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Old 08-11-2013, 08:01 PM
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Nope, not a problem for me either. Not close to my family and never was.
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Old 08-11-2013, 08:25 PM
 
Location: Tampa
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A little background: I grew up in upstate New York. I currently live with my family in Virginia, but my parents, sister and extended family (and it's a BIG extended family) still live entirely in the Northeast. I love where we live in Virginia, but, in some ways, I really want to move back up north to be closer to my family. Right now we see my parents and sister twice a year and everyone else once in the summer. My kids barely know their cousins. I realize there's a little bit of "The grass is always greener..." thing going on, but still...

Anybody else torn between living in a great location and living where (in many ways) your heart is?
Interesting parallels, as my wife is from upstate NY and I'm from VA, and we live in Tampa. We miss our families terribly but have no desire to suffer through a NY winter, and the prohibitive cost of living where my family is in VA makes it a no-go as well. Wouldn't mind being a few hours south car-wise, but I'm not going to let proximity to family dictate where I live. Sure I miss the hell out of them but we've gone back at least twice a year, and they can always visit if they want.
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Old 08-12-2013, 03:43 AM
 
Location: Hell, Arizona
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All of my family live in Phoenix. Even my huge extended family, they all live here. I grew up with them being thirty minutes away from me. Sometimes, when I was little, I wish they lived somewhere else so I could just travel out of here. I never leave this city. It has made family reunions easy, but sometimes annoying to see them so much.

For your kids, all my cousins are currently being born so I don't know them really, but being close to my family has established good bonds. There was a lot of family that live nearby I never got to see for some reason growing up (like my late grandmother) who I wish I got to see more. I'd go where your heart wants to, if other factors like employment will allow you. Family is important, and we only live for so long.
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Old 08-12-2013, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Bend, OR
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All of my family live in Phoenix. Even my huge extended family, they all live here. I grew up with them being thirty minutes away from me. Sometimes, when I was little, I wish they lived somewhere else so I could just travel out of here. I never leave this city. It has made family reunions easy, but sometimes annoying to see them so much.

For your kids, all my cousins are currently being born so I don't know them really, but being close to my family has established good bonds. There was a lot of family that live nearby I never got to see for some reason growing up (like my late grandmother) who I wish I got to see more. I'd go where your heart wants to, if other factors like employment will allow you. Family is important, and we only live for so long.
I actually feel like we may get to travel more than we do where we currently live because we wouldn't have to use our vacation time to visit family. Or, at least we wouldn't have to use it all. We would still probably have to travel back east to visit my husband's family, but we like living far from them, lol! We would also have someone to watch our pets and home while we were gone. Currently, we have to pay someone to do that (another source of contention we have with my sister-in-law) and that takes away from the vacation budget as well.

I'm sure I would get annoyed at times by living close to family, but overall we get along really well with them. Employment will be the biggest issue, however I think it will be relatively easy to find work in Denver. We will just have to deal with a significant pay cut while our cost of living remains the same. It's also hard to start over in an organization where benefits like vacation time, etc. will start at the minimum again. But who knows, it might be worth it.

I agree, following your heart is important.
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