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View Poll Results: Are the Western states more "transplant-friendly" than the Southern states?
Yes 95 61.69%
No 59 38.31%
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Old 07-18-2015, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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You won't get sh*t from your new neighbors out West, but that's just because they won't talk to you at all.
Hmmm. . . Just last week we got home-made tortillas and green chile stew from our next-door neighbor.

I think part of the disconnect in this thread lies in the fact that in 2015 there really is no monolithic "South" or "West" or "North", etc. Just because Southern Living magazine likes to play to a geographical demographic that stretches from Baltimore to El Paso doesn't mean that all those folks are the same. And Seattle, Los Angeles, Phoenix, Albuquerque and Boise have about as much in common as . . . well, idunno.

I'm a military brat, not from anywhere or anyone with a strong regional identity of any kind. I found myself in a larger deep-south city right out of college. I made a life there and eventually found a husband there. But I was always "new", even after 25+ years. Alabama has a lot of folks who are born and raised there, educated there, work there and retire there. Accordingly, having family and old, old friends nearby is very common. It can be tough for newbies to break in. Church in the South defines much social structure, as many people socialize mainly with their fellow church members. If you're not a churched person in the South, it's a bit more challenging.

Hubby and I made the move to the southwest last year. Unexpectedly, I found my career opportunities much more wide open. Its more about what you can do than about who you are, where you went to school, and how you look. As mentioned upthread, the west is "newer", so more folks are transplants in general -- less entrenched social structure (aside from the very old native and Spanish communities). My piece of the southwest (New Mexico) has a bit of a libertarian bent. It's very live-and-let-live without much push to fit in -- it suits me much better than Birmingham, AL, where I was for 25+ years. The live-and-let-live may appear unfriendly to some, but I don't see it that way at all. It just means that folks tend to take one another on their own terms. I like that.
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Old 07-18-2015, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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You won't get sh*t from your new neighbors out West, but that's just because they won't talk to you at all.
Really? My new neighbor came by our house and planted flowers in our yard for no reason, and has invited us over. Also, we speak to him and his family every day.

Why don't you stop generalizing Westerners?
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Old 07-18-2015, 08:16 PM
 
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Really? My new neighbor came by our house and planted flowers in our yard for no reason, and has invited us over. Also, we speak to him and his family every day.

Why don't you stop generalizing Westerners?
Why do Western people get so pissy about generalizing? Sometimes generalizing is useful. And I'm not saying that a Westerner has never done a kind thing for their neighbor in all of history, I'm just saying people out here are less neighborly on average due to our history and values. The Wild West legacy lives on in the sense people here tend to be more likely to be loners and mistrusting of their peers.
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Old 07-19-2015, 12:57 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Why do Western people get so pissy about generalizing? Sometimes generalizing is useful. And I'm not saying that a Westerner has never done a kind thing for their neighbor in all of history, I'm just saying people out here are less neighborly on average due to our history and values. The Wild West legacy lives on in the sense people here tend to be more likely to be loners and mistrusting of their peers.
People get pissy because generalizing things, especially an entire region, like you're doing, is absurd.

How can you generalize an entire region? Have you lived in at least half of the cities in every Western state to say we're "less neighborly?"
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Old 09-28-2015, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Minneapolis, MN
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Lots of northerners who move down to Florida seem to have a disdain towards anything culturally southern. They have an attitude where they wanna change local culture to make it like back home, that's why it ticks off natives.
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Old 09-28-2015, 11:59 PM
 
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Skipping everything said and answering the OP, it is not the south is less accepting of people from the northeast. There are people from the northeast that have misconceptions and preconceptions about the south before they move there based mainly off old stereotypes and stories they may have seen in the media about isolated places that just so happen to be in the south. So many come with already a negative mind set about the south and it is often negative on how they deal with people. I've seen people come to south and on upon first meeting bash the education, the culture, the dress, how people talk, etc etc etc. Then turn around and wonder why the people they say this to have a rebuttal and why they can't fit in. I've read many times that this is just being honest when these individuals know good and well that they were being a jacka**. There is no place on earth where anybody from any region can move and do this and expect to fit in nicely. There are several that don't have this issue because they come with a open mind. Sometimes if you had a bad time it has nothing to do with you being a northerner in the south and has everything to do with you, it is not where you are from that people don't like, it is you they don't like.
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Old 09-29-2015, 03:25 AM
 
Location: West Korea
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Not really a huge difference between the areas, and you can't really generalize whole regions when you've only been to a hand full of towns in each region. I've lived all over the US and to be honest there are friendly and un-friendly people to transplants and outsiders all over. I found people in rural Idaho/Utah/Oregon to be as "warm" in a sense than anybody I ever met when I lived Mississippi so that's that. One bad experience doesn't mean everyone is unwelcoming/rude.


The only people I've found to be either truly well mannered and/or friendly are Filipinos, Japanese, Thai, and actually most Latin Americans. That's my bad generalization or an attempt at one at least.

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Old 09-29-2015, 07:40 AM
 
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Florida is a state filled with transplants. Like California, ppl from all over come here looking to "start over".... and what better place to start over than in a place with sunshine and palm trees?
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Old 09-29-2015, 04:06 PM
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You won't get sh*t from your new neighbors out West, but that's just because they won't talk to you at all.
In Phoenix it was like this. Air of indifference for sure. Sometimes hostility for saying hello.
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Old 09-30-2015, 10:32 AM
 
Location: LoS ScAnDaLoUs KiLLa CaLI
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Why do Western people get so pissy about generalizing?
Does anyone else not see the irony in this statement?
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