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Mr. Right was Mr. Right before you thought he was cheating on you. Consider putting that back together.
It always makes me very sad to hear of strong loving relationships being wasted because of an unrealistic expectation of fidelity. If you ever think you have found Mr. Perfect, you will be deluding yourself. Nobody is perfect, but if it's generally a good fit, accept the rough edges.
Obviously, if he was cheating with a man, there is something he needs that you can't give him. Let him have it, but give him what you can and accept what he can give you, which up until now was good enough. It may not be such a bad frying pan, to be jumping into such a huge fire at your stage in life.
I know this is the wrong forum for this kind of counsel, but I've seen way too many people spend their lives in misery after they frivolously threw away a good thing merely because it was not perfect..
You're not seriously suggesting that she stay with the father of her child and just turn a blind eye while he has affairs with men, are you? What kind of a sick life would that be for her and her child?
"It always makes me very sad to hear of strong loving relationships being wasted because of an unrealistic expectation of fidelity."
If there is infidelity, then it was not a strong, loving relationship to begin with. It is not unrealistic to expect your partner to be faithful to you. I have been married for almost 27 years and my husband and I have been faithful to each other for the entire time and will continue to be until death do us part. It also isn't rare. All of the happily married people that I have known live this way. Love isn't just about sex, and sex doesn't always involve love.
Who are these people advising a young woman to get back with a man who cheated... With men. Who can stay with a man knowing he enjoys p%&is, is untrustworthy and is already putting his child at risk having sex with others and the mother. I think you are making the right decision. I do not think you should keep the child from him but you need someone that can be trusted
The VA has it's own food stamp system which I think is better than the regular one.
If I were you, I would advertise on Craigslist to work for Seniors but inform them you will be bringing your child and caring for her at the same time.
Even if you only make $5 per hour, it will likely be cash and not affect benefts. Not sure how else you can get by but benefits are not enough. And separating your family is no answer either, it will ensure the cycle continues due to the trauma it creates to have a different babysitter. The trauma of a little baby not being cared for by her Mother. I am not sure why we have a society that finds this acceptable.
Many people are poor and cannot afford a sitter for their grandmother. It might give you a place to stay for the weekend then if you need to rent a room for Mon-Friday, you can probably get it cheaper. You explain you'd like a place where you can do light housework, cook meals, and shower as needed. And cook for yourself as needed along with throwing in a few loads of laundry. Accept cash only
Again, any other circumstance will probably have the baby paying the price. Older people often love babies too. Or you could also say you will watch a developmentally delayed adult for some hours while the caregivers are gone. Again same situation, thrown in some laundry, request a shower, cook and lightly clean. Yet make your hourly rate much lower due to baby. And people generally cannot afford this. Don't be surprised if it works into a real job later on
4 months since this post ....how did things going for you NCLT? Is the baby here? Did you find a new home? Hope all is well🌸
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