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Old 07-15-2014, 01:07 AM
 
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But I'm bored of where I'm from!
You just told another poster that every place gets boring after 2 years. What would be the point of moving then? Unless you plan on moving every 2 years? Either you're a very discontented person... or you're simply not a person that must be set to bloom (in one place). Which one are you?

Have you ever thought about moving abroad?
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Old 07-15-2014, 02:59 AM
 
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Look, you have a serious case of wanderlust and I'm guessing, by your profession and posts that you're very logical and literal. Don't worry about paper. Listen to your gut. What do you want to experience in a visceral way that you just can't live without? Then, move there. It might require changing jobs. Have you thought about finding a telecommute job or doing something else numbers related?

You might take a hit financially. So what. You can make more money. Life is about experiences. You're young and this is the time for adventure. If you don't go before you know it you'll be married with a mortgage. Just go or spend all your time vascillating and analyzing something that has no logical answer. The logical answer is of course to stay. But you don't want to stay. So go.
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Old 07-15-2014, 03:08 AM
 
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Also, for you I have a feeling that this adventure is less about place and more about navigating your way in a strange environment. You need to grow and experience yourself outside the confines of everything you know.

So even if you go someplace and hate it, you will will have climbed out of the apathetic morass that you have sunken in. You will have that experience then you can move on with your life.

You're happy. You're full of hope. It's just hidden right now by fear. You're scared that you'll make a wrong choice. But this is life and nobody is auditing you. You won't get a bill from the IRS if you fail. Worse comes to worse you go home richer in experience and a wiser, more confident person. Youth is plump with choices. Don't waste it.
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Old 07-15-2014, 06:48 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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What are you looking for and what are those cities that you are referring to?
The cities that are too trendy are located in the NC/TN mountains and along the SC coast.

I would love to find a town similar to the old Boone/Banner Elk area but really close to the ocean and within a decent distance to cities. Areas that seem to fit are NW NJ, NE PA, CT, and RI. Maybe SE NY. Out of the box cities would be Erie, Cleveland, or maybe Chicago but only because of the COL and proximity to water.

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Old 07-15-2014, 07:26 AM
 
Location: northern Vermont - previously NM, WA, & MA
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Nep, if you really want to move you have to be more flexible. Years will pass and you'll still be stewing in your own wonder lust stuck in Connecticut which may eventually manifest into regret based on missed opportunities due to your own fear of taking any risks. That in my opinion would be your worst case scenario. Just Go!

Think of it this way, if you never had your experience in Charlotte your curiosity and desires in the South would still be nagging at you. As much as you didn't like it, it sounds like it didn't hurt you by any stretch and you came away from that experience with growth and knowledge.

I've read some of your posts about your visits to states and cities around the country and it just seems like you spend ten minutes in each spot, hit the road, and form your opinions of many places based on what you had seen from the interstate or a trite fly by visit with very brief stops. You should make another trip out west and spend more time in the places you had narrowed down to your liking. Explore the neighborhoods, get a feel for the vibe, spend a day being bored and doing nothing to get the feel of the daily monotony and grind that you'll eventually have.

Just GO Nep! The only regret you'll ever likely have is not doing it and lacking the experiences and growth wondering how it might have worked out but never did. Get out of your own way and take a risk.

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Old 07-15-2014, 07:37 AM
 
Location: northern Vermont - previously NM, WA, & MA
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Look, you have a serious case of wanderlust and I'm guessing, by your profession and posts that you're very logical and literal. Don't worry about paper. Listen to your gut. What do you want to experience in a visceral way that you just can't live without? Then, move there. It might require changing jobs. Have you thought about finding a telecommute job or doing something else numbers related?

You might take a hit financially. So what. You can make more money. Life is about experiences. You're young and this is the time for adventure. If you don't go before you know it you'll be married with a mortgage. Just go or spend all your time vascillating and analyzing something that has no logical answer. The logical answer is of course to stay. But you don't want to stay. So go.
This is the best response I've seen so far in terms of the OP's desires and motives, good advise.
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Old 07-15-2014, 08:00 AM
 
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The cities that are too trendy are located in the NC/TN mountains and along the SC coast.

I would love to find a town similar to the old Boone/Banner Elk area but really close to the ocean and within a decent distance to cities. Areas that seem to fit are NW NJ, NE PA, CT, and RI. Maybe SE NY. Out of the box cities would be Erie, Cleveland, or maybe Chicago but only because of the COL and proximity to water.
Have you looked into New Paltz, NY? I only mention it because it is know for its funky, hippy, liberal vibe and it is a small college town in/near the Catskill Mountains. It is about 2 hours or so north of NYC too. https://maps.google.com/maps?q=new+p...,45.45,,0,0.07


What would you consider to be close to the ocean and does it have to be an ocean?

You may also like a small city like Holland MI or a small town like Lewiston NY, if you don't mind the Great Lakes. https://maps.google.com/maps?q=holla...&cbp=11,0,,0,0

https://maps.google.com/maps?q=lewis...02.59,,0,-1.95

I thought about Plattsburgh NY, which has Lake Champlain and mountains close by, Montreal and Burlington VT are within an hour and the overall COL is just below the national average: https://maps.google.com/maps?q=platt...92.65,,0,-6.95

St. Joseph, MI also comes to mind and it is within a couple of hours from Chicago and pretty close to some smaller cities(South Bend, Kalamazoo, Grand Rapids): https://maps.google.com/maps?q=st+jo...1,0.97,,0,1.95

To get back on track, Desert and Aloha are right. Worst comes to worst, you go back, but you'll never know until you step out and try. So, if there is an opportunity that is out there that could be a good fit, then why not make an attempt?
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Old 07-15-2014, 08:29 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Have you looked into New Paltz, NY? I only mention it because it is know for its funky, hippy, liberal vibe and it is a small college town in/near the Catskill Mountains. It is about 2 hours or so north of NYC too. https://maps.google.com/maps?q=new+p...,45.45,,0,0.07


What would you consider to be close to the ocean and does it have to be an ocean?

You may also like a small city like Holland MI or a small town like Lewiston NY, if you don't mind the Great Lakes. https://maps.google.com/maps?q=holla...&cbp=11,0,,0,0

https://maps.google.com/maps?q=lewis...02.59,,0,-1.95

I thought about Plattsburgh NY, which has Lake Champlain and mountains close by, Montreal and Burlington VT are within an hour and the overall COL is just below the national average: https://maps.google.com/maps?q=platt...92.65,,0,-6.95

St. Joseph, MI also comes to mind and it is within a couple of hours from Chicago and pretty close to some smaller cities(South Bend, Kalamazoo, Grand Rapids): https://maps.google.com/maps?q=st+jo...1,0.97,,0,1.95

To get back on track, Desert and Aloha are right. Worst comes to worst, you go back, but you'll never know until you step out and try. So, if there is an opportunity that is out there that could be a good fit, then why not make an attempt?
Thank you for the suggestions. I would like to be as close to the ocean as possible. Plattsburgh has been suggested several times but the city is too far north. I don't mind a little snow but I am done with harsh winters. The only Great Lake cities I would consider would be Erie, Cleveland, and Chicago. I would want to be right on the water.

New Paltz is a consideration. Looks like a beautiful area and has the outdoor access I am looking for. Do you have other SE NY recommendations?

Maybe I should look at college towns close to the ocean?
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Old 07-15-2014, 10:18 AM
 
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Thank you for the suggestions. I would like to be as close to the ocean as possible. Plattsburgh has been suggested several times but the city is too far north. I don't mind a little snow but I am done with harsh winters. The only Great Lake cities I would consider would be Erie, Cleveland, and Chicago. I would want to be right on the water.

New Paltz is a consideration. Looks like a beautiful area and has the outdoor access I am looking for. Do you have other SE NY recommendations?

Maybe I should look at college towns close to the ocean?
Plattsburgh gets less snow than other Upstate NY communities due to not getting lake effect, but it gets colder temps.

Buffalo and Rochester are on Great Lakes and Milwaukee is as well.

As for SE NY, if cost of living isn't an issue, Rye and Mamaroneck are on the Long Island Sound and have municipal beaches. Nyack(a personal favorite) and the Rivertowns of Westchester County may work if you want small, walkable communities with nightlife, shopping and close access to NYC, as well as beaches and the Catskills or Poconos within an hour or so. There are places in Northern NJ that may work too.
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Old 07-15-2014, 11:32 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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Also, for you I have a feeling that this adventure is less about place and more about navigating your way in a strange environment. You need to grow and experience yourself outside the confines of everything you know.

So even if you go someplace and hate it, you will will have climbed out of the apathetic morass that you have sunken in. You will have that experience then you can move on with your life.

You're happy. You're full of hope. It's just hidden right now by fear. You're scared that you'll make a wrong choice. But this is life and nobody is auditing you. You won't get a bill from the IRS if you fail. Worse comes to worse you go home richer in experience and a wiser, more confident person. Youth is plump with choices. Don't waste it.
Well I DO have an idea of the places I'd like to live. The problem, however, is that these places literally have no JOBS! I like small metro areas, such as Boise, Salem, Reno, Portland ME, Poughkeepsie, Ormond Beach, etc. And I really don't like large metropolitan areas. The biggest I can handle is maybe Las Vegas and that's it. I don't like traffic, crowds, congestion and aggravation.

So, my response to you, again, is that I know exactly the type of places I would like to live, but my profession is so specialized that it's extremely difficult (nearly impossible) to find these jobs in small metro areas.
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