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Old 01-19-2010, 07:58 PM
 
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Mtneer, I would do some research and find out how you can avoid this.Maybe a lawyer could help.I would do this before things got worse.
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Old 01-19-2010, 10:04 PM
 
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If you want to be out from under the thumb of your father you must stop accepting money from him and repay andything he has loaned you. COBRA is super-expensive, have you looked into other means of providing for your insurance?

The best you can do is to live your life well. Your parents may never respect you. However, if you are standing soundly on your own feet financially speaking, and find the time to be kind/polite to them without allowing them to manipulate you, they will have nothing of substance to hold over your head. It sounds as though they have some serious control issues. Only move back if you want to subject yourself to more of the same; because, if they still treat you like you are 9 when you are 40 it will only get worse.
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Old 01-20-2010, 05:52 AM
 
Location: In the Pearl of the Purchase, Ky
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If you want to return to TN then do so but move to another maybe across the state or in another one like Indiana ,Kentucky or Georgia .You are an adult and a right to privacy .Best of luck .
I like this idea. You have 8 states bordering Tennessee. Check them out and see where would be good, and affordable, for you. And find a town that has a nice hotel just in case your parents want to come and visit.
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Old 01-20-2010, 05:56 AM
 
Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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I like this idea. You have 8 states bordering Tennessee. Check them out and see where would be good, and affordable, for you. And find a town that has a nice hotel just in case your parents want to come and visit.
I agree Move near enough to reduce your cost of living but far enough so they would have to drive a good distance to see you. But pick the state that can provide you the best medical benefits and get a place that will accomodate you only...no room for overnight stay.
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Old 01-30-2010, 11:16 AM
 
Location: Land of Ill Noise
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I do want to move back to TN because I miss the Southern culture and the beautiful mountains. They both think I am being unrealistic and that I owe it to them since I'm not married that I MUST live with them to keep them company. I've flat out told both them "no" several times. Sorry this is so long; its a complicated situation I wanted to explain thoroughly. Anyone think I am in the wrong for saying I want to live in my own place?
*sigh* I may as well have written this myself, as someone who already has the same long-term feelings as you(wanting to move back to the South, due to the fact that I've NEVER been a fan of the culture of IL). I don't like my current living situation, but am already working to change that over the next few years. Dunno where I'll move to in the long-run, but TN is a state I have strongly considered(also like it isn't as overtaxed and has a more moderate political climate, versus North Carolina which I haven't been impressed about, when I've done my own research on NC).

As someone who shares your same dream of moving back to the South later in my life(excluding NC, for personal reasons), best of luck to you!
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