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Small towns are nice but with their own little clicks.
I tried the move to a place with a pop of about 4,000.
Opened a specialty business that was ignored by many due to it's limitations in clientile which was to be expected...no complaints on my part. I wanted to work but at a more leisure scale.
The thing I noticed was that you had to be a member of the bowling group...or a certain church.
Knowing the city clerk (in office over 20 yrs) by her first name.
Knowing everyone by the first name at the grocery checkstand or bank.
The list goes on.
The city/town is very clanish for a better word. Exceptance could take yrs and yrs.
I liked the small town atsmophere but they did not really accept me probably due to some of the reasons I posted above here. I'm not a joiner for any type of group so that may be my downfall. After a yr I moved my business and money away. They are still a small town.
I'm not a joiner for any type of group so that may be my downfall. After a yr I moved my business and money away. They are still a small town.
Steve
We moved to a small town and made an effort to join the community and volunteer and were accepted immediately. To get a little, you have to give a little. I agree that not being a joiner was your downfall. Hopefully you in your business dealings you are friendly and outgoing.
We moved to a small town and made an effort to join the community and volunteer and were accepted immediately. To get a little, you have to give a little. I agree that not being a joiner was your downfall. Hopefully you in your business dealings you are friendly and outgoing.
Some areas are not welcoming of outsiders, regardless of effort. Fitting in might be more important.
I just bet it depends upon the attitude of the new people. I think I could go anywhere and fit it. I've done it 3-4 times already. I get involved by plunging in and helping. I don't sit back and complain, or wait for others to come to me. Truthfully, having a kid in the school system helped. The next time I move I will not have a child in school, so will join a church which has programs I can get involved in, or I'll join other community organizations. Just go in and volunteer to do the job nobody wants, and they'll love you.
The one thing about a small town is the mindset of the people.
There is a difference in thinking of a person who has resided in a city and then moves to a small town. There is a feeling of emptyness or a lack of the usual city availabilities. In a small town there is a small choice of many things and not the accustomed too variety of the city. One burger joint, two nearby truck stop restaurants, a bowling alley for a burger and fries, small coffee shop.
The same would be no different then a person from a small town moving to a large city and feeling out of place by feeling overwelmed by it's complexity.
I did NOT feel a downfall per se...never had one...just had a teen son who was NOT happy with the High School and the students with their small town farm ideology. Fun time was to pile into the back of a PU truck after school and cruise the farm roads.
Waited out the school yr and then we moved back to the city.
We moved to a small town and made an effort to join the community and volunteer and were accepted immediately. To get a little, you have to give a little. I agree that not being a joiner was your downfall. Hopefully you in your business dealings you are friendly and outgoing.
Very true Ellwood. IMO if newcomers stick mainly to themselves they can be viewed as being unfriendly. I realize some folks are more introverts then others but sometimes you gotta push yourself to just jump in and join things. I'm not judging but I think the folks from Florida may have strictly stuck to themselves and then opening a coffee shop in a small place where one already existed....a big "no."
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