How do I prevent myself from getting bored in my city? (quality of life, move back)

[Joei]

I moved from Florida less than a year ago to a state that I am now very unhappy in. I was never thrilled this place and its south-western/cowboy culture so Im now thinking of moving back.

Problem is, I liked where I was living before but after 2 years I had gotten bored to the point where I just wanted to leave. Now, less than a year later Im seriously considering moving back. I have visited twice since I left.

If I move back I dont want to lose interest or get caught up in all the 'politics'. When I was there alot of people complained about the city but they dont realize how life is being 1,500 miles away. I miss being near the water, the sun and all that. I thought about up north but dont think I'll like winters

How do I maintain a positive attitude about where I go next?

[MuscogeeButterfly]

Originally Posted by Joei

I moved from Florida less than a year ago to a state that I am now very unhappy in. I was never thrilled this place and its south-western/cowboy culture so Im now thinking of moving back.

Problem is, I liked where I was living before but after 2 years I had gotten bored to the point where I just wanted to leave. Now, less than a year later Im seriously considering moving back. I have visited twice since I left.

If I move back I dont want to lose interest or get caught up in all the 'politics'. When I was there alot of people complained about the city but they dont realize how life is being 1,500 miles away. I miss being near the water, the sun and all that. I thought about up north but dont think I'll like winters

How do I maintain a positive attitude about where I go next?

Did you research the area that you currently live in, before you left Florida? What made you want to leave Florida, for the area you are in now? IMO, quality of life is important. You only have one life. Sounds like to me, this place you are currently living in, was not a good match for you, in the first place.

[TexasHorseLady]

It sounds like you've been expecting the place to keep you entertained (not bored), which rarely works outside of Disneyland (and even there, if you lived there every day, you'd likely get bored). It may be that it's in the place you left and now want to move back to, but the fact that you got bored the first time around and that you got bored with the place you moved to go get away from that boredom and fear becoming bored if you move back tells me this is not a problem of place but of perspective and approach.

You need to look inside, to figure out what you like to do, what gives you joy long term, and seek that out wherever you find yourself.

[tenaciousley]

Originally Posted by Joei

I moved from Florida less than a year ago to a state that I am now very unhappy in. I was never thrilled this place and its south-western/cowboy culture so Im now thinking of moving back.

Problem is, I liked where I was living before but after 2 years I had gotten bored to the point where I just wanted to leave. Now, less than a year later Im seriously considering moving back. I have visited twice since I left.

If I move back I dont want to lose interest or get caught up in all the 'politics'. When I was there alot of people complained about the city but they dont realize how life is being 1,500 miles away. I miss being near the water, the sun and all that. I thought about up north but dont think I'll like winters

How do I maintain a positive attitude about where I go next?

I just posted a thread in the US Forums about where people would recommend me moving to because I'm unsure of where would be best me. It was SO helpful to get everything out in front of me that I was looking for in a place.

If you're not deadset on moving back to where you were, maybe you can try that. Figure out whatever you want out of where you live and maybe you'll realize you're already there, or already were there even. Either way, don't make the move without knowing what you're looking for. If you do, you'll never find it.

[allforcats]

How do I prevent myself from getting bored in my city?

Pursue a hobby. Do something you love. Do something that is so engrossing to you that you forget time and space. Boredom comes from expecting happiness to come to you from outside yourself. It never does... You are always the one who creates your own happiness, because you choose to feel alive and pleased with life and with yourself. Do what you love, and the joy will come easily.

[Digital_Duck]

Originally Posted by Joei

I moved from Florida less than a year ago to a state that I am now very unhappy in. I was never thrilled this place and its south-western/cowboy culture so Im now thinking of moving back.

Problem is, I liked where I was living before but after 2 years I had gotten bored to the point where I just wanted to leave. Now, less than a year later Im seriously considering moving back. I have visited twice since I left.

If I move back I dont want to lose interest or get caught up in all the 'politics'. When I was there alot of people complained about the city but they dont realize how life is being 1,500 miles away. I miss being near the water, the sun and all that. I thought about up north but dont think I'll like winters

How do I maintain a positive attitude about where I go next?

there is one common factor between the 2 places - YOU

Perhaps the problem isn't the place where you live but the lack of expectation in yourself.

You have already dismissed the new place as unacceptable ...

I was never thrilled this place and its south-western/cowboy culture

Do you know how to work as hard as a so called COWBOY?
Perhaps your lack of things in common are the issue here - not the place or the mindset.

[Joei]

thanks you all. for days, this thread was ignored. I appreciate the advice. Im still confused, and this summer I must find out.

Alot of times, there's no place like home I think my boredom in Florida was due to the friends I was hanging out with, the routines, and stuff. I think had I changed things like I did when I came here I wouldnt be bored. I became a better person (less partying, more fitness, more career focused) Its amazing how I felt bored, but in reality I just needed a new group of people to hangout with. I had gotten so complacent with them, and i couldnt figure it out.

I wish there was a way I could get back home. Seems like once you move (from Florida) its so hard to return (cries). I have to find a way to get another 1,000 bucks

[GloryB]

No matter where you move to....you always take yourself. So, find out what makes YOU happy and then you'll be happy anywhere you are. I don't know your age or financial situation, but if you are young and single, pick any place on the map where you think life would be interesting and give it a try. You don't have to pick one place to settle down in....try a new one every year until you have exhausted your adventurous spirit. You only live once. Never settle for mediocre.