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Old 06-24-2015, 09:56 PM
 
Location: U.S. (East Coast)
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If I thought the place I was in would be detrimental to my kid(s) - not just a bit tough, then yes I would. If the crime rate was too high, drugs, violence, danger, etc.. I'd move in a minute.

Cali is heading for some bad times....
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Old 06-24-2015, 10:05 PM
 
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I have two kids, and I say, absolutely not, under any circumstances.

As a parent, I've decided to stay in the city. Some people have criticized me for this, and argued I should move to a suburban locale "for the sake of my kids." But personally speaking, I grew up in a suburb, hated it, and vowed to never live in one again.

Now, it may be that my kids don't like living in the city. But it may be they wouldn't like living in the suburbs either. I can't predict what they will or won't like. I can only say what I like. Which is why my own preferences in terms of where they live count, and not what I presume my children might like.

That said, if I needed to move due to a job change - and if I thought a move would allow me to materially support my family better - I would consider it, even if it made me less happy. But I wouldn't let "family friendliness" enter into the equation at all.
Pittsburgh is a "family friendly" city, like a lot of cities today. There are kid events and kid focused services galore, so kids aren't missing anything on that front. It's just typically more expensive and crowded in a city, and thus perhaps more crime-filled and stressful. But I agree with you -- after growing up in the suburbs, they have absolutely no appeal for me.
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Old 06-25-2015, 06:49 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh, PA (Morningside)
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Pittsburgh is a "family friendly" city, like a lot of cities today. There are kid events and kid focused services galore, so kids aren't missing anything on that front. It's just typically more expensive and crowded in a city, and thus perhaps more crime-filled and stressful. But I agree with you -- after growing up in the suburbs, they have absolutely no appeal for me.
Yeah. I live in a very safe neighborhood with lots of kids anyway. People just sometimes give me crap because I decided to send my kids to a 60% black magnet school.

Regardless, my point was that as parents we need to make decisions on what we will enjoy, not what we think our kids will enjoy. Especially when they're small and we don't know what their like yet. What if you move to the country to expose them to nature, and they turn out being the kind of kid who likes to stay indoors and read books? Or if you just barely scrape by into buying into a "top school district" and your kid ends up being made fun of for being poor all through school? You can't anticipate what will happen to your kid. You can anticipate what you'll feel though.
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Old 06-25-2015, 09:07 AM
 
Location: In the hot spot!
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I did it and am glad I did. However, there are some regrets in the way I did it.
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Old 06-26-2015, 03:39 PM
 
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Of course. Shoot I'd move to give myself a better life. Nothing worse than living dirty.
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Old 06-27-2015, 03:17 PM
 
Location: West of the Rockies
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Just because Boise is cheaper, slower, and seemingly less chaotic than Sac, does not mean your children will have a better life. Many places in the US get toted as "family-friendly," but children still grow up with many problems. With more remote areas like that, you are kinda gambling as to whether your kids will be accepted into a good group of people, since the culture will be less diverse. I would rather just strive to find a better school in Sacramento, or maybe move to a nearby town that's cheaper.
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