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Old 06-07-2015, 07:34 PM
 
Location: Pure Michigan!
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But my friend who is gay and 39 years old who lives in Dublin said that he has never had a problem being gay, and he has been there for 11 years.

When I interviewed for my job in Dublin, it was with mostly traditional people. Clearly, they didn't notice that I was gay....either that, or they did notice and didn't care. Now what do I do?!

Technically, I didn't sign the offer letter yet, not until tomorrow. I still have a chance to back pedal.
I don't think you read my post. I never said that people would not treat you with kindness and respect or care if you are gay or not, just that they have a different belief system than you do. No big deal, live and let live, be nice to them and respect their beliefs and they will be nice to you and respect your beliefs.
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Old 06-07-2015, 11:04 PM
 
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Don't back out now, not at this late stage.

Ohio can't be nearly as bad as Georgia, and I've never had any problems being outside the liberal oasis of Atlanta - even when I'm with my partner. (These days, when people see two guys who aren't young together, they usually assume they're a gay couple, especially when checking into a motel and whatnot.)

Besides, you plan on living in the city proper, right? Save those stuffy suburbs for the family types...lol.
Lol, gay couples don't stay in motels.
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Old 06-07-2015, 11:06 PM
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Lol, gay couples don't stay in motels.
Wow.
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Old 06-08-2015, 12:01 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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I didn't sign the offer letter yet. I'm hesitant. Going from making $94K down to $66K is just too dramatic for me to accept.... Even for going from Stamford, CT to Ohio. Virtually all of the benefits are also inferior to what I have now. 23 PTO days will go down to just 14 days. And 11 holidays down to 8 holidays. Also, my 401k matching now is full matching up to 4%of my contributions. But the new job offers only full matching up to 2%, if I contribute 6%, which is pathetic. Healthcare benefits are worse, too. Slightly more cost on me and higher deductibles and copays.

I have serious reservations about signing this thing tomorrow. I don't think I can do it.
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Old 06-08-2015, 12:03 AM
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I didn't sign the offer letter yet. I'm hesitant. Going from making $94K down to $66K is just too dramatic for me to accept.... Even for going from Stamford, CT to Ohio. Virtually all of the benefits are also inferior to what I have now. 23 PTO days will go down to just 14 days. And 11 holidays down to 8 holidays. Also, my 401k matching now is full matching up to 4%of my contributions. But the new job offers only full matching up to 2%, if I contribute 6%, which is pathetic. Healthcare benefits are worse, too. Slightly more cost on me and higher deductibles and copays.

I have serious reservations about signing this thing tomorrow. I don't think I can do it.
nep, I'm struggling to understand how backtracking on this will get you all the non-financial things that you want. You will end up in the same position that you have been in, except things will be worse.
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Old 06-08-2015, 04:03 AM
 
Location: Atlanta
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I didn't sign the offer letter yet. I'm hesitant. Going from making $94K down to $66K is just too dramatic for me to accept.... Even for going from Stamford, CT to Ohio. Virtually all of the benefits are also inferior to what I have now. 23 PTO days will go down to just 14 days. And 11 holidays down to 8 holidays. Also, my 401k matching now is full matching up to 4%of my contributions. But the new job offers only full matching up to 2%, if I contribute 6%, which is pathetic. Healthcare benefits are worse, too. Slightly more cost on me and higher deductibles and copays.

I have serious reservations about signing this thing tomorrow. I don't think I can do it.
You'd better hope GE moves out of CT and drop those house prices down a bit.
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Old 06-08-2015, 09:52 AM
 
Location: Mexico City, formerly Columbus, Ohio
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I will try to. Although...now, I just discovered that the city of Columbus imposes a 2.5% income tax on anyone who lives in or works in the city.
Which is high, but state income taxes are going down now, and the overall cost of living is still one of the best in the nation. People focus on a few tax rates, but there are lots of costs to consider, especially housing and utilities.
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Old 06-08-2015, 09:56 AM
 
Location: Mexico City, formerly Columbus, Ohio
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You're also going to find out that the suburbs and definitely the surrounding counties are nowhere near as gay and liberal as what you saw in the city core. Gays tend to flock to the large cities in the Midwest, due to the overall conservative, red state vibe elsewhere, so what you saw was not typical in most areas, even of the Columbus Metro. Ohio is a very purple swing state with a Republican governor and legislature and some of the toughest abortion laws in the country, for example. I grew up in Ohio and still spend a good amount of time there as most of my family still lives there, and I can say that much of it is very conservative and traditional. A quick glance at any Presidential election map of Ohio will show you that there are far more red counties than blue.

That said, as long as you stick to the city core or drive quickly between Columbus and other blue cities like Toledo and Cleveland, you may be able to survive in Ohio. It is definitely not a liberal, blue state like what you are used to. But, as we've all suggested to you in your many, many other threads about relocating, tolerance works both ways and you will be as happy as you make up your mind to be and happier if you keep an open mind.

Best of luck to you, and I hope you will find what you are looking for in Columbus.
There are far more red counties than blue in almost every state, even those that are considered traditionally liberal. And he's not moving to rural Shelby County (the highest Republican voting rate in the state), he's moving to Columbus. He'll be fine. And your warning seems silly, as if driving anywhere outside the city puts one at risk for encountering roaming packs of Texas Chainsaw Massacre inbreds. Give me a break.
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Old 06-08-2015, 09:59 AM
 
Location: Mexico City, formerly Columbus, Ohio
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That's true. Plus, if I look at voting patterns for the entire metro area as a whole. Here in Fairfield County, CT, about 55% voted for Obama, versus 52% in the Columbus metro. So they're about the same, I hope.
Franklin County, which is where you'd live, was at 60%, and it goes up in % every election. So do all the surrounding counties, for that matter. The entire metro is becoming more blue with time.
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Old 06-08-2015, 10:28 AM
 
Location: Mexico City, formerly Columbus, Ohio
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I didn't sign the offer letter yet. I'm hesitant. Going from making $94K down to $66K is just too dramatic for me to accept.... Even for going from Stamford, CT to Ohio. Virtually all of the benefits are also inferior to what I have now. 23 PTO days will go down to just 14 days. And 11 holidays down to 8 holidays. Also, my 401k matching now is full matching up to 4%of my contributions. But the new job offers only full matching up to 2%, if I contribute 6%, which is pathetic. Healthcare benefits are worse, too. Slightly more cost on me and higher deductibles and copays.

I have serious reservations about signing this thing tomorrow. I don't think I can do it.
Been looking at some cost of living comparisons, and the equivalent income in Columbus for the $94K in CT is about $59K, so you'd actually be doing better than you're doing now because the cost of living is so much cheaper overall.
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