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Old 12-19-2011, 04:54 PM
 
Location: Chicago Suburbs
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I'm curious as how to reach out and meet new people in an unfamiliar area.
I usually meet people and make friends at church. On Sunday went to church for first time and[/SIZE] realized that there are some possibilities for friendships with similar aged women with kids, but the members are so spread apart in this area I don't know how that would ever be more than just a Sunday friendship.

We've been in our new neighborhood 2 weeks now and no one has stopped by and when we are outside, or leaving and coming we haven't run into anyone or seen anyone. Do I make cookies and go to THEIR house and introduce ourselves? I know someone had to notice us moving in. The house was vacant when we bought it and we had a giant moving truck in front of the house for an entire day with movers working. We are a very active family, you couldn't miss the fact the house is now occupied by a family.

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Old 12-19-2011, 06:55 PM
 
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You could go to meetup.com and put where you live, then it will show you meetup related schedules to find people who have similar interests to you. You mght be able to make friends there and its all over the US so I think you'd find something.
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Old 12-23-2011, 09:38 AM
 
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I'm curious as how to reach out and meet new people in a unfamiliar area.
I usually meet people and make friends at church. On Sunday went to church for first time and realized that there are some possibilities for friendships with similar aged women with kids, but the members are so spread apart in this area I don't know how that would ever be more than just a Sunday friendship.

We've been in our new neighborhood 2 weeks now and no one has stopped by and when we are outside, or leaving and coming we haven't ran into anyone or seen anyone. Do I make cookies and go to THEIR house and introduce ourselves? I know someone had to notice us moving in. The house was vacant when we bought it and we had a giant moving truck in front of the house for an entire day with movers working. We are a very active family, you couldn't miss the fact the house is now occupied by a family.

It's a nice newer neighborhood with large homes. Not all the lots have been built so it's not a full neighborhood, still quiet and small, spread out.

I'm thinking about putting my twins in a co-op preschool and hopefully being involved in that it can help me make some friends.
What burb did you land in? Some Chicago suburbs are easier than others to meet people, and quite frankly, just friendlier. Did you use a realtor? IME, realtors can quite often provide some suggestions about social opportunities and groups, or even make some introductions. Volunteering (in just about anything) has worked for me in dozens of moves all over the country -- but I'm betting that with pre-school aged twins you're very busy!! I think the preschool idea sounds like an opporunity.

It will get easier very soon, as your children get a bit older. Once they're in kindergarten you have all of those other parents. Volunteer for lot of things at the school and you'll have an entire social network so fast it will make your head spin. Many (if not most) Chicago suburbs are great places to raise children (I did so), so hang in there!
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Old 12-23-2011, 12:43 PM
 
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I'm also new here in Chicago. maybe we can be friends yey!
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Old 12-23-2011, 12:45 PM
 
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In a lot of suburban areas people are anti-social.
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Old 12-23-2011, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I'm also new to Chicago! I go to the bar as often as possible, go to punk shows, and chill at the skatepark. It's kinda hard meeting people my age (26) now that I am through with school.
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Old 12-24-2011, 11:07 AM
 
Location: Chicago Suburbs
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I'm out in "BFE, i.e. the boonies. The woman who lived here before said that only one person ever talked to her, when she left her trunk open. I also heard another lady say that the Midwest people keep to themselves. So, yes IF I get time to volunteer I will hopefully meet more peeps.
I don't do the club scenes anymore. I havekids. I usually make mom friends and our kids play. I guess I was hoping for a "welcome to the neighborhood!" sort of thing. It IS the holiday though.

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