't found work. My aunt with two kids out of the house has been forced by the economy to move back in with her mother. Did you hear the state of the state address? Things are only getting worse. By no means should you live somewhere you hate, but neither should your husband (especially when it makes awful financial sense).

[michiganmom48]

Many people are in a bad place between where they want to be and where they need to be.

[whoopeedew]

Originally Posted by michiganmom48

Many people are in a bad place between where they want to be and where they need to be.

I agree! I always think it could be so much worse. At least I have a house and am not being foreclosed on or going hungry!

[kristin1]

We are moving to SF due to my husband's job situation. I was born and raised on the East Coast, and I'm just not a fan of CA. My husband grew up in CA, so he is looking forward to returning to his roots.

Although he throws his hands up and says "What could I do? Look how bad the economy is! We have to take this opportunity", he never applied for a single position on the East Coast. I feel dupped - that somehow this was in his master plan that he didn't let me in on. With my career, I can work anywhere, so it was hard to say no when it was the only offer on the table.

I could be obstinate or bitter, or I can make the best out of it for my kids. I have chosen the latter. Not sure I will ever totally forgive my husband, but when all is said and done we will both have jobs and our family can be together. And there are much worse places to have to move - I keep telling myself that!

[Anonymous4759U]

It is now too expensive where I started (10x, just for getting by, California). It is too dangerous where I am (Michigan, also more than 10% unemployment). I cannot live in Texas at all (allergies). Florida is now too crowded and too hot in the summer. ND, MN, SD too cold winter, too hot summer, plus very big tornadoes in 1st switchover, little ones during 2d. D.C. -- government will not hire you w/o degree plus loyal party affiliation. New York -- too cold, too expensive, no job openings. Washington State, now having California type troubles [earthquakes, floods, ice, overflowing rivers, Godzilla etc.] Oregon: they want you to stay out and they are now between CA and WA. If you can take the cold, try Maine, but move during Spring! WY: good until Yellowstone Caldera blows. AZ: heat catastrophes on horizon NM: there's a possibility AK: also good if you are young and can endure 1st winter of darkness, after that it is a breeze. East Coast: How can a Country Boy live in such places? What about Tidal Waves? WV: Okay if you're willing to go native. KY: bluegrass heaven, possum burgers, now unpredictable weather -- no flimsy house, otherwise okay. Pennsylavania and Ohio: can you get a job there? Iowa much better, not too close to a river!!! Just some suggestions. Find a place quick, before it gets really serious....Likely there will be no place to flee for anyone, same story around the world. -- Anonymouse

[Jeromeville]

the big problem is that America is full of people who have bounced around from place to place their whole adult lives.

No one has any real roots laid down anywhere... except with their families, who they were so desperate to get away from.

As for "I couldn't find a job in my area"... no, often what people mean is "couldn't find a job that would enable me to buy a home theater system"...

And then they marry people not from their own area, where they do have family roots, and it causes strain.

Yo, America! STAY PUT for a while. Find a spot, make it better. Stop moving around looking for the perfect place because you're never going to find it!

[sunshineann]

Originally Posted by NYMD67

We are also in the same boat... Grew up in WNY and I would move back in an instant,just to be near family and close friends. Husband also grea up there,hates it! hates the winters and just doesn't like the area at all.
We have lived in the mid-atlantic for almost 10 years and just moved to PA. Having a difficult time adjusting mid year (finding it hard to find activities for our children as it is Jan and everything started in the fall,etc... ) and a difficult time of year in general to meet people.
I would just love to pack it in and go either back to where we moved from(our house still hasn't sold) or go to WNY with family. Tired of being "new" and am already seeing signs that the area we have moved to here in PA is not really open to "transplants".
Very sad

I hear ya. I was born and raised in Pa. Moved when i was in my 30's. When i do go to visit (maybe once a year) i get treated like a transplant. But Missouri was the same way. I cant say that about the area and state im in now though. They are very open and friendly. So i realized that it "wasnt just me" I'm not going to ridicule any state, you just need to find that place that feels like "home" It took me 30+ years to do it. I wish you the best in all you do.

[Oildog]

I have moved to places that were not desirable, but I knew they were only temporary (5-7 years) moves for career advancement. I hope that I will have enough $$$ to retire somewhere I like. This road is not for everyone, I am not a tight homebody type so the $$$ makes it livable for me.

[GypsySoul22]

I hate the lack of jobs here. I am not spending the rest of my life 'daydreaming' about getting ANY job.

I don't want to go back to NY, but this just sucks. I can see why people who have no jobs month after month become lazy and slack. Winter, lack of work, and a bad economy is just pushing me toward doing less and less every day. Why bother when no one calls?

I also hate how 'insular' every one is due to the weather...(and economy again). People don't say hi or talk or anything except to gripe.

Even trying to volunteer here requires them to vet you like you are 'a criminal' or 'undesirable.'

[Ann in Oriental]

Originally Posted by kristin1

We are moving to SF due to my husband's job situation. I was born and raised on the East Coast, and I'm just not a fan of CA. My husband grew up in CA, so he is looking forward to returning to his roots.

Although he throws his hands up and says "What could I do? Look how bad the economy is! We have to take this opportunity", he never applied for a single position on the East Coast. I feel dupped - that somehow this was in his master plan that he didn't let me in on. With my career, I can work anywhere, so it was hard to say no when it was the only offer on the table.

I could be obstinate or bitter, or I can make the best out of it for my kids. I have chosen the latter. Not sure I will ever totally forgive my husband, but when all is said and done we will both have jobs and our family can be together. And there are much worse places to have to move - I keep telling myself that!

Have you ever been there? I went to high school and college near SF and it is just so interesting there! The climate is the best in this country in my opinion. I'm also from the north-east originally and have been stuck in eastern North Carolina for the last 21 years(husband likes it) I understand how you are feeling but at least you are going to a progressive upbeat area where intelligence is valued, rather then this conservative bible-belt location.