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Old 08-07-2014, 11:36 AM
 
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LOL! Not even in the South do we walk around grinning saying that everything is super, while giving our number to someone we've spoken to for 10 minutes. I can't think of anywhere this would apply in the entire US.

Wow!
While not at a super market, it was common to invite strangers to you house for play groups. People from other countries would be amazed and a little concerned about it. I live in Houston. Also, I know about the check out ladies grand kids, one it know she is in college, etc.

In the small town I grew up in in the pacific north west, phone numbers were often exchanged on first meeting.

And here, I smile often and ask people how they are, people do the same. Small talk on elevators. Chatting with a neighbor when they walk their dogs by.

Maybe not "super" (I think I only say super when I say I am going to super target), but a lot of Americans have a very in your face friendliness that seems fake or off putting. Its part of my culture and I like it. Seeing someone in an up beat mood lifts my mood. But I could see if it wasn't your normal it would seem fake, weird or even rude.
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Old 08-07-2014, 11:38 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Heck yes. Customers will scream and yell over the most trivial matters in order to get their way. People never used to talk to each other with such disrespect. It boggles the mind as to how ignorant Americans have become.
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Old 08-07-2014, 11:47 AM
 
Location: Vancouver
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Rude? No. Certain behaviours though can be interpreted as rude. I travel to the US a fair bit and the people I meet are friendly and outgoing. I even got delayed a bit while filling my car because myself, a UPS van driver and another driver got into a conversation about where I was from having seen my cars plate.
I've mentioned in other posts that in the service industry, serving staff in restaurants etc, you get an " uh huh " instead of "you're welcome " most of the time and that does does dismissive to Canadian ears even though that person isn't being so.

Yes…certain Americans do come across with a little too much bravado and don't seem to realize that some of there questions and statements are rude sounding…but then I've had the same feeling from certain Europeans as well.
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Old 08-07-2014, 12:12 PM
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Location: Fort Worth
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Heck yes. Customers will scream and yell over the most trivial matters in order to get their way. People never used to talk to each other with such disrespect. It boggles the mind as to how ignorant Americans have become.
...why do people think this?

Being rude and arguing over some of the most insignificant things is nothing new. A-holes have been around for centuries.

Ignorance (it's not just this country, but still) is nothing new, either.
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Old 08-07-2014, 12:16 PM
 
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I thought Americans have a rep. among Europeans as being too fake friendly.

I have never heard Europeans call Americans generally rude. Loud, yes. Fake, yes. But not rude.
This exactly. And ignorant and naive. But not rude.
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Old 08-07-2014, 12:17 PM
 
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LOL! Not even in the South do we walk around grinning saying that everything is super, while giving our number to someone we've spoken to for 10 minutes. I can't think of anywhere this would apply in the entire US.

Wow!
Sorry, but I don't buy it. You honestly live in the U.S.?

You never hear people asking "How was your day"? You never have small-time chit-chat with someone you just met? You never went to a restaurant and the waiter gave his name? You never, ever heard "We should get together some time" and not really meant it?

I know lots of people in the U.S. who do this. I mean, I do this, too, at least to some extent. In Europe, people generally don't do this, so they find it odd.
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Old 08-07-2014, 04:05 PM
 
Location: ATL & LA
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Sorry, but I don't buy it. You honestly live in the U.S.?

You never hear people asking "How was your day"? You never have small-time chit-chat with someone you just met? You never went to a restaurant and the waiter gave his name? You never, ever heard "We should get together some time" and not really meant it?

I know lots of people in the U.S. who do this. I mean, I do this, too, at least to some extent. In Europe, people generally don't do this, so they find it odd.
This is exactly what I was thinking. Pretty sure that person doesn't even realize this is happening every day around them, because it's probably just so "normal" to them.

I've lived in Texas (born and raised there), Europe, New York, New Hampshire, Louisiana, and Connecticut. While some places are friendlier than others, in every single one of these places is it very common for strangers to ask you about how your day is going, compliment you on your outfit/hair/shoes/etc... This isn't so normal in other parts of the world.
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Old 08-08-2014, 06:07 AM
 
Location: Kent, UK/ Rhode Island, US
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I don't think Americans have that reputation at all, I've never ever heard someone refer to Americans as rude. I've always wondered if places within the U.S that are known for havng rude residents(New England, NY), would appear overly friendly in in certain parts of Europe(not all of Europe is cold and distant), I found New Yorkers a bit more smiley and friendly compared to Londoners for example.
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Old 08-08-2014, 06:40 AM
 
Location: St Simons Island, GA
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Wondering if you guys have heard this before. I know many cities, states, and countries all have their little reputations and stereotypes, such as "Californians are laid-back" or "New Yorkers are really competitive" or "Russians are cold and uninviting". Have you guys ever heard the stereotype that Americans as a whole are "Rude"? I had never heard this before, but my Danish friend who visited a few months ago was so surprised how many Americans who were strangers to her were so friendly and nice. She said she had always heard that Americans were rude.

I have friends from all over the world but I had never heard this stereotype from any of them before. Do you think it is a distinctly Danish interpretation of our American behavior/attitudes?
Last time I was in Copenhagen there was a fat guy wearing a thong and smoking a hookah on the front lawn of the local Anglican church. It's not like they have a lot of room to talk.
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Old 08-08-2014, 07:22 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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Last time I was in Copenhagen there was a fat guy wearing a thong and smoking a hookah on the front lawn of the local Anglican church. It's not like they have a lot of room to talk.
Now there's a postcard.
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