I am so upset about my living situtation, I cant wait to move but dont know how, or where! (packing, jobs)

[HotWire]

This thread is mostly a rant, but also I need some advice. I am just so upset about my living situation and each day that Im here I just get more and more upset about everything. I am constantly either feeling angry or listless or restless about being here.

For one, I live in an area of DFW, Texas that I am completely unsatisfied about. Im thinking of moving back to Florida and I know a few people who would be willing to help me get settled while Im there. But I dont know if I want to move back to Florida or if it will work again (see this thread http://www.city-data.com/forum/gener...ml#post8102446. On top of that, Im here with family and its just constant feuds day and night. I regret moving back with them and I just cant see why I did it a 2nd time.

Basically I cant even sleep tonight I am feeling trapped. I havent saved up enough money to leave so theres no way out. How can I endure the rest of these few months here? Also, I wanted to stay for a few months to pay off some debts.

Would you suggest that I pay off the debts first before I move for good, or should I just end the misery, pay off the debts when I move and while I work? Which would be easier and less painful? I really want to get those out of the way before I go, but this constant feuding and mundanity of this town is driving me to desperate measures

[iluvcj]

I know exactly how you feel. For I too live in misery and lay awake at night with insomnia. I try to tell myself its going to be okay and dont worry but I cant help it. I want to leave where I am staying also but I can't, not until I finish college which is another 2 years away. I think you should pay off your debt first. So just stick it out until you pay off your debt and save up some money and then leave.

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

Only you know how much you can take of your present situation but paying off your debts does sound like a good idea.

Another thing to worry about is that the job market is not good here so I would get your friends who live here in Florida to maybe help you out so you can have a job lined up before you move. Maybe they have contacts with their jobs or friends jobs.

I know how you feel. I used to live just south of Fort Worth, near my family and they drove me over the edge. Even when I had my own house there, they would bring their BS out to my house. It was too much. I have never been at more peace then I am here in Florida even with all its problems. I can drive to the beach in 45 minutes, same amount of time takes me to the center of activity in Orlando. I love it here.

[runrgirl]

I know how you feel too. Try to change your mindset and look forward to the fact you will be able to move soon. Do things to occupy your free time and keep you away from toxic family members. Maybe you could get another job on the evening or night shift since you cannot sleep well anyway. You could use this money to pay off your debt or save to use on your new place after you move. If you cannot get another job then start organizing and packing your stuff. That way you won't have as much stress and mad rush at the last moment. If you have things to get rid of before the move try selling them on craigslist before to make extra money. Save and scrimp all you can in the meantime. Be optimistic, you are getting out of there soon! These bad times will pass.

IMO....As far as waiting to pay the debt off or not.... pay it before you go if the money is better in Texas. If you'll make more in Fla. then get outta there ASAP and pay it after you move. Just try to be as economical moving as you can. Good luck.

[TexasHorseLady]

Whether or not something "works" frequently depends on whether you're running to or away from something. If you're running away from something, chances are much greater for failure, because, after all, as the old saying goes, wherever you go, there you are. (Meaning you're likely to take your troubles with you, even if you're convinced they're being caused by someone else.)

I highly recommend, either way, making a good, solid plan, paying off as much debt as you can, doing your best to network and locate a job BEFORE you move, especially in this economy.

And read "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner. You'll likely find it very helpful, and a way out of your misery, whatever you decide to do.

[HotWire]

Originally Posted by runrgirl

Just try to be as economical moving as you can. Good luck.

true, good advice. I guess I just have to try extra hard. I've already searched around for jobs today, although Im just not finding anything interesting. Im also in a transistion from deciding which field I want to work in. Part of me just wants to get ANY thing that pops up, and another part knows I'll be that much disappointed if I do. In addition I have my nightjob, so I have to get something that cordinates with that.

[Lindsey_Mcfarren]

What part of Florida were you thinking of moving to? I ask only because in the employment section I started a thread about working from home, I and many others have posted information about work at home jobs. Directv and The Home Shopping Network hire people that can work from home but only in certain areas. Unfortunately neither are hiring in Orlando but if you live close to Tampa, you could work from home with The Home Shopping Network.
For Directv, you have to be I believe in Jacksonville, Tallahassee or Miami but you can confirm that on their website.

At the moment jobs are so scarce, take the job that might not be perfect and keep looking for the RIGHT job.

[HotWire]

Originally Posted by Lindsey_Mcfarren

What part of Florida were you thinking of moving to?

I was thinking about moving back to Miami/Lauderdale. I still have a few connections there. When I'm there I'm NEVER alone or left with nothing to do on the weekends. But the job market is slack from what I've seen my friends in October. But this time I went (maybe because the high season?) it really didnt seem like Miami was doing that bad, except for the fact that some places seemed to be emptier than it was back in 2007.

But I dont know, like the title suggests I dont know if I want to do that. Its the most annoyingest thing that whenever I'm not in Miami I want to be a part of, but once Im there it only seems the negative prevails. I had thought last night that maybe I had just needed to drop certain people from my friend circle and deal with different people then I was when I lived there. I cant even talk about it as it just pisses me off just thinking about it and the back and forth ****. Last night someone tells me, "you missed the great winter fest here, you would of had a great time blah blah blah! I'm like, I dont give a **** I'm not there and really dont want to hear about how ****ing great it was!

Also, if I was to move back to Miami, it'd be in the slumpy summer season when things REALLY starts going south and I might end up in a crappy position. I should have moved in Febuary, got a 6 month lease and left in June

Also I refused to live anywhere in central Florida e.g. Tampa/Orlando. Just not my forte

[Woof Woof Woof!]

Dear O.P.

I've been in situations like this. One day it will feel unbearable and then a few days later it feels more tolerable. Basically, you want to make sure and have a plan and set a date for leaving. Once you have that date set and you have a goal, the rest becomes more manageable. Good luck!

[HotWire]

I know, but at this point there isnt a date set and Im getting anxious and frustrated!

Im also doubly pissed because I had more than enough money to move at the beginning of the year but I had traveled instead and also wanted to fulfill some other obligations.

When I came back non of those were ful-filled and Im back to square 1. I know **** happens but ****, I had waited for that for awhile and it just really didnt bring me much in return. I was able to make back the money I spent on hotels while traveling but thats about it. Oh well, no need of bitching, **** happens so just have to plan again.