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Old 03-08-2011, 04:29 AM
 
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I know it sounds like a wierd question, but a good many of CD threads ask about how people from a certain area will be accepted somewhere else. It is known that unfortunately, biases toward areas and people from those areas do exist. My question is has anyone here encountered open hostility somewhere based on where they came from? I personally have not, but I have seen and heard about it.

Yes, we have. For some reason, people who don't live in New York State think that ALL of New York State is New York City. Most of New York State is country area for those who don't know. When we traveled down South, people would see our license plate (tag) and say, "Wow! You're from NYC!" Then after that, we'd get snyde remarks about New Yorkers in general which honestly, only NYC has that reputation and not deserving of that either.

I had also personally encountered the same thing when I moved from one upstate NY town to another. It still goes on today and I've been here for over 15 years. It's terrible. I am thinking of moving down South but now very hesitant because the same craziness goes on there too.

Someone please tell me, where do nice "normal" people live? I'm so tired of this. I'm a quiet person, a non-instigator, and a very easy going person. I'm nearing 50 and am looking for a change. Nothing too hot, nothing too cold. Just a nice community where people care about each other. Where your neighbors become like family. Please expand thread Thank you very much.
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Old 03-08-2011, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Not hostility, but I've gotten some good natured ribbing from some clueless people in Boston whose impression of Chicago was straight out of the Blues Brothers (they were in their 50's and had never been there so I think that they had permanently regulated Chicago to rust-belt doom) and from New Yorkers (for obvious reasons). Other than that, not so much, except for a couple of times in the south where I was inexplicably called a 'yankee' (uh, that's the northeast, not the midwest), but again there was no hostility there either.

However, I have noticed on this forum there is a small but vocal anti-urban hostile bunch, but it is mostly politically motivated moreso than regionally motivated, and, of course I pay them no mind.
I have an anti-urban bias. It has to do with politicians and the media favoring the big cities and group think. Because of them and their urban bias (it's both conservative and liberal, by the way), every thought/every issue that comes out of suburbia or rural areas sound extremist or foreign to city dwellers. Because it's so hard to get out of a lot of big cities in your vehicles (and if you have one), the expectation is that things (sports, entertainment, speakers, etc.) will come to you so you rely more on the opinion media for your view of suburbia and rural America than actually seeing it yourself except maybe when you go on vacation. Business trips, I'm sure, involve flying from one big city to another. Suburbanites and rural folks have to drive to get the things that come to you in the cities. As a result, I believe they've seen more of America.
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Old 03-08-2011, 06:51 AM
 
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Hostility - no..
A story that comes to my mind is while I was selling computers in an electronics store (NJ) and had a couple of customers from Alabama with heavy southern accents.
They seemed to be nice people and one of them said "Boy, you're the only good person we have met in this state". And their impression lasted until I had to tell them we were out of a certain product they wanted to buy.. Were they mad, by the way they were looking me and my co-workers we thought they were gonna shoot us or something haha.
Plus, it was already late and they refused to leave the store until quite after closing hours, in the meantime they were talking crap about people from "up north"
Fun experience, other than that most people from the south I've met have always been very nice..
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Old 03-08-2011, 09:25 PM
 
Location: Bel Air, California
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NO! And I dam well better not neither, or someone's gonna get one a these, right in the kissa!

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Old 03-13-2011, 12:10 PM
 
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Do you live in NYC? Actually, in NYC, I haven't run across rude people, but when I lived in Tulsa, OK, the rudest people I encountered were transplanted NYCers. I'm originally from upstate NY and had met some people from NYC I liked very much and others, so-so, but nothing like the arrogance and rudeness I encountered in Tulsa (early 1980's). There was a lot of stereotyping of Northeasterners. Maybe that was why?

No, I live in the South. I have family and friends that live in NYC and have met many people from there, almost none of which have met the stereotype. So, count me as another to believe that the negative reputation of New Yorkers and other Northeasterners is largely undeserved. For that matter, the majority of people I've met from anywhere have been all right.
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Old 03-13-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: 95468
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Mentioning your from California while in other states is likely to raise a few questioning eyebrows. Usually because of the wierd-o reputation California has for so long and hard worked for.
Most citizens of other nations envy our fortunate hailing point. Annoyance of US origins is sometimes expressed by unwashed, mentally unstable, socialist hippie third worlder types. But weakened by a chronic lack of electronic gadgets simple assult quiets them easily.
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Old 03-13-2011, 05:29 PM
 
Location: United Kingdom
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Was in Hawaii when a couple of northeasterners decided to spend the evening telling me about how much Texas sucks - they had never even been here.
Same thing has happened to me more than once... Just not people from the Northeast though... One of the ones that surprised me was a girl from Arkansas who went off on me. Neighbor envy I suppose?
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Old 03-13-2011, 05:40 PM
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I have an anti-urban bias. It has to do with politicians and the media favoring the big cities and group think. Because of them and their urban bias (it's both conservative and liberal, by the way), every thought/every issue that comes out of suburbia or rural areas sound extremist or foreign to city dwellers. Because it's so hard to get out of a lot of big cities in your vehicles (and if you have one), the expectation is that things (sports, entertainment, speakers, etc.) will come to you so you rely more on the opinion media for your view of suburbia and rural America than actually seeing it yourself except maybe when you go on vacation. Business trips, I'm sure, involve flying from one big city to another. Suburbanites and rural folks have to drive to get the things that come to you in the cities. As a result, I believe they've seen more of America.
I'm afraid I don't entirely understand what you are getting at, and what exactly you mean by stating you have an 'anti-urban' bias. Does this mean that you don't like people who are from cities based on the simple fact that they are from cities? I was was born and raised in an urban area (spent my youth in a inner-ring suburb) my adulthood in the large city where I currently reside, and I do understand the the challenge of 'getting out of the city' as I did not own a car for years, and traffic can be bad to the point of not wanting to bother trying to leave sometimes, and yes, I'm used to things 'coming to me', but does that make me suspect as a person? I do my best to understand and be accepting of my fellow human beings, no matter where they come from and in no way think that there is any one 'ideal' place to live.
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Old 03-13-2011, 06:47 PM
 
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Yes, we have. For some reason, people who don't live in New York State think that ALL of New York State is New York City. Most of New York State is country area for those who don't know. When we traveled down South, people would see our license plate (tag) and say, "Wow! You're from NYC!" Then after that, we'd get snyde remarks about New Yorkers in general which honestly, only NYC has that reputation and not deserving of that either.

I had also personally encountered the same thing when I moved from one upstate NY town to another. It still goes on today and I've been here for over 15 years. It's terrible. I am thinking of moving down South but now very hesitant because the same craziness goes on there too.

Someone please tell me, where do nice "normal" people live? I'm so tired of this. I'm a quiet person, a non-instigator, and a very easy going person. I'm nearing 50 and am looking for a change. Nothing too hot, nothing too cold. Just a nice community where people care about each other. Where your neighbors become like family. Please expand thread Thank you very much.
Try Delaware or PA.
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Old 03-14-2011, 04:39 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Gnutella:"The "Yankee go home" mentality in the South annoys me, although it's not nearly as prevalent as it used to be."

I've never experienced it, having lived near Nashville since 97, after 37 years in Ct. I do get ribbed about my fav team, the Mets, but hey, they have not torn it up most of the last 14 years.

Seriously, I felt welcome from day 1, even been invited to peoples family gatherings for Thanksgiving. Would the inverse occur in Ct?- a Southern transplant invited that day-quite frankly, and sadly I say, no.
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