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In real life, i am very unsocial and shy and don't really enjoy talking to people. I don't mean to dislike people or be rude, but i am just shy. I know that people will say NYC or Boston for people that are introverted and don't wanna make friends, but as a shy person, i am very sensitive to mean rude people or people who yell alot.....so what cities are non-social but nice and polite too
In real life, i am very unsocial and shy and don't really enjoy talking to people. I don't mean to dislike people or be rude, but i am just shy. I know that people will say NYC or Boston for people that are introverted and don't wanna make friends, but as a shy person, i am very sensitive to mean rude people or people who yell alot.....so what cities are non-social but nice and polite too
Pretty much EVERY rural or suburban setting would fit your criteria PERFECTLY.
Pretty much EVERY rural or suburban setting would fit your criteria PERFECTLY.
In those areas a lot of people are going to be chatty though. I find in more dense urban areas you get less chats going on at stores and in public. Too many people to have time to say hello and talk to random strangers. People will "ignore" you more.
A lot of people from suburban and rural settings think people in large cities are more rude because they mistake the lack of random communication as people be standoffish.
In real life, i am very unsocial and shy and don't really enjoy talking to people. I don't mean to dislike people or be rude, but i am just shy. I know that people will say NYC or Boston for people that are introverted and don't wanna make friends, but as a shy person, i am very sensitive to mean rude people or people who yell alot.....so what cities are non-social but nice and polite too
Not to judge, but why do you want to remain antisocial? Wouldn't you want to live in an environment that would encourage you to be comfortable with a more outgoing attitude?
I only ask because you pointed out that you were shy, and shy people aren't usually introverted by choice.
I'm not shy but people could be very annoying to deal with and I can see somebody getting to the point where they don't want to deal with others altogether. I actually prefer to take little trips by myself b/c there's less drama, problems and people rushing and pressuring me. More freedom.
When you live in a barn, the only one you're going to be talking to is yourself, the wall or a cow.
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In those areas a lot of people are going to be chatty though. I find in more dense urban areas you get less chats going on at stores and in public. Too many people to have time to say hello and talk to random strangers. People will "ignore" you more.
A lot of people from suburban and rural settings think people in large cities are more rude because they mistake the lack of random communication as people be standoffish.
At least you have space in most rural and suburban settings. You don't have to engage in gossip with the soccer moms or townies. You can just live on large property and keep to yourself without even having to think of people. In my suburb, people keep to themselves. Yeah, people may gossip but that's their business since you don't even have to acknowedge it.
In real life, i am very unsocial and shy and don't really enjoy talking to people. I don't mean to dislike people or be rude, but i am just shy. I know that people will say NYC or Boston for people that are introverted and don't wanna make friends, but as a shy person, i am very sensitive to mean rude people or people who yell alot.....so what cities are non-social but nice and polite too
Seattle is probably the best place you could possibly move to.
People there are polite and civil, but err on the side of being unfriendly - as in, they will smile and nod politely to one another, but it is generally taboo to go any deeper than pleasantries to someone you don't know.
I'm actually somewhat introverted by LA standards and about normal by NYC and Boston standards, but by Seattle standards, I was an extrovert.
In the whole time I was in Seattle, I only encountered a few outright rude people. The biggest social ill in Seattle is passive aggression, and I think that most people - at least, the ones who aren't from the Northeast - would rather deal with someone who's Seattle-style passive-aggressive (snivelly, avoidant stare, sarcastic response) versus Boston-style aggressive (come-and-get-it posture, glaring right at you, daring you to do something). The few people in Seattle who are rude and aggressive tend to get away with a lot because the average person is much less apt to say something than they are elsewhere.
So basically, at the end of the day, less interaction, less confrontation. I'd consider it.
I'm not shy but people could be very annoying to deal with and I can see somebody getting to the point where they don't want to deal with others altogether. I actually prefer to take little trips by myself b/c there's less drama, problems and people rushing and pressuring me. More freedom.
You're thinking of "introverted". Some introverts choose to intentionally avoid socializing, but they don't have to be shy.
Shyness is a feeling that is experienced by those who can be unsure of themselves in social situations.
Seattle is probably the best place you could possibly move to.
People there are polite and civil, but err on the side of being unfriendly - as in, they will smile and nod politely to one another, but it is generally taboo to go any deeper than pleasantries to someone you don't know.
I'm actually somewhat introverted by LA standards and about normal by NYC and Boston standards, but by Seattle standards, I was an extrovert.
In the whole time I was in Seattle, I only encountered a few outright rude people. The biggest social ill in Seattle is passive aggression, and I think that most people - at least, the ones who aren't from the Northeast - would rather deal with someone who's Seattle-style passive-aggressive (snivelly, avoidant stare, sarcastic response) versus Boston-style aggressive (come-and-get-it posture, glaring right at you, daring you to do something). The few people in Seattle who are rude and aggressive tend to get away with a lot because the average person is much less apt to say something than they are elsewhere.
So basically, at the end of the day, less interaction, less confrontation. I'd consider it.
yeah, i was thinking of the Pacific Northwest, maybe Minnesota.
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