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Old 07-30-2012, 04:10 PM
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unfortuantely corporate culture and horrible tv influence has destroyed old fashoned men in the US and many places in the USA are starting to resemble what you described LA as

Old 07-30-2012, 07:33 PM
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Originally Posted by kyle19125 View Post
I'm probably generalizing a bit but I think Boston could be a good fit for you as there are many private school/boarding school educated men in the area who grew up differently than most men in the US in terms of being taught respect for others. My good friend is from the Boston area and many of her classmates from boarding school stayed in the area for college and work afterwards. They all fit the profile of what you're looking for and think Boston could be at least worth checking out. Good luck!

Sounds great! I grew up in that type of environment too. Both parents were college professors, and artistic/literary. So I'm definitely looking for a place where people have brains, manners, culture, class, etc. Well...If not Boston, then maybe time travel...
Old 11-13-2014, 05:05 PM
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Originally Posted by uncalifornian girl View Post
A lot of this is my own fault, I admit. I am not as social as I should be; I don't have the greatest network. Hard to put in the effort, I work a lot. I do have friends, but we all work a lot/have little free time/some live on the other end of town (which may as well be Pluto due to the traffic here). Most of my friends are female, and experiencing the same issues with guys. They can't help me! Once in a while we go out, usually to nice restaurants or more mellow wine-bar type places, but we are never approached. We are attractive, but not in our twenties! So I end up relying on things like Meetup or online dating (ugh)--I do at least stick to the more reputable sites. I think though I've decided not to do that anymore. Even through Meetup I have met some serious predators/con men. Either than or the guys "disappear" because it becomes clear I won't go to bed immediately.

I have been toying with the idea of moving to New England...Boston maybe? Even though I hear people are not the friendliest. People often tell me I seem like an East Coaster. It seems like the ultimate contrast from here, culturally. You have Harvard instead of the entertainment industry, for example! There is a lack of intelligence here too, I have to say (don't I sound like a snob!) And it's not uncommon for guys to earn far less or ask women for money. I just want to be amongst "mature adults" who have their act together. I want to be treated like a human being, not a piece of--you know.

What's really crazy is I'm not even looking for marriage/family. I don't want kids. I don't want to cohabitate. I just want a long term relationship!
Have you considered the Bay Area? A lot of very smart, intellectual people and generally a better place to find a long-term relationship.
Old 11-13-2014, 08:16 PM
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Definitely the South. Not the major cities like Atlanta, either.

Mobile, AL maybe.
Old 11-15-2014, 12:56 PM
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Originally Posted by uncalifornian girl View Post
Does this exist anywhere? Frustrated with the dating scene in LA, there is almost a "women are disposable" attitude here that guys have here....no one wants anything more than quick "fun", and this extends well past the partying 20's. I've met guys in their 50s who are still living this way. Because they can.

This is probably a national thing these days, but there has to be other cities where the culture is not quite this hostile....?

Originally Posted by erikthealien View Post
unfortuantely corporate culture and horrible tv influence has destroyed old fashoned men in the US and many places in the USA are starting to resemble what you described LA as
It isn't only men, women are the same way. It is the Information Age, The Player Society. The lack of any emotional connection. A first date is no longer dinner, it is a hookup. Men treat women as a good time and the women are so competitive that most encourage the behavior. I have discussed this with friends around the country. The attitude is everywhere.

I have found the rural and small city Midwest to have the most "real" people.

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